to think he could at least have waited till the kids went to bed before leaving me to it?

[SquonkForgotHerEasterName]

I mean, I know he's tired. I know it's the end of term and he's had a tough few weeks.

But ds will be in bed in less than an hour, and asleep shortly after. Could he not have waited till then before disappearing off to bed?

What am I supposed to do with dd2 while I'm settling ds in bed? Does he expect me to leave her on her own watching Emmerdale?

AIBU to expect just a teensy bit of help in the evening. He can be asleep in the chair or on the settee as long as he's in the bloody room with her.

That's all I ask, that he is here with dd2 while I put ds to bed.

Perhaps I'll take her upstairs to our room and suggest she pretends the bed is a "jumpolene"

No need to reply, just fancied a rant.
Rant over.

As you were....

well......can they play really LOUDLY then right next to him, and then when he complains, tell him that as it is not anyones bedtime yet that surely they have the right to play like this.......?

I would if this were my DH.....tis unfair I reckon that they think that they are able to do this as they know we will just get on with it!!!

what if you were utterly knackered......would he do this for you and let you go to bed before the kiddies????

if not, then he is unreasonable, and you are justified to treat him in whatever manner you please!

No, I just spotted it on another thread and thought I'd refresh your memory! That's the trouble with changing your name...I've forgotten mine once or twice! {grin}

or even !

I'm always squonk.

Somewhere in there there will be a squonk.

Right, ds wants to go to bed now.

Putting plan A into action.

~Will report back later....

LUCK!

If he's a heavy sleeper, I would give DD a permanent marker and ask her to paint daddy's face! Maybe a tiger or pirate. If not i would draw on him and say you can't watch DD and put DS to bed! So are therefore not responsible for the game she chose to play!

ooh, glad I spotted that one before I take them up.

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experience ruby?

Aw poor Squonk.

My dp's doing the washing up [smug]

Send dd to get something from the bedroom, tell her to be quiet - guaranteed to resemble a baby elephant looking for a percussion instrument.

Squonk...........go and hoover around the bedroom .thats what I do

"oops sorry love, just gotta get my chores done"

ds asleep.

dd2 went to sit with dp, he stirred and said "be quiet" somehow she didn't really want to stay with him so she came downstairs and put Emmerdale on! (we don't even watch it!)

So, it looks like I can indulge in Gene Hunt (or Greg House... still can't decide) on my own, without him mithering me

geez louise is there something in the air? I am furious with dh but won't hijack. Can you put him on morning duty as payback?

no chance of that. He'll be tired

don't worry about hijacking - if you want to rant, feel free.

Go on, you know you want to...

ok, ta squonk
dh has been working very hard lately. He is rarely home for bathtime, like once every 2 weeks. I get our 3 month old to bath/ feed/ in bed at 7. I then go downstairs and get dinner on. He comes home at 8-8.30. I am self employed and have been into the practice twice this week with baby who i look after 100% of the time. I do all the night duty, he does the 10pm feed (whilst whingeing abou it)- i go to bed at 9.30 after expressing. Admittedly he sometimes does the cooking and always does the washing up.
He goes out on friday, drunk, in at 12pm. I don't get to sleep. Baby teething and waking every hour. Start using calpol at night, she starts sleeping through. DH goes out again last night- in early, but a bit pissed. Forgets the calpol and doesn't do up the grobag. DD awake at 5.30.
This afternoon having expressly told me he would be early this evening he rings up, having known i was going into work, racing around picking things up all day and had a bed night's sleep, and told be'i've promised to take my clerks out for a drink, is that ok?' I say not really i/m knackered but you said you'd do it now. I then text him to say don't hurry back i'll get a pizza we can have the fish tomorrow, hoping to shame him, but get a text back, good idea.
He is SO on morning duty tomorrow as he will be pissed and i will have to do the 10pm feed. (i have EBM in the fridge so he can feed her)

thanks i feel better now

Gene Hunt definitely! Tape House!

ooooh - you win.

he's not quite used to having a small child in the house is he? Is this your first?

Hang on. Your dh is a teacher and he has gone to bed at 6pm? Tell him to get down to m&s for ready meals all round.

Helena - no means to tape anything!

Because....

guess....

dp hasn't fixed the fecking dvd recorder!!!!!

no, in that case i think you win, squonk!
yes, it is our first

having to choose between House and Hunt...

aarrggh!!

dd2 wants to go to bed. Back later

My teacher dh is knackered but has decided to get lashed tonight when we have massively busy day tomorrow. All the stuff he's promised to do - forget it. Am going to set alarm slightly early, wake the kids and be in special cheery a la Justin ceebeebies mode just to annoy him. My dh goes off to bed at random times on weekends sometimes. Pisses me off soooo much.