Bloody reborn doll

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My sister has collected dolls for while now and has always gone with ones from around the world. She has recently started on reborn which are hyper real dolls that look like real babies. I find it creepy they but each to their own. She has started wandering about with the fucking doll in a baby pram, I met her for lunch and assumed when she came in with a pram that due was babysitting a friends baby, she doesn't have a baby herself. On closer inspection there is a bloody reborn doll with a bloody dummy in its gob. I couldn't stay when she took the damn thing out to hold and walked away. She said that "reborn community " are used to mockery and why can't I just be happy for her. I told her because she is a grown woman pushing a dolly in a pram and its fucking weird. She wants to bring it to family parties......I can't cope!!!!Thoughts anyone?

This made me laugh out loud.

I didn't say your username was odd.
I replied supporting your view of these dolls.

I wouldn't go out in public with an adult with a reborn doll or have it round mine as a visiting "nephew/niece" - no way in hell I'm endorsing the behaviour that comes with these things.

There are adult women taking them round with their actual children who they make play along and I even heard of someone turfing their teenager out of her bedroom so it could be a nursery for a doll.

I agree. It obviously brings her comfort and you're more concerned about how you look to strangers in the cafe

I can understand them being used by older women with dementia - my DM’s (dementia) care home had a cot with a ‘baby’ in it, but by anyone else who considers themself mentally sound, it’s frankly very weird.

As for anyone taking up scarce buggy spaces on buses with their pretend babies, IMO it shouldn’t be allowed.

I would be very upset if I couldn't get on a bus because of a reborn doll! I would actually say something to the driver in this situation

MN's ad placement is off the scale good today! 😂 "The surprising benefits of playing with dolls"

But yes, I find the whole reborn thing really creepy and weird and feel very sorry for many people that have them that treat them as if they were their real babies. I expect many people that collect them and behave this way have some underlying MH issues.

No one cares when men get their model trains out

Really? You can’t see how this is completely different. This is not a hobby. If people collect them as a hobby that’s fine, display them around the house or whatnot, but it’s not that. They are not displaying them at home. They are pretending/delusional that they are real babies. That’s not normal or healthy. It’s a mental health issue.

It’s no different to say, me collecting teapots and then taking my teapots out and sitting them on the car seats, taking them to restaurants/cafe’s/friends places and making sure they have tea put them in them when we are out and about- because they are teapots and this is what teapots need. Just because there may be others who do the same with teapots doesn’t make it normal or mean I don’t have a mental health issue that makes me do this. As for the example of men and model trains. Do you see them going onto real railway tracks to play choo choo’s with their trains, pushing their toy trains along real tracks pretending they are real big trains, no.

I totally understand why people do this. I had a lady in my grandmothers nursing home have a dolly (way before reborn were a thing). She had dementia, thought she had a baby and was very distressed when her baby was missing. Doll fixed it. No one was taking the doll away, she had a need. But let’s not pretend it’s normal, it’s not, it was okay but the underlying cause was dementia. Same with others, there will be an underlying cause, a mental illness, and not acknowledging that is not okay.

I collect artist dolls and I put YANBU. The purpose of them is to be on show around the house for the benefit of the adult owner. Other people visiting the house don't have to comment if they don't like the dolls or other display items. Taking a doll out when socialising though is a step too far as it becomes the main topic of the talk which can be awkward for the other person.

I've been on a bus before where women with babies in pushchairs couldn't get on because another woman had one of these dolls in a buggy in the pushchair bay and a refused to fold it, driver refused to intervene. Can't get my head round it

A lot of posters recognise that this is a mental health issue but still support OP. I don't get it. There are many things OP could have done between indulging the fantasy and walking out in a temper.

OP didn't walk out because she was concerned about her sister and didn't want to worsen any issues by playing along. She walked out because she was more concerned about the judgment of strangers than her own sister's feelings and well-being. I have three sisters and honestly, there are times when I despise the lot of them, but I can't imagine ever thinking so little of them.

I hope OP's sister has other people in her life to give her the support and understanding she needs.

I disagree . This was purely attention seeking and the OP rightly didn’t want to add fuel to it . There are no mental issues it appears . I am wondering if she shows other attention seeking behaviours .

I find it odd, but I find people pushing dogs around in prams, or dressing them in outfits, odd as well.

Some people just add in an odd way I guess.😗

Best to ignore them and not indulge the attention seeking.

It isn’t that bizarre really.

I think you obviously know your sister and if it’s attention seeking, in your opinion, then maybe that’s what it is. I’m afraid I would have no patience if it simply is attention seeking. Get her a puppy!

Surely it's for people to decide whether or not they want to be associated with the movement of taking reborn dolls out in prams and playing with them in public. I'd find it very awkward and would probably leave too.

Well this all escalated quickly.

Post #1 the sister turns up with this doll in a pram and wants to bring it to family gatherings and by post #3 the sister is calling the OP auntie and telling the OP to wish the doll happy birthday (I assume the doll only gets one birthday a year?)

Agree. Me too.

So what? As long as they aren’t taking up spaces on buses etc with their doll, I don’t see the problem.
Not my thing, but life’s short, do what makes you happy.

Sorry to say but she's suffering from some kind of mental illness. Has she suffered a loss that you may not be aware of? Or perhaps she's infertile and this is her coping mechanism. Poor woman probably needs some support and therapy.

Where can I get one?

I would like one to keep secretly at home.

They are nothing like real babies, are they? Real babies screw up their little gummy faces with wind, scream, turn red while doing so, give you curious and appraising looks, grasp your finger to show off their monkey DNA, smell quite horrible at times, smell quite lovely at times. So, so many things. The last thing they are is inert plastic.

I'm just willing to indulge the weirdness of the situation to be honest. There have been other things in the past that she just does to get attention which I just ignore or don't engage with. To be honest I walked out because it was embarrassing and quite frankly the o yo way she'll stop is if people don't engage with it. Why should I have to indulge it and make life myself and most other people uncomfortable to indulge her?

Sorry not willing

I find masturbating enjoyable and therapeutic; but I don't expect my friends and family to get involved.