to think he could at least have waited till the kids went to bed before leaving me to it?

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I mean, I know he's tired. I know it's the end of term and he's had a tough few weeks.

But ds will be in bed in less than an hour, and asleep shortly after. Could he not have waited till then before disappearing off to bed?

What am I supposed to do with dd2 while I'm settling ds in bed? Does he expect me to leave her on her own watching Emmerdale?

AIBU to expect just a teensy bit of help in the evening. He can be asleep in the chair or on the settee as long as he's in the bloody room with her.

That's all I ask, that he is here with dd2 while I put ds to bed.

Perhaps I'll take her upstairs to our room and suggest she pretends the bed is a "jumpolene"

No need to reply, just fancied a rant.
Rant over.

As you were....

I think you need to do what my brother's wife has done this weekend - gone away on her own to friend and left him with his two toddlers. My sister and I think it's brilliant she does this and as he's a feminist he can hardly complain and we'd never let him.

(And to be fair my ex husband always did as much or more than I did with all 5 children and he's a teacher.. BUT he is very slim and very fit and may be it's also a health issue with some of these people, the fatter ones who drink a lot just do get tired, they owe it to their families really to be fit. If they're tired the bes thing is to send them out on a jog for an hour and say that will perk you up)

same wowooo- his sign off 'i'll do everything tomorrow'. what, are you suddenly going to grow a pair of lactating tits are you? And you won't have a stinking hangover and be impossible to get out of bed before 10? And then be useless?

I've got one of those. PE Teacher. He came in and went off straight down the pub! But shockingly he's still better than my Dad. But then I didn't marry my dad. I'm going to get tickets to an all day exhibition like the Ideal Home or something and leave him with the boy.

everyone apart from me is now asleep.

With a bit of luck, he'll wake up just as I'm going to bed, I can have the whole bed to myself

DH just home and v pissed off i didn't order him takeaway too! has gone to fish and chip shop. oo back now, must sign off

I can't even watch Gene tonight as I promised we would watch it together tomorrow.
Everything else on TV is boring. I suppose I could sort out his PE kit and do more laundry. He promised yesterday that if I let him sleep in I can have a nap at 2pm which suits me. I can always have a nap around 2-3pm it's my Latin genes.

are you taping it, or have you discovered a repeat that I couldn't manage to find?

Gene Hunt that is...

You're making glad I don't have a man.

Sorry went downstairs to tape Ashes and never came back up. Have eaten two Muller yogurt corners and loads of biscuits. Serves him right to to have a fat wife I wasn't like this before he married me ha ha ha!

ha ha i had pizza then belgian choc haagen daaz- well, i can't turn to drink with the bf!

I'm a teacher, absolutely exhausted with pregnancy and pregnancy worries, but I didn't fall asleep until after my dd was in bed, and if dh would have tried it, and he has at times, he would have had a rude awakening and a glare coming. As far as I'm concerned, until children are in bed, they're both adult's concern unless otherwise has been mutually agreed.

Last night DH said he didn't want to feed DS because he was "tired"
OK, so when I'm tired, does he think I just don't bother feeding him? Changing him? PLaying with him? No, I'm tried but I DO IT ANYWAY!

You have lots of sympathy from me

So what do you do about this? Most women wouldn't tolerate it but others do sometimes for 20 or 30 years. if you tolerate it you're condoning it and allowing it to happen. most of us would dump the child on the sleeping father and go and sleep in the spare room and lock the door. He's wake and have to feed it.

You can catch up with Gene Hunt online on BBC iplayer. (if you can peel yourself away from MN that is!!)

soooooooo.......did he wake with lots of pretty patterns on his face this morning then?????