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AIBU?

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To find guy constantly using my name weird?

28 replies

bruceyburn · 19/01/2024 14:46

I met a man around 3 months ago at a shared hobby and we have been in contact/meeting up since then. We both agreed to keep it casual as we both have commitments elsewhere and don't have the time for anything too serious.

We have gotten into a nice phase where we enjoy each others company and chat and sex. We are in touch mostly everyday but it's very relaxed. I don't feel the need to check in with him every day and don't worry if I don't hear from him etc. Very relaxed.

However, we mainly communicate through voice notes and I have noticed since the last time we saw each other (a week ago) he uses my name CONSTANTLY. Every voice note will start with, 'name, I think that's great that you did this blah blah' or he will say, 'that's so funny name' or he will drop my name into the middle of a sentence.

At first I thought it was nice and familiar but it's literally in every voice note and I'm starting to find it a bit put on and fake. And the fact he hasn't done this from the start, if he had I would maybe just think it's him but why is he suddenly saying my name so often in a conversation between just us?

It's actually giving me a bit of the ick. AIBU?

OP posts:
FacingTheWall · 19/01/2024 17:38

I have a colleague who does this, it’s irritating but she’s lovely so I’ll learn to live with it. I hadn’t really noticed until she did it that no one else does do it, it just sounds weird.

financialcareerstuff · 19/01/2024 18:59

Do you think he might have been to a cliched influencing or communication training? It's something politicians and sales people are coached to do, because in theory it helps connect and make the other person feel seen. It's very icky and discomfiting when overused though!, and totally unnatural once you know someone well....

When you are intimate with someone, using their name is often a sign you are angry! But it's the kind of thing that someone might be taught and use wrongly.....

TellingBone · 19/01/2024 19:11

Do it back to him. See how he likes them apples.

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