To get married when i have no friends

[Weddingwondering]

DP and I have been together 8 years and have 2 DC under 3. We've spoken about getting married for the past couple of years and decided we would like to do it.

I'm not fussed about having a big do, I'd just like us to be married and also to have the same surname as our children. DP has pointed out that our wedding would probably be a bit depressing as we don't have anyone to invite. DP has his parents who live very far away. I have my mum and I have two mum friends who I meet up with for play dates but we don't really know much about each other. We don't have anybody else.

DP is autistic and has social anxiety and so really struggles with socializing and therefore has no friends. We are quite isolated.

I am trying hard to make friends and I'm getting there but struggle with my confidence.

At the moment life is quite hard with two small children, no friends, not much money, etc.

Would it be really sad to just go to the registry office just us, our DC and two random witnesses?

Would it be better to wait a few years when we hopefully have friends we can invite? I'm not sure what to do. DP isn't bothered by it but I'm worried I'll regret not waiting until it can be more of a special day.

My husband and I were in the same position, so we made the decision to have a small wedding of 30 people - mostly family, and a couple of friends. It was our best decision. It was so relaxed, we had a beautiful dinner at the restaurant we got engaged at, and a really lovely day with the people important to us.
You don’t need lots of people to have a wonderful wedding, just the right ones.

We always look back our wedding day as our favourite day, and the fact that we could then have multiple honeymoons was such a bonus.

Create a day where you will be comfortable, and happy.

I got married with 2 friends as witnesses, my baby son and their baby present. Almost 28 years later I've yet to regret not having a proper wedding. My baby son is doing quite the opposite and getting married this summer with 130 guests! His choice but not one I can really understand and definitely don't envy him.

Eloping can be incredibly romantic and special. You don't needs guests to have a wedding

I think this post nails it. Your marriage is your contiuation of your journey as a family, it's about you as a couple and your children, it's not about anyone else, so make it a really special day for the Weddingwondering household and forget about anyone else. It won't ever be as special to them as it will to you anyway.

Invite your parents. Make it a really special family celebration.