To wonder if anyone else gets irrationally angry about small stuff

[Thatsgoodfun]

So for instance at the park, DS is on the swing and welly came off . Laughed but then he was kicking his legs on purpose so they came off. Told him to stop it, ended up going home with ds crying and me angry and I’m wondering why it annoyed me so much.

Totally depends on my mood to begin with.

If I'm already a bit annoyed about something and then - for instance - I walk into the loo and the toilet roll's not been replaced, I can blow a gasket and go on a bit of a rant.

Other days, having to replace a toilet roll when I'd not used the last one wouldn't even register as a mild inconvenience for me.

Do you get annoyed over little things always, or just on occasion?

Life is far too short to get wound up about small stuff

It depends on how tired I am I think

I used to until I started HRT.

Now I'm back to not sweating the small stuff.

Well, you weren’t really angry about the welly.

Something else is going on and this is where it comes out.

It's usually the small stuff that makes me angry tbh. Big stuff I can usually rationalise.

I never sweat the small stuff. Anger at things like that, feels like a wasted emotion to me.

How old are you OP? I used to be like this and couldn't understand why. Years later I realise it was perimenopause. So wish I had gone to my GP.

Yes!!

I can go all basil faulty on a cupboard door ...

I'm very early 40s but do wonder if it's hormonal

Fairly normal to get very annoyed about small things depending on what else might be going on. Such as sleep deprivation, time of the month (could just be normal period cycles rather than perimenopause which every woman over 40 is completely obsessed about these days!) Could be something else you're worrying about, could be you have a million other things to think about. Could be that toddlers are extremely exhausting, annoying and selfish! It does get a hell of a lot easier!

But, if it's all day every single day with everyone and everything in your life, that's not normal and perhaps you should speak to someone you trust. Take care of yourself

Too much to list! 😆 A few examples...

I hate it when people are walking really close behind me. Gives me the collywobbles and really irritates me! I just stop and let them pass!

There are LOADS of adverts I hate. The stupid fucking 'every answer is BINGO' shite on The Chase is one I loathe at the moment! AND the woman sitting on the loo with her pants around her feet, advertising pissy pants winds me up too!

People hanging around me trying to talk or just gawping at me - when I'm trying to do something ... DH hanging around like a fart in the kitchen when I am cooking (trying to 'chat') is a prime example. And before I worked from home, there was always some fucker who hung around me trying to talk to me when I was BUSY!!!

People who give unsolicited opinions. Especially if they are commenting on what I am eating!

People who park on the road or footpath, WHEN THEY HAVE A DRIVEWAY!!!!!

I could go on for a while. 😆

If I’m feeling rushed or overwhelmed, absolutely.

The shape of perfume bottles these days. Why cant they just be in a normal bottle so you can hold it properly and spray it, I got an Avon Incandessance gift set for Christmas and the bottle is like a big ping pong ball I can just about hold it to spray it but someone who might have a bit of arthritis would struggle. I noticed a Carolina Herrera advert before Christmas (think it was Bad Boy so mens cologne) where the bottle was shaped like a zig zag 😕

Classic sign of depression. I'm the most easy going person but if I'm unhappy then watch out.

Had the most traumatising year of my life last year and it's a miracle I haven't killed anyone.

I’m not choosing to get annoyed though. It’s not rational and I feel bad for DS but equally he pushes my buttons a lot, wetting himself, disobeying very reasonable instructions etc. I have wondered about depression.

No but I work with someone who does and she is a horrible joy sucker and a nightmare

And I’m 43 so perimenopause is possible. Just snarled at both children as they are driving me clucking nuts.

Sure she’s enchanted by you as well.

Take care of the small stuff and the big stuff takes care of itself.

I do wonder about how people cope with the big stuff if they can't, won't, or just don't give a s"""" about the small things.
How can i rely on them for the big stuff if they can't or don't want to deal with the small stuff.

I'm with OP a bit, can you tell!

No actually she hates everyone in the office! 😂

You weren’t annoyed by the welly. You were annoyed that you said to stop doing something and he didn’t. You feel like he is deliberately disobeying you and finding it funny, so you feel disrespected. Could I be right?
Do you feel undervalued at work too perhaps? Or bored and not challenged enough? All this can cause what you’re saying.

Adding to the chorus of menopause.hrt helped immensely.

I used to get irrationally angry and irritated over the smallest things.
With hindsight it was defo the menopause and I’m so glad it’s over
and I’m chilled again 😬

I would have just left the wellies off after a couple of goes. Put them on to go home. He's (probably) not doing it to annoy you but because it's fun to weech a wellie.

I know … I honestly don’t know why it was giving me the absolute rage. Feel so bad now. But this keeps happening. I lose my shit over nothing then feel awful.