To want my own duvet?

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Have no issue sharing a bed with DH (despite the snoring)
But
Hate sharing the duvet... wake up too cold or too hot

Does anyone else share a bed but not a duvet?

I think about going this constantly but have never done it. First gift to myself with Feb payslip!

Forget sharing a bed. After 40 years married we sleep in separate rooms now. It's effing marvellous!

My Finnish friend swears by this but it also takes them ages to change all the duvets 🤣

What's the protocol for making the bed? How should it look? I've been to Sweden and remember the separate duvets but can't remember how it looked when the beds were made!

I used to with an ex. He was a duvet hogger and would roll up into it leaving me with none.

the ex hated it and thought it was a rejection because I’d been grumpy and irritable for a while.

lack of sleep made me irritable and grumpy. but he wouldn’t have it and threw the second duvet away.

needles to say we split up.

sleep is important and get a second one!

Yes! I get hot and like a nice thin one

This!

Yep and it was the best thing ever! No tugging or disturbing one another. Main reason was temperature differences.. i always feel warm so has a lower tog duvet and husband is always cold so has a higher tog duvet but it has these additional perks aswel. Best thing ever!

Yes because I am so incredibly antisocial. I actually roll myself in it like I want to post myself on Vinted. Separate duvets has been a game changer.

Two duvets is standard in most Nordic countries.

I’m all for it.

Absolutely! We’ve always had our own duvets. Just makes sense!

We have a lightweight summer duvet all year round as DH is a "hot" sleeper, I add a heavy/ lightweight fleece on my side and chuck it off as necessary (menopausal!)
I prefer it to separate duvets as we're still "together" in bed (I know we still would be with separate duvets but it would feel weird!). I add/ remove the fleeces depending on night sweats 😞

My experience of German hotels is that they fold the duvets into 3 and just put the duvets alongside each other.

I like it. It's a good compromise.

2 singles then a king size duvet here, we sleep better.

DP & I have had separate duvets for years now. He likes light togged ones (3.5 or so) and I like heavier ones for the winter (currently 13 tog).

The bed does look a bit untidy, however I sleep soooo much better with a warmer duvet.

Absolutely.

Superking Bed, double duvet each

Bliss.

Extra king size bed and double duvet each. It’s much easier. We have different body temperatures and I tend to roll into duvet tightly so DH’s demanded his own after years of suffering.
I’m not good at sharing.

We switched to separate duvets years ago.

dh is under his big thick down comforter. I have my open weave, cooling weighted blanket. No cover stealing and no compromises on comfort.

we have a coverlet we pull over the whole thing when we make the bed so it looks tidy.

Not when we lived in the UK. But when we moved to Sweden (DH is Swedish) we got separate quilts. Can't think why we didn't do it before. Total game changer

Thanks all. Will treat myself!

Do you need new bedding? If you just get another duvet the same size as your existing bedding you won't have a problem.

Yes we do. Super king bed. Double duvet each. Amazing.

We e recently switched to this and I can't believe how much better I sleep.

We have separate duvets I like natural fillings my DH likes his layer of horrid hollow fiber it’s bliss and everyone is happy

We do. We just bought super king mattress and sleeping under the same duvet meant that we can no longer use the entire bed space which was pointless. We get much better sleep under separate duvets. The only downside is missing out on cuddles.