The obsession with children being loud in public and disturbing others...

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On here, is incredible.

I'm nearly 40 years old and I don't think any child has ever disturbed me while I was out in public. I just don't understand how easily irritated people on here get ?

Do we go to different places or something ?

Does anyone else relate to me or do others also often encounter children that bother them in public ?

Think, being on their iPads / phones watching ' very loud ' videos that have ruined your trip out to lunch, or kids running around places etc.

I've never really seen this or even noticed it.

Same on planes.. I've been sat near babies and they sometimes cried, but nothing unbearable.

On here it's like people absolutely despise kids out and about being loud/ existing and being kids...

The only people that have ever bothered me in public have been drunk adults who were threatening people in a tube carriage / a random man in the supermarket calling me a slut / another random man shouting at me for no reasons once when I was sitting in a parked car.. never kids..

Are you only annoyed by loud noises that you have some control over? Interesting 🤔

I don’t mind kid’s chatter. I do mind the tinny sound of devices on speaker, children screaming for fun in a public place and no one stopping them and over loud parenting.
At my gym, there’s a mum with a little boy called Atticus. She loudly uses his name to tell him off over and over again (multiple times a minute). I can’t believe that 1, she called him that and 2, she feels the name to use this jarring sounding word over and over again in a public place.

When those threads are posted I think you'll find the ire is directed at the parents, not the children. And no-one is suggesting that they encounter this three times every day. But equally you can't suggest that it never happens just because you haven't experienced it.

Very few people have a problem with normal kids' noise. But where it reaches the level of being anti social or dangerous is when it is annoying. Again though, it's not the children people are annoyed about, it's the ineffectual or can't be bothered or don't care parenting. Edited to add - or even worse, think what their kids are doing is cute and everyone else should be in awe of their 'spirit'

A lot of children are considerate and well behaved, because they’ve been brought up by hands on considerate parents. But…..there are some feral children, products of lazy parenting, who basically have no boundaries and just make people’s lives in their vicinity miserable. Yes, children should be children, but when it involves getting in someone’s personal space, then it’s a problem. I assume you have badly behaved children, so obviously other peoples badly behaved dcs aren’t going to bother you….

I wish it was made up! It's a relatively new thing. Children with screens switched to loud volumes in restaurants, public transport, cafes wherever. Just 10 years ago, children (generally!) managed to sit quietly and interact with others.

Like a PP, I can zone out the voices and the squeals. Electronic noise is irritating and distracting. Yes, I'll judge. Lazy parenting.

I live in Cambridge and see this frequently.

God help them if they enjoy a trampoline/paddling pool/water fight in their garden on a hot day as well.

My child is lively. Doesn’t look at an iPad or phone.

I’ve been on flights with stag dos and screaming kids.
would choose crying kids over thicko loud sweaty men every time 👍🏻

If you've never seen it or noticed it, how do you know it wouldn't bother you then? I've never seen drunk guys on a plane yet I can still understand that some people will find that annoying. It's not even the children that people take issue with - it's the parents who give no fucks about anyone else around them.

If I go out to lunch and dinner I would I think reasonably expect to eat in peace. Sone noise is expected. Even pleasant. On occasion though I have seen kids allowed to watch iPads at full volume or allowed to run around/play with balls indoors etc. I think this is rude and needs better parenting.

History would suggest it’s always been anti baby anti mother to be fair.

Teenagers on the bus with loud music or games on their phones, but also some adults. Having a whole family of young children around me on a plane with parents in business class was unpleasant but given their parents lack of responsibility they were actually quite well behaved. I've had much more annoying adults around me to be honest including one loud, rude woman talking aggressively to her husband for hours on a night flight.

Ive had one instant of a toddler on a plane who just alternated bawling nonstop and kicking at the seat. Kid was about as big as they get before they need their own seat and was really really loud.

I felt worst for the parents though. They seemed frazzled and short on ideas of what to do, hadn't brought anything the kid could suck on for takeoff so ears were probably really uncomfy and they seemed pretty short on stuff to distract him with (stickers...games...colouring...snacks snacks snacks). I offered the only snack i had that was suitable for a child that age but they said no.

I have young kids. I understand that kids make a noise. I also spend a lot of time making sure that mine aren't being unduly loud in public.

This means that my quiet time is precious to me, and when I am in a predominantly adult space without my children I try to steer clear where I can. On the train I avoid carriages with children. Even when they're being good they're often still somewhat noisy!

Hear hear OP.

It doesn't happen often but the response is so different, and that's what irks me.
If I was screaming whilst playing in our garden, my parents would have been, 'pipe down or you will be inside'. It wasn't a given that we could make as much noise as we liked when our gardens adjoined. Sometimes, we played in the street. If we were too loud, the neighbours were free to tell us without our parents being uppity with them over it and acting like they had asked that we were locked in a cupboard for the summer.
That's the trouble for me, is this idea that kids don't have to be considerate about noise around others and if anyone dares to suggest they can have fun without screaming the place down, it's equivalent to 'seen and not heard'.
I am just sick of the massive overreaction to any comment about loud kids. I love hearing them on our street laughing and throwing snowballs in the snow. I don't mind the footballs coming over from two doors down (impressed they make it this far, to be honest). I certainly don't want kids never to be out. But it really doesn't need to be as loud as it sometimes is. I had great fun as a kid. The fact I was occasionally told, when I got over excited, to knock off the volume hardly made me feel like I wasn't allowed to be out. These days, I wouldn't dare say a word to the neighbourhood kids. We just said 'sorry' and carried on more quietly.

I've had plenty of nice meals out, easy travel and stayed in good places without any nightmare kids, and been to the theatre and cinema with no issues. Buuuut I've also had a kid kicking the back of my plane seat, screeching at high velocity in a pub, chatting all the way through cinema and theatre visits. Guess which 'events' I'll be moaning about!
It's just a matter of time before you're inconvenienced. I haven't come across any drunk people for several years, doesn't mean there aren't any!

That is such a typical MN post. If there was a post bank, this would be number 3 after LTB and Get Your Ducks in a Row

Is nice places code for expensive?

Lucky you. Other people have had different experiences.

Typical as it is all too common.

Barely a day goes past lately when my ears aren't being assailed by some child screeching it's head off. In shops, buses,cafes,coffee shops,they are everywhere. Maybe I'm getting less tolerant as I've got older,I don't know, but it seems to be much more common nowadays than it was say,10 or 15 years ago. I'm certainly not of the opinion that children should be seen and not heard,but I just don't appreciate having my eardrums nearly ruptured when I'm just trying to enjoy a coffe and a chat with a friend. What irritates me even more is that in the vast majority of cases the parents do absolutely nothing because they are too engrossed in their phones.

The kids where I am are pretty well behaved tbh.

There is no way that back in 2014 children were angels who sat quietly. No way!

DS is 3. He is normally very good but he did have the temerity to run in a restaurant on Monday. I’m sorry. He had had a long car journey, we sat for lunch, he was a bit restless but crayons, colouring, some toys kept him entertained. Then at the end he had a bit of a run. He would have stayed in his seat watching some crap on my phone I am sure but there are never threads about that …