To not want a tongue in my mouth at random times throughout the day

[Nena1989x]

DP's, to be precise.

For example: If he's nipping out somewhere he gives me a kiss before he goes. I'm not talking about a peck on the lips as you'd expect when saying bye, a full on snog.. tongue and all.

I'm no prude, but It can be annoying if I'm eating/drinking at the time, about to or otherwise distracted. It's one thing when you're cuddled up in bed or whatever, but at random moments throughout the day such as when i'm trying to do something.. it's a bit much.

Would you be happy with this or does it feel a bit out of touch?

I thought you had a dog. Mine has very few boundaries and will go in for the full Frenching experience if he can get close enough to your face. I don't enjoy it when he does it and wouldn't enjoy it from my DP either (and I like "making out" but there is a time and a place for it!)

Yep i "lock him out" every time. He still tries to "get in" until I make it clear I don't want to be kissed any more by pulling away 😵‍💫

He's quite insecure in himself so I tend to put off raising things that are likely to result in him feeling embarrassed or ashamed, and I'm pretty sure this will be one of them.

My DH has spells like this. Some days - a few times a day, when I get up to go for a pee, he gets up, reaches his arms out like a toddler and goes 'wah wah. kiss!

Wow, how do you keep your hands off him, that's stunningly attractive.

No need to roll your eyes at me. Yeah I like it when my husband randomly kisses me like that. Not under absolutely every circumstance but he's not stupid enough to do it during a mouthful of food or an online work meeting. OP is suggesting it should only happen in bed. I'm saying I like it at other times. Clearly OP's partner does too. It's not 'wrong' - they are just different.

@KreedKafer I think that if my DP behaved like this my fanny would snap shut like a bulldog clip and then seal itself closed forever, never to be prised open again.

😂😂😂That's hilarious!

Oh god @EbonyRaven how do you keep your cool?? I honestly would rage and think it would put me off him
I don't think you're being direct enough

Can relate to having a dp that sulks when he doesn't get his way, I think sulking is a man thing

My two year old son has the most dramatic sulk I've ever seen, he definitely gets it from his dad.

Oh jeez. You’ll have to embarrass him so he can stop. He doesn’t mind making you uncomfortable, so why should you be so mindful of his feelings 🙄.

You can’t continue to be subjected to this nonsense.

No just kiss on the lips or quick hug.

Well as I said, he doesn't do it all the time, but he does do it SOME days, (maybe 1-2 times a month, sometimes less.) And like I said, I have started to call him out and say 'I AM LEAVING THE ROOM, you will WAIT' - when he says 'come look at this' as I am leaving! And have also shoved him away when he tries to grab me/grope me for a snog when I am going for a piss!

I knew the eww what a revolting toddler leave the bastard horrible man type comments would surface! 😆Totally ignoring the fact I said it's only some days, and I am dealing with it.

There is no coercive control. I am telling him to fuck off whenever he does it. Consequently he is doing it less. Still fucking annoying though. And I know I am not the only woman who has this shit from her man. Some women have a LOT worse. Also, as you said, many men are sulky arseholes sometimes when they aren't getting their own way.

But at least some posters here have perfect partners eh? 😆 Good for them!

But at least some posters here have perfect partners eh?

There's a whole universe of difference between perfect and a grown man saying 'wah, wah kiss' when you're leaving the room. It's so infantile that I'd cringe myself inside out and never be able to look at him again.

@EbonyRaven ofc posters thinks it’s revolting and he’s acting like a toddler - but hey if playing mummy to a full grown man is your cup of tea that’s your choice. Some days of having to act like a mummy to an adult man is still disturbing to the rest of us.

Yuck. I’m with you on this op, hideous behaviour.

DH can get like this sometimes and it really pisses me off,
especially when I’m on my way out or rushing to get stuff done. I remind him I’m an actual person and not a bloody blow up doll.

Revolting. I would be tempted to bite his tongue off.

No @EbonyRaven please don't assume my dp is perfect at all he is far from it. Just this morning I was complaining on a thread about husbands not using the toilet brush or cleaning behind themselves so it's definitely not a mine vs yours thing here. They're all crap in their own ways
I bet you 10p mine would do things that would infuriate you make you ask me how I can stand it (answer being he works away a more than half the year so I don't have to put up with it much)

You've won MN for today! Laughed out loud like a loon.

He's quite insecure in himself

Doesn't sound insecure. Sounds weird and controlling with no boundaries.

Do you know how much of a red flag it is that you’ve avoided telling him to stop because he might get upset? Instead you tolerate him shoving his tongue into your mouth any time he feels like.

I think this is probably the tip of the iceberg. Because there’s no way a man who forcefully tongues you is respectful of your body.

Does he do this in front of children? Or guests?

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Could you serve him ox tongue every eve until he gets the message?

Well as someone whose partner has only french kissed me during sex for the past 10 years - and never at any other time - plus he was never very keen before that, I say enjoy his passion! At least you have someone who clearly fancies you!

Last time he did it, I said 'for fuck's sake I need a PISS! I am getting up to have a PISS, not to hug and kiss you!' Cue a 4 hour long sulk because I rebuffed him

I couldn’t tolerate this coercive shit. Revolting.

This post has made my whole week, and it’s only Monday!

Chop his 👅.

Tongue in your mouth does not equal fancying. It's actually quite violating if you don't want it. You like it and would like it more, great, go after it more. But you wouldn't enjoy it if you didn't want it just then.

Did he do this before you married him? Because if so I don't know how you didn't walk out of the relationship rather than be saddled with an overgrown toddler forever.

And no, WE are not here to train them. They are fully grown humans who can control their own behaviour. It is not down to a wife to change it.