AIBU to ask, what's making you angry today?

[LovingLivingLife]

I have got this constant background level of anger at the moment. Unfortunately I can't quite work out what's causing it. But it's making me into a grumpy and reactive parent that I just don't want to be.

For background, kids are mostly lovely (if somewhat hard work), DH is not completely useless and finances aren't a nightmare just now.

What's making you angry at the moment? Perhaps I can get to the bottom of it myself and stop being such a cranky arse!

I am frustrated that I only have snatches of time for myself which I need to boundary very strongly.

When I do have time for myself, it gets interrupted by someone being unthinking.

I feel put upon as the organiser, supplier and fixer of things - DH can't do things now, so it falls to me, when things are harder to organise he assumes I'm making life harder for myself - this builds to a white hot rage.

I want to focus on myself for a bit, which I thought I would have - but I don't.

I feel grumpy that I will soon pick up my DD from school and she will be incandescent with tiredness and after-school hunger and I will have to whiz together a quick tea whilst thinking on my feet like an episode of Ready, Steady, Cook. And I don't feel like cooking after being at work all day, and any of the things that sounds tasty to me she will likely not eat.

I know none of this is her fault and I will not be angry with her outwardly, and I'll sort my head out on the walk to school. Onwards.

What helps, for some reason I find, is drinking a pint of water before I go and pick her up. Gives me a second wind for the afternoon shift.

I'm fucking sick of the fucking shool trying to make it 'my fault' that my daughter is struggling. She's struggling because she's Autistic. She has a diagnosis. She also struggles with Anxiety and speech. She has a Speech and Language Therapist. Still I get "but is it not because she has to go to medical appointments that's she's unhappy?" No, she's unhappy because you lot are fucking useless and arent listening to her!!

I spent the weekend bloodcurdlingly furious with my other half for the fact he can't do anything without a low-level fuss - so he goes into the kotchen to make lunch while I manage the kids, and he's huffing and puffing and effing and kvetching under or over his breath about this or that, intermittent "fuck"s - and when i can't stand it any more and ask what's the matter/can i help he says "nothing!!' on a huffy voice and acts like I'm weird to have asked.

IT DRIVES ME FUCKING MAD.

And it's everything. I come into th kitchen to take over lunch, he goes into the playroom and shrieks "OH MY GOD, the state of this room!" - yes, it was messy, but that's because a 2 year old and a 6 year old are fucking playing in it, we always tidy up at the end of the day and whizz round semi-tidying several times a day to keep it sane. So why the fucking histrionics??

I am emotionally reactive, I know. I pick up on moods and hearing angry noises makes me cringe and tense internally (childhood). I am more aware of this now and try to moderate my reaction to it. But just this weekend, probably because I've got PMT, I literally couldn't fucking STAND to be in the house with him any more and took the kids out for 4 hours on Sunday (in the beginnings of storm Isha) just to get the fuck away from him before I twatted him one.

Also he is anal about scheduling the laundry and told me I couldn't wash the bed linen yet because we are having guests at the weekend so will need to change if then. I AM 39 FUCKING YEARS OLD. YOU'RE NOT MY DAD. WHY DO YOU GET TO TELL ME WHEN I CAN WASH MY OWN FUCKING BEDCLOTHES???? AAAAAAAAARGH!

Ahem. Thank you I feel better now.

The fact that Amazon is now on my list of “shit and incompetent delivery drivers no are nicking my packages”. Absolutely fed up of it. It’s not really the point that I get refunded I want my thing delivered in the first place!

Yes, I'm having a highly annoying day today. Post office only had large envelopes to buy so I had to also buy oversize stamp when I was only sending 2 pieces of paper.

I spilt my costa down my clean jeans

I spent 2 hours making what should have been quite a simple chart in excel/powerpoint and although i've learnt a lot, it's still not a great representation of the data I'm trying to show

I feel a bit faint/rough today and not sure why. I have had an iron supplement and enough food.

Have a large metal pergola in the garden that has been battered out of shape by the wind. I know I’ll have fight on my hands to get my chaps to dismantle it when they’ve finished work. It’s leaning dangerously and setting me on edge. Can’t relax

Also to be helpful, whenever I'm feeling irrationally furious I always check where I am in my cycle. If you're like me, it will probably be in the second half you are particularly ragey. It doesn't mean the reasons for your anger aren't legit, but it can help get your head around the volcanic level of it and take the necessary deep breaths before flying off the handle (which only ever makes you feel worse longterm).

