to think he could at least have waited till the kids went to bed before leaving me to it?

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I mean, I know he's tired. I know it's the end of term and he's had a tough few weeks.

But ds will be in bed in less than an hour, and asleep shortly after. Could he not have waited till then before disappearing off to bed?

What am I supposed to do with dd2 while I'm settling ds in bed? Does he expect me to leave her on her own watching Emmerdale?

AIBU to expect just a teensy bit of help in the evening. He can be asleep in the chair or on the settee as long as he's in the bloody room with her.

That's all I ask, that he is here with dd2 while I put ds to bed.

Perhaps I'll take her upstairs to our room and suggest she pretends the bed is a "jumpolene"

No need to reply, just fancied a rant.
Rant over.

As you were....

Does he do night shifts?

Dh does. He works from 10pm to 8am but the past week he has been home at 4am as they got finished early.

So he sleeps from 4am to 12.00.

8 hours straight.

I never get 8 hours sleep.....

no, he's a fecking teacher.

I do understand that the last day of term is always going to be a pheeeeeeeeeeew moment, but all I wanted was another hour of his time.

grr

ruby - do the nation's schoolchildren count as "vulnerable types"?

WoS - I could work till 4 in the morning if I got 8 hours straight through!

The lady I mothers helped for used to manage and she had a 3 year old, 5 year old and 4 month old - after bath they would watch a dvd and then after the baby was fed mum would put her to bed whilst children watched the dvd - Or you could put her in her room and let her play for a short while, while you settle ds

IMHO, I would encourage DD to spend time with her daddy, jumping on the bed cuddling and maybe reading with him, while you settle DS......

can I point out that I wouldn't mind if he wasn't in.

If he was working late or whatever... no problem.

Tis the fact that he's just fecked off to bed that bothers me.

Also, they share a room, so I can't settle ds while dd2 is playing in her room - I'd never get him settled.

I don't want advice on how to do it on my own, I can do it on my own, I just want to rant because I shouldn't have to when he's in the house.

grr

Go and wake him up then. Tell him he needs to come downstairs and finish dealing with his children.

Put her on the bed with him.

I don't ask him to do anything else.

I turn a blind eye when he misses the laundry basket, I indulgently let him use every pot and pan in the kitchen when he decides he wants to cook (rarely) and I smile whilst I wash it all up.

I grit my teeth and respond pleasantly when he tells me I'm ironing his shirts wrong and I get up and make him a cup of tea as soon as reasonable.

The only thing I ask is that he helps at bedtime.

grr

And leave the carving knife downstairs.

Am going to take dd2 upstairs and tell her she can play with daddy while I'm settling ds.

yes, leaving the carving knife downstairs is probably a good idea

On the draining board - I just washed it up

And point out that he's got two weeks off work! I'd get up in the morning and disappear off for a couple of hours in a tit-for-tat stylee! YANBU!

exactly.

I won't get two weeks off work.

I will have to work twice as hard as usual so he doesn't get the impression that I sit on mumsnet all day

where is DD now then????

are you teaching her how to play with knives near a sleeping daddy

s'not ds's bedtime yet. They are both still here with me.

They found the talc. They are making pretty patterns on the carpet.

I am keeeeeeping caaaaaaaaalm

caaaaaaaalm

caaaaaaaalm

Squonk...was it chocolatesquonkyeggs by any chance?

I was chocolatesquonkyeggs for a brief time a few days ago... why? did I upset you?