to think life is a bit of a treadmill?

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What with getting up, making breakfast, making yourself presentable, making beds, getting out to work, or setting up to work from home, making dinner cleaning up, doing washings, sorting washings, ironing what needs ironed, going to the gym or getting in some kind of exercise, cleaning and organising the house, getting the food shop in, putting it all away, then when kids come into the equation even more stuff has to be done on a daily basis.

If your lucky you get to sit down at 9 or 10 pm for a cup of tea and a tv show or your book but then you have to be going to bed soon because then you need to get up and do it all again tomorrow!

I know people say oh just leave it, lower your standards but I don't feel mine are that high to begin with but if I don't get a washing on at least every other day I fall behind and then struggle to catch up with it all. I am by nature very sedentary and so I need to get out and exercise at least 4 times a week otherwise I'm a wheezing blob. If the house gets too bad then it just overwhelms me and cooking healthy food is a priority for me for my health. I honestly feel like just looking after a home and yourself could be a fulltime job!

@MrsBobtonTrent washing machine was an example add freezers, tumble dryers, dishwashers, microwaves, online deliveries etc. My gran without a washing machine certainly spend a lot more time washing then I do even if she did less of it. She had to physically wash it as opposed to push a button.

I dunno. It seems we’ve always had these things to do, but now it’s got a special name and we’ve made it a mental monster.

Easy to convince yourself that you are so busy and have so much to do. But once you’ve managed to get a dentist and an appointment, you’re golden for at least 6 months right? It’s not a full time job. Don’t over think it. Stop ruminating about how it needs to be done. Get the job done then sit down and relax.

Again obviously not practical for everyone but I wouldn’t live more than 10 mins walk from a good high st & tube/train station. Makes things like dentist, hairdresser, etc much easier

We're all complicit hamsters on a treadmill. For the few that have nailed it and are happy, good for you but there are so many more, far too many, that are just not 'living'.

Once the kids grow up you get a lot of time back. Unless they live at home and you still do everything for them! I have a friend who has 4 in their late 20's/early 30's and she still does all their washing, meals etc. I think she's crazy! My adult DC have been home at various points but they do their own cooking, washing etc. No way would I be doing that!

I also think people clean too much. I've seen on here people doing things like skirting boards weekly. That's a yearly event if that at my house! I just do the basics and anything else gets done as and when. Ultimately no matter how much you clean it will always need doing again.

I do prioritise time to myself over a lot of things. That's what I need for my mental health. I can live with the house being a bit untidy, it doesn't bother me like it does some people. I do also wfh which helps a lot.