Division of labour; husband working while I’m on maternity leave

[Rorous]

Our 8mo son woke up at 5:45 this morning, so we all got up at 6 and are all a bit tired and out of normal “routine” … to add to this our son is in a real grumpy mood today (I think teething!)

While I looked after our son my husband took a lovely long shower and got himself ready for work at a relaxed pace. I’ve just put our son down for a nap and come out to find my husband has decided to start work early. AIBU to think it would’ve been nice had he made the bed, helped clear up breakfast and put away some toys so that I could at least take a shower and get ready for my hell-ish day? I am so conflicted because I’m on maternity leave but it’s not like he will finish work any earlier.

Yes, I thought everyone aired their bed

mine would probably say if he lived alone he’d be happier and more relaxed to do the tasks when he feels like it
whilst living with me he hates being nagged

yet there the bins are …overflowing

the laundry he took to tumble dryer …next day he doesn’t remember to bring them out

But does he help WITHOUT being nagged

mine only does things when asked -I’m fed up of it

I wrote chores on the fridge as a reminder but he doesn’t look at it

Is he started at 8am, why would you hand him the baby at 2am?! Surely you nap and rest a bit during the day?!

Not if you have a baby who doesn’t sleep in the day 🤣 but quite likes to sleep from 2/3 am for 9 hrs…… our schedule is properly skewed 🥱