The upside of it is that whenever I feel like that and it's week 1, I know I am FULLY FUCKING JUSTIFIED if I let rip :P

Trying to get around my part of London at the moment. There are roadworks seemingly everywhere with temp traffic lights, which fucking cyclist ignore. Cycle lanes that nobody uses. And there’s a huge pothole at the end of our road. Irritatingly my next door neighbour has the builders in, who keep blocking my driveway.

Finally my husband is away for 6 weeks and I’m desperate for a good seeing to, which leaves me very grumpy and in need of more batteries. Not a happy bunny.

My bloody ribs. 4 - 6 weeks recovery the hospital said. Sneezing makes me actually scream.

Thats easy. This video from the vote leave campaign.

https://twitter.com/edwinhayward/status/1749034652063457408?t=LlklEhUTirqElJxSboa0fQ&s=19

DP spends about an hour every single fucking morning sniffing.
Every fucking ten seconds he's sniffing.
He won't blow his nose because he claims it makes it worse.
He'll only take anti-histamines if I absolutely blow my fucking top about the sniffing.
And even then he does it all sulky like I'm forcing him to take poison.

It sounds really minor and first-world-problems but I honestly don't know how much more of it I can take.

TMI? I've got my period back 12 months PP and it's not like a normal period, its in dribs and drabs. I got to the part where you're just having brown discharge and you decide that, actually, your period is over and you're not going to use sanitary products anymore....SURPRISE! I'm actually not finished and can't pretend I am either.

Oooh the food thing maybe i have a hack for.

could you do a load of batch cooks and store as single portions in takeaway containers in the freezer? I keep a drawer full of them so whatever my kids ask for, ping, i reheat a healthy home cooked meal and it takes 10 mins in the microwave.

They can even ask for different stuff as I freeze as single portions.

Boom.

Snag tights’ Facebook post which mansplains to Mumsnetters why it’s old-fashioned to object to their promoting choking during sex. Apparently Mumsnetters are too old and innocent to have heard of bdsm (😂😂😂😂😂)

Snag tights also appears to believe that it is possible to consent to being harmed. Legally that is untrue.

If you don’t think that tights shops should be promoting strangulation, please feel free to join me in reporting the post to Facebook for promotion of violence.
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php/?id=100064803395475

Having to do all the mental load! Asked H to sort something out ages ago, he hasn’t and asked again. Get the standard reply, oh I don’t know how to do that. So I have to sort it again. And you know, just work out how to do it.

i had a silent scream as he’s WFH today. FFS.

Nobody in my life being as efficient as I am.

I feel frustrated rather than angry.

I've had a crap day today as nothing has gone right .

I've just sat down on train and I'm facing backwards...
@TissueSneeze ..that sums up my entire life

That it's taken nearly a year to get a very basic EHCP in place for my autistic daughter. It's now too late to salvage anything of year 11 as she really needs a specialist education setting. Legally the maximum time for an EHCP to be put in place is 20 weeks but that simply just doesn't happen. Our application was one of the quickest with everything being accepted on first request.

I've now got to go through all of the stresses of trying to find her somewhere suitable for year 12 that she'll actually be able to attend and hopefully learn something at.

Surely it shouldn't be this difficult and drawn out.

80s parenting. I'm trying to fix my own mental health because of the acceptance of keeping your kids shamed, humiliated, beaten and threatened.

It's absurd they got away with how they treated small defenceless people because they had to be kept in line. In line of what? Not irritating your parents with your presence unless it was on their terms......just bonkers.

I've been cranky and ratty and muttering under my breath at:

Teenage school kids congregating in shop doorways
Being cold
DSs class being the last let out of school, almost 15 minutes late
Apple juice going up to over 2 quid
Slow queues with people not in one line at the local mini supermarket

I'm such a grumpy old mare some days

I have been waiting 2 hours for a Tesco Whoosh delivery!

Also shit tonnes of litter everywhere

Went to a meeting today with work ,someone who did not shut up, loving the sound of their voice ,talking drivel .