Holiday

[adonk]

So my boyfriend has asked me how I would feel, if he went on holiday with his ex and their child… so they could both be there for the child’s first holiday. Am I wrong to think absolutely not! Or am I overreacting? Anyone been in this situation?

It may not be the norm but why shouldn't parents still be able to do things together as a family, even if they're separated?

How old is the child?
How long are they broke up?
What are the sleeping arrangements?

How old is the child? Does the mum have a partner too.

Think it depends on a lot of things.

Where is everyone sleeping? Does the mum have a partner?

If I knew there was no chance of anything happening surely it would be nice for the kid.

This is about their child though, so it needs more thought than that.

Drinks, sun, sea....sex

call me old fashioned but it's a no from me

Why are people asking how old the child is when it's in the OP?

Where?

Personally I would really struggle with this and would have to ask that either I went too and parents took turns spending the day with the child / met up occasionally during the day… or please don’t go.

Depends on so many things though. How long have they been together? Do you get on with the ex or even know her?

You sure hun?

I wouldn’t be keen. Could you all go?

Yea, Im pretty relaxed about maintaining strong relationships with ex's and male/female friendhips etc etc but this would be a firm 'No' from me.

The child could be 6 months or 16 years , it just says their first holiday

His child is 6, we’ve been together for 2 years, we’ve taken little one on holidays in the UK but his mum wants to take him abroad with my partner. No his mum doesn’t have a partner

I can’t tell you where anyone’s sleeping as nothing has been arranged as far as i’m aware but my partner has asked how I feel about it

I can 100% understand why that's something they'd want to share - it's a huge deal! Unfortunately if they're separated and seeing other people, that's the sort of thing they can't really do, they've made decisions to separate and that means they probably won't get to share a lot of their child's firsts anymore.

Given your update you could all go.

Don’t see why you can’t go along and you both have your room and dad gets to experience little ones first time abroad? If not untoward she should be fine with that?

It would be a no from me

Nope. Absolutely not.

Why on earth does he need to be present? You can go on your own holidays.

Do they have a particularly close friendship? I guess they must. The last thing me or DP would choose to do is spend our annual leave on holiday with our exes.

I suggest you all go.

That'd be a no from me...

It would be a no from me too.

I don’t know her that much just from what he’s said about her, they talk, I’ve never spoke to her directly, there’s a bit of tension because she posts passive aggressive quotes etc on social media about me

I would be fine going but I don’t think she would want me there

So does he endorse her passive aggressive behaviour by not addressing it?

Why does he want to go?

I don't think you going too is a solution. How awkward. There's no reason for him to be there. It's a holiday not his graduation.