Husband doesn’t use toilet Brush

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Without being nagged

I’ve wondered if he could be on the spectrum
doesnt remember to pick up his clothes after a bath either
or remove hairs from the sink after shaving moustache

I myself have Aspergers but it’s been 9 years off and on reminding

Your DP sounds like a lazy, selfish wanker.

When me and DP very first moved in together, he left skidders in the toilet on the second or third day we were in our flat.

I asked him to please come and look at something in the bathroom with me. He came. I lifted up the loo seat and pointed out the mess.

I asked him whether he thought so little of me that he thought it was my job to clean up his shit after him. I asked him why he thought he was too good to clean up shit, but I wasn't.

He was quite shocked and got quite defensive. Basically his mum had just always done all the cleaning up and he'd never bothered to pay any attention to any disgusting mess he'd left behind before. I reminded him that a) I'm not his mother and b) that's no justification because he's a grown man who should be able to take responsibility for himself and his body.

He's never done it since.

We don't have a loo brush - a bit of tissue bunched up between your fingers works fine. You wash them anyway so what's the harm

My husband doesn't because his mum did it for him and he doesn't get it. We're getting divorced.

I've sent him photos before and said what do you think the kids friends will think about this?

Revolting. I'd walk out of a public toilet over less. He also pisses on the seat.

As I said, getting divorced.

Ultimately I blame his mum.

He's just a lazy, grim bastard. Don't insult people on the spectrum.

"Fucksake Dave, will you open the window and give the loo a good scrub after you've done a shit... it's disgusting"

That should do it, no?

Yeah, he's just a slob.

Using bleach is awful for the environment though. I'm team toilet brush!

Your other threads are shocking. This is an arranged marriage and you went to the police about the man in December but sadly retracted it. If you don’t want better for yourself, at least do better for your kids.
You’re focussing on petty nonsense, don’t.
Go back to the police.

I hear your pain OP. Mine is the same but leaves it to the point it dries to the toilet bowl. I ask why he doesn't immediately look/check after flushing.

I've never understood why mumsnetters - queens of cleaning - can't figure out how to clean a loo brush.

Its really easy

Anyway, sounds like this is the least of your problems

He uses this Turkish hose thing to clean himself and that probably splashes poo everywhere it’s like all over toilet bowl gross

Leave him then.

I loathe toilet brushes and if I found one in the loo I’d throw it out. My DH says they are good, but does he use one effectively, just no. So they will never reside in a home I live in.

Baking soda and vinegar is better than bleach

As well as sitting ‘in a little pool of shit soup’(!), the bristles also flick microscopic (but still horrid) bits of poo everywhere. I use a tightly twisted wad of paper to clean above the water line, flush (lid shut, of course) then put 2/3 squirts of Flash (with bleach) in the water. Just leave it and, as if by magic, all traces of poo disappear without any brushing.

Clearly no one else uses the silicone ones apart from me that don't collect any "material" at all.

Your husband is disgusting OP.
He expects you to do it for him like a good little support human.

I kid you not I would divorce a man over that. It's gross.

I told him this dirty toilet nonsense better not happen again and he said “is that a threat”

because I asked him to clean my en-suite toilet seat /floor last week whilst I’m recovering from stitches he says I shouldn’t judge what he’s doing in his toilet

Poor planet.
But rather hypocritically I use £1 ikea loo brushes. Replace a couple of times a year, squirt of bleach in them weekly.

Life is pretty good as a single woman and definitely so much better than that. I promise.

Toilet duck Fresh brush they are made from toilet paper they clean the Loo then you release the pad and flush left with a clean handle in a little holder

Yeah I use the silicon one and disinfect it with bleach and Dettol after each use! I used to use a disposable one with refills but didn’t find those robust enough to clean thoroughly.

As an Neurodiverse person, I’m really sick of all selfish, lazy or stupid behaviour being attributed to being on the spectrum nowadays. This is why IRL I now don’t tell people as the ‘newer’ diagnosed (often self diagnosed) are usually the worst and display the worst of human behaviours that’s ’not their fault’.

Not using a toilet brush or generally cleaning the toilet after you is just selfish grim behaviour that shows a lack of manners or empathy for the people you share a house with.

As well as sitting ‘in a little pool of shit soup’(!), the bristles also flick microscopic (but still horrid) bits of poo everywhere.

I, for one, cannot get worked up about things that I cant see and are having no discernible impact on anything. But you do you.

This.

DP and I lived together for roughly 2yrs when he questioned why we don’t have a toilet brush. For the record we have one of the toilet duck brushes with disposable heads, it lives in the bathroom cupboard and is used regularly by myself. Not for my poop, it’s most definitely his shit stains that I’m scrubbing off most days.

Is it a recognised thing that men just can’t position themselves correctly on the seat to just not hit the sides? Does anyone on here have a bowl cleaning Beau?!?

@Greentomatic "shit soup"! Thanks for making me laugh

Thanks, I will!