Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

New manager want me in the office. I wfh-help!

539 replies

Stressedgiraffe · 29/01/2024 13:30

We've changed management structure so my new manager wants me in the office. Ideally once a week but might settle for every month.
I've been there over 2 years. I wfh permanently but my contract says HQ.
I live 5 hours away always have done. They knew where I lived when I started. I go into the office about every 3/4 months for a few days .
Could I push for a change in location in my contract or do you think I'm screwed?

OP posts:
Thread gallery
6
Theatrefan12 · 29/01/2024 14:59

Our company is happy to move people’s contracts to WFH if that is what they prefer post covid.

However their pay will reflect that. No more London allowances if living in a place that is further than a standard commute

Cant have cake and eat it. Not saying that’s what happening here but an example of someone in our office who kicked off at her pay being renegotiated when she moved to a wfh contract, as she is now living in the Lake District

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 29/01/2024 15:01

I am seconding pps: Once a month does seem fairly generous.

Could you negotiate for a change to your contract specifying that it actually is just one a month?
I´d try to find a compromise and get it in writing. I´d be a bit worried about new manager deciding that one a month actually wouldn´t be enough and insisting on more (e.g., one once a week suddenly being considered the minimum).

OrangeMarmaladeOnToast · 29/01/2024 15:01

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 29/01/2024 14:59

I think a lot of people will be in your situation, e.g. with a bitch of a commute.

From pp's here too, long commutes where they signed up to WFH before, means they'll have to look for another job.

So, ultimately, does this mean employers lose out on good workers simply because they want hybrid/wfh model? Or not.

Well, that's the $64,000 question. There are employers who are in demand enough to set their own terms, of course. But for those who can't, there seems to be a lot of variation in how realistic they are. Some are very aware of what they offer in relation to the competition, others need to learn the hard way.

horseyhorsey17 · 29/01/2024 15:03

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 29/01/2024 14:37

I'm an EA (ex legal sec) who has WFH/hybrid since Covid. Worked for a couple of private companies and now government (all temp, all contracts) who mostly were/are fine with hybrid. I now really want a hybrid role - just because at my age (52), commuting takes its toll, plus it's more expensive, I do have health conditions too.

My 2 best friends, one has been recovering from a stroke for the past 5 years, she's also a carer for her DM who she lives with. She mostly WFH but goes into the office when she has to, she's also worked weekends (not in her contract) and early mornings/evenings), other one WFH a lot but goes into the office when she has to but has to do payroll which means confidentiality so WFH.

I'm similar to you though, I need/want full concentration. When I'm in the office a lot of younger people love the water cooler culture and chat/joke a lot. I've been there/done that, done the socialising after work, it's just not relevant to me now. I get more work done from home than in an office. The last global place where I worked, they had 2 days in the office, 3 at home, but were trying the 'free fruit/snacks/expensive coffee machine/office days out/sports days' presumably to tempt people back in.

God, same. I couldn't work in an office now - I have ADHD anyway and that combined with menopause means I need peace and quiet to be able to work. People with honking laughs or who want the radio on when they work would probably drive me to murder, and I wouldn't even be sorry. I couldn't be productive in an office environment, other than for the occasional brainstorming session. I do think the office has some value for younger people - apart from anything else, it's good for socialising - but for most of us who've been at the coal face for a couple of decades, and are in knowledge working jobs, it's just not necessary. If I had to commute into work again, I'd quit. There are still plenty of fully remote jobs available in my field.

ThreeRingCircus · 29/01/2024 15:04

Hi OP, I work in HR.

Often we don't want to issue home worker contracts as it has other implications e.g. for our corporate insurance costs as we then have multiple working locations, for DSE assessment reasons and also as we do not want to be covering the hotel/transport costs of employees travelling into the office every so often for meetings.

Do you have any emails from when you accepted the job discussing the fact that you'll be WFH and in the office every few months? If the contract says you're office based this must have been a discussion at the time and having the evidence of that would help your case.

Ultimately if your contract says HQ then yes, they could ask for you to be in the office more frequently. But if you can show the email/written evidence of your previous discussion this may help you negotiate, especially if you're a good worker and they don't want the hassle of you leaving.

DataBatman · 29/01/2024 15:05

My OH now works hybrid, nobody's contract has been updated to reflect this which means that in reality they move the goalposts every 6 months or so.

I wonder what would happen if all the employees insisted en masse to go in 5 days a week when there's not the office space to allow for it anymore and one day of the week is completely closed because that's what it states on their contracts.

From my point of view I'm currently job searching and very few companies are willing to put in writing in a job advert what they actually consider hybrid working to be.

horseyhorsey17 · 29/01/2024 15:06

Theatrefan12 · 29/01/2024 14:59

Our company is happy to move people’s contracts to WFH if that is what they prefer post covid.

However their pay will reflect that. No more London allowances if living in a place that is further than a standard commute

Cant have cake and eat it. Not saying that’s what happening here but an example of someone in our office who kicked off at her pay being renegotiated when she moved to a wfh contract, as she is now living in the Lake District

I never understand why people sound so gleeful at stuff like this. Why should working from home be seen as a perk? It doesn't mean you're less productive. Paying for the commute isn't something you should just have to 'suck up' unless you have to. And if a company is looking at ways of paying its staff less, you can guarantee it'll be looking at ways of paying YOU less.

NeedToChangeName · 29/01/2024 15:06

OrangeMarmaladeOnToast · 29/01/2024 13:58

Are you in a union, or does your home insurance cover any legal costs? You need advice from an employment solicitor as to whether there's been an implied change in terms and conditions through custom and practice, before you do anything else.

Good advice to check if you have legal expenses insurance. It's a common add on to household insurance

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 29/01/2024 15:08

horseyhorsey17 · 29/01/2024 15:03

God, same. I couldn't work in an office now - I have ADHD anyway and that combined with menopause means I need peace and quiet to be able to work. People with honking laughs or who want the radio on when they work would probably drive me to murder, and I wouldn't even be sorry. I couldn't be productive in an office environment, other than for the occasional brainstorming session. I do think the office has some value for younger people - apart from anything else, it's good for socialising - but for most of us who've been at the coal face for a couple of decades, and are in knowledge working jobs, it's just not necessary. If I had to commute into work again, I'd quit. There are still plenty of fully remote jobs available in my field.

I'm fairly lucky in that there's a lot of government contract work around. I don't mind 2 days in the office but certainly not 5.

Maybe menopause isn't helping me. You do get the 'more mature' person stance too of 'I can't be doing with this'. In one office, I had a woke younger colleague who was vegan preach to me about veganism, he was also gay so again preaching on this, and being woke in general. His colleague wrongly accused me not long after starting of 'being a Daily Mail reader' (I'm not!) - probably because I'm blonde, white and of a certain age, I'd said nothing at all to that effect! I said I'd report him for bullying (there was something else) if he carried on with that. Luckily we eventually got on, but why should I have to be subjected to that?! At least at home you can deal with people from afar.

GintyMcGinty · 29/01/2024 15:09

They need to consult you in this change.

Even though your contract says HQ as you've been wfh for 2 years they have accepted this and need to consult you in changing it.

Call ACAS for advice on how best to handle this.

I'd suggest you be willing to settle for once a month plus they pay your travel expenses.

Littlegoth · 29/01/2024 15:09

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 29/01/2024 14:59

I think a lot of people will be in your situation, e.g. with a bitch of a commute.

From pp's here too, long commutes where they signed up to WFH before, means they'll have to look for another job.

So, ultimately, does this mean employers lose out on good workers simply because they want hybrid/wfh model? Or not.

We have lost out on good employees because we only offer hybrid. We have lost staff and we have had employment offers rejected. However, we are public sector (which is why we don’t offer wfh contracts as standard) and tend to attract recruits from public sector - most of which are mandating 2 days per week office based (we ask for 1). It’s interesting for me to watch this space right now as future ways of working are so uncertain. My last organisation have embraced wfh and sold off all their offices. Contacts I have in other organisations (private sector) are reporting a trend towards hybrid and getting ‘bums back on seats’, especially this year so far.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 29/01/2024 15:09

horseyhorsey17 · 29/01/2024 15:06

I never understand why people sound so gleeful at stuff like this. Why should working from home be seen as a perk? It doesn't mean you're less productive. Paying for the commute isn't something you should just have to 'suck up' unless you have to. And if a company is looking at ways of paying its staff less, you can guarantee it'll be looking at ways of paying YOU less.

Follow Molly Johnson-Jones, Flexa on Linked In, she's an advocate for hybrid/wfh work, has her own company promoting this.

WFH is a perk in some degrees as you don't have to commute, but I am far more productive at home than I am at work.

supernova12 · 29/01/2024 15:09

Do they pay for a hotel

Newgirls · 29/01/2024 15:12

You can get decent travelogue rooms for £80 a night or less and if you book ahead a train isnt too bad. Once a month seems fine to me especially if you meet a friend. I’d do it once or twice to shut them up and then maybe let it slip a bit afterwards

Stressedgiraffe · 29/01/2024 15:12

Just been reading through the responses.
I'll try and find any emails stating it was wfh with a few 2/3 times a year in the office. Everyone who wfh in the uk has the company hq as their office location. Its a global ftse100 company so many many remote workers.
I applied as it was a remote position. My fault for not checking contract. I'll dig it out and see if it says anything.
I've always had my expenses paid for travelling to and from work.
I don't drive so reliant on trains, not allowed to drive medically.

OP posts:
horseyhorsey17 · 29/01/2024 15:13

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 29/01/2024 15:09

Follow Molly Johnson-Jones, Flexa on Linked In, she's an advocate for hybrid/wfh work, has her own company promoting this.

WFH is a perk in some degrees as you don't have to commute, but I am far more productive at home than I am at work.

I already do!

I don't see WFH as a perk - my company stands to make a load of money selling off their former office building as everyone is remote now. It's an interesting culture as there definitely are some slackers (and they're really bloody annoying) but they get carried by people (like me!) who work twice as hard to fill in the gaps. Remote working is certainly not without its challenges and we're not there in terms of defining what it looks like and how it should work - but the bums on seats days are definitely over. I really can't see the UK ever properly going back to that. The issue is really the companies that bought or leased big expensive HQs on long leases just before lockdown and now want something to show for that investment.

ohmygolli · 29/01/2024 15:15

ChedderGorgeous · 29/01/2024 13:35

UABU. If your contract says you don't wfh then they could ask you in every day and you couldn't say no. They have agreed to you coming in 1x a month- sounds ideal. I would snap up their offer.

Edited

Agree with this.

Patrickiscrazy · 29/01/2024 15:15

Tough.....

Hoolahooploop · 29/01/2024 15:16

I think once a month or once every two months sounds accommodating on their part

TorroFerney · 29/01/2024 15:16

Lavender14 · 29/01/2024 14:01

I can understand a new manager wanting to get to grips with her team, build relationships and see how people are doing etc and I can also see that being a harder task if everyone is wfh. But that being said, I don't think it's impossible. I'd ask for a meeting with her, explain your circumstances and ask if there's anything she's concerned about regarding your performance or if this is about building relationships etc in which case I'd suggest scheduling regular meetings online where you can update her on your work and she can address any concerns or queries she might have? Failing that, I'd request either a bonus or expenses paid to cover your travel, food and accommodation for the days you're going to have to be in the office. Work out the costs in advance so you know if a bonus will cover this or not.

In the meantime I'd join a union and send them a copy of your contract so they can advise and represent you if it comes to that.

Ultimately I think if you join a workplace knowing you're contractually obliged to be in the office physically and you live too far away to commute, then you've left yourself in a tricky position. I think you need to renegotiate your contract but I'd want union representation for that.

Agree with having a conversation but please don’t ask for a bonus in order to get to your contracted place of work. That will really not go down well.

supernova12 · 29/01/2024 15:16

Stressedgiraffe · 29/01/2024 15:12

Just been reading through the responses.
I'll try and find any emails stating it was wfh with a few 2/3 times a year in the office. Everyone who wfh in the uk has the company hq as their office location. Its a global ftse100 company so many many remote workers.
I applied as it was a remote position. My fault for not checking contract. I'll dig it out and see if it says anything.
I've always had my expenses paid for travelling to and from work.
I don't drive so reliant on trains, not allowed to drive medically.

So you are disabled?

There you go - reasonable adjustamebt which sounds like they've done.

Case closed

WhatNoUsername · 29/01/2024 15:17

Channellingsophistication · 29/01/2024 14:18

@WhatNoUsername but it’s not the employers problem that the OP lives 5 hours away ? Everyone must surely expect to have to go into the office sometimes even if it’s a long way away… That’s the choice you make when you take the job isnt it?

The OP lived there when she was offered the job. Which she accepted because it was WFH. Of course an employer should factor that in.

TorroFerney · 29/01/2024 15:18

OrangeMarmaladeOnToast · 29/01/2024 14:06

After WFH for 2.5yrs I was asked to go back into the office on a hybrid pattern but having seen that the grass was greener, I early retired instead.

Heh.

But this is a cautionary tale for organisations, really. You can stop an employee from working remotely/hybrid. That doesn't mean you'll have an employee who's willing to do the office hours you want.

I think it's vital that OP gets advice from an employment solicitor, but also part of the equation here is essentially how much power she has. If she'd be hard to replace at the salary she's at, she potentially has more leeway than she would in a sector where there's lots of competition for jobs.

Agree with this, every one is replaceable but some are harder to replace than others and you don’t want the hassle.

supernova12 · 29/01/2024 15:18

How are people measuring that they are more "productive" at home? Unless it's piece work it's hard to tell.

C8H10N4O2 · 29/01/2024 15:19

Stressedgiraffe · 29/01/2024 15:12

Just been reading through the responses.
I'll try and find any emails stating it was wfh with a few 2/3 times a year in the office. Everyone who wfh in the uk has the company hq as their office location. Its a global ftse100 company so many many remote workers.
I applied as it was a remote position. My fault for not checking contract. I'll dig it out and see if it says anything.
I've always had my expenses paid for travelling to and from work.
I don't drive so reliant on trains, not allowed to drive medically.

Check to see if you have the original job description with "remote" in it along with the discussions. If you were recruited as a remote working and managing a distributed team, but head office was put down to save company costs (less insurance, checks and office space) then you have a stronger case than if you were recruited for office based and it was made clear that wfh was temporary.

How well placed are you to change jobs if it comes to it? Ideally you should be able to negotiate a compromise but keep the new job option open.

IME the current fad for "back to the office" is more from the upper middle layers of management rather than the top. Where companies are struggling a bit in the current economy the cry goes out that "something must be done" and back in the office is "something". If they don't have a constructive reason for wanting people physically co located its likely to be presenteeism as an alternative to addressing deeper business problems.

There are good cases for WFH, in the office and hybrid but if the management cannot articulate those reasons and show the metrics to prove them then its either poor management or a business poorly led.