The obsession with children being loud in public and disturbing others...

[floweplantpot]

On here, is incredible.

I'm nearly 40 years old and I don't think any child has ever disturbed me while I was out in public. I just don't understand how easily irritated people on here get ?

Do we go to different places or something ?

Does anyone else relate to me or do others also often encounter children that bother them in public ?

Think, being on their iPads / phones watching ' very loud ' videos that have ruined your trip out to lunch, or kids running around places etc.

I've never really seen this or even noticed it.

Same on planes.. I've been sat near babies and they sometimes cried, but nothing unbearable.

On here it's like people absolutely despise kids out and about being loud/ existing and being kids...

The only people that have ever bothered me in public have been drunk adults who were threatening people in a tube carriage / a random man in the supermarket calling me a slut / another random man shouting at me for no reasons once when I was sitting in a parked car.. never kids..

DH and I went to an expensive local restaurant last week for lunch for a minor celebration. It was midweek and the place was quiet.

Until parents with 3 children under 5 came in. The youngest one screamed constantly, I think he was bored. The middle one climbed onto the table (which I thought might actually provoke the parents into doing something but no) and sang songs at the top of her voice. We left after the main course as I couldn't bear it any more.

I’ve had quite a few loud annoying children around me at various points, but definitely a lot more loud annoying adults.

Lol at the voice of ignorance. MN always good for a giggle

I think this is true, and I agree with the OP's thoughts here.

I can deal with most noises children make, until it's a high pitched shriek.
I can't help it if a childs loud noise in a confined space make me wince, it sets off my tinitus, even when wearing noise cancelling headphones - which I do when I leave home to go anywhere these days to try and negate unexepected high pitched noises.

I'm the same with bus and train brakes that haven't been oiled in a while, doors creaking when being opened, and various other sounds along the same lines.

No one goes online to say everything went smoothly, children behaved well, no drunk idiots, no delays etc.

You remember that awful flight or meal more than the good one.

I've taken a lot of flights, eaten a lot of meals, been on a lot of public transport, been to the theatre etc. I definitely remember the bad experiences more... but its only a handful!

Yes that's right, it's me.

I was once having a rare lunch out with my sister and a little girl, around 5 and full of cold, complete with snotty nose kept wandering up to our table. We tried our best to ignore her, hoping she would get bored and wander off.
My sister went to the toilet and the little girl jumped into her seat and refused to move, until we got her mother over, who took her away
Then when our food arrived and we started eating it, the little girl came running back, grabbed a handful of my chips and proceeded to sneeze over my meal.
Her mother just said ' oh dear, sorry ' before attempting to walk away. No offer to replace my food, nothing, until my sister educated her.
Unfortunately, that seems to be the level of parenting these days, let your kids do what they please as long as they're not disturbing the parents who are usually sat glued to their phones rather than teaching their kids socially acceptable manners.

When I'm on a train, I see/hear more adults blasting out loud music or videos from their phones than young children watching TV shows on their parent's phone. Some of the adults will wear headphones, but I can still hear the tinny sounds as they've put the volume on max.

68 million people in the UK, 8 billion in the world.....not everyone is like you OP!

Anyway most of the time it’s the parents of the children I judge. Children don’t know any better, they need to be taught. Parents either are so used to the noise they don’t hear it or they just don’t care.

Also why do people make this comment “you were also a child once” Yes no shit Sherlock. What is your point? I didn’t ask to be born. Just because on a particular day at a particular time my fathers sperm met my mothers egg, I was produced I need to just accept when kids are being little shits. I had brief moments of being a little shit too. Brief because my parents taught me how to behave properly in public.

Oh dear.. anyways

So parents are definitely just a lot worse than they used to be then ?

The younger generation isn't cut out for it ?

Only in the minds of simpletons.

@floweplantpot I know you are in jest, but sadly, I think you are not far off, in the sense that I don't think modern life is conducive to it. Everyone's 'time poor'. Kids have a lot less freedom to go out and burn off steam. You can't just let your kids out the door in the morning.
There's also more of an attitude of 'rights prevailing over responsibility. People mentioned loud, obnoxious adults. That's got worse in the last 20 years or so. The people who can't keep quiet in a theatre and get shitty when asked to be quiet are passing that entitled attitude to their kids.
Consideration is more of a dirty word now in general.

That is gross.

Patents who abdicate their parenting responsibilities are the problem, not the children.

How can this be ‘an obsession’ when what you’re talking about is a number of different individuals posting their experiences? Dumb thread

I agree OP

I'm far more aggravated by adults who are completely lacking in any self awareness - including the man who knocked my arm off the handrail to get on the train last week. Dick.

People...obvs I mean men... having loud phone conversations on the train to show how important they are and I just fine people in general very loud these days. A kid sat quietly on a phone or tablet doesn't bother me in the slightest but this is MN - it's like the Upside Down.

noisy kids in confined public spaces drive me nuts. It's the parents who can't be bothered to ensure that the kids play quietly. Kids who play quietly are no less happy than those who play noisily. It does no child any harm to learn to have fun without annoying others. I am no perfect parent l, but my kids understood at a very young age that there are places where you make noise and others where you don't. They didn't find that difficult, because it isn't.

I can't recall ever being disturbed or anoyed by a child in public, I've been annoyed by drunken or rude adults a good few times. I do think it must just be grumpy people with no patience who complain.

Whining about kids in public places is the sort of things that are leading to a plummeting birth rate. People thinking that if they have kids they won’t be able to eat out again for 20 years. I think it’s France where they now prevent hotels and restaurants from banning kids, for this reason.

personally I love the sound of a screaming child that isn’t mine. It makes me feel grateful I don’t have to sort the child out.

Zombie thread with a one post goady bitchplop and run op
still gets people frothing 18 months later ffs

I do.
Because children want to touch, they want to touch my dog.
Also I don’t want to interact or amuse your child - ever.
I don’t want balls flying at my face on my holiday.
I don’t want to have to pull your child from
deeper water than they can handle.
I don’t appreciate your child piling their plates high with all inclusive food for a laugh or putting their footwear on their table as a ‘marker’. parent your child- many don’t.

Do you live in a privileged area op? Perhaps that’s worse.

this doesn't make any sense at all. At the time when the birth rate was a lot higher people took great care to ensure their kids didn't annoy other people.

falling birth rate, which from the point of view of the environment is surely a good thing anyway, has to do with a whole bunch of other things and not just ecxpectations of reasonable behaviour.

I don’t come across it much, but recently I went on holiday and there were so many kids on iPads in the restaurants. This, in itself, wasn’t an issue but the fact that so many of their parents didn’t consider headphones for them was astonishing. The tinny sound of movies and songs on iPads was really annoying. My niece is ND and really struggled with the noise

this doesn't make any sense at all. At the time when the birth rate was a lot higher people took care to ensure their kids didn't annoy other people in public places. As I said before, a child playing quietly in a confined public space is no less happy than one making an antisocial racket. Not the child's fault, instead the parent inflicting their tolerance for their own child's bad behaviour onto others.p

falling birth rate, which from the point of view of the environment is surely a good thing anyway, has to do with a whole bunch of other things and not just ecxpectations of reasonable behaviour.

this doesn't make any sense at all. At the time when the birth rate was a lot higher people took care to ensure their kids didn't annoy other people in public places. As I said before, a child playing quietly in a confined public space is no less happy than one making an antisocial racket. Not the child's fault, instead the parent inflicting their tolerance for their own child's bad behaviour onto others.p

falling birth rate, which from the point of view of the environment is surely a good thing anyway, has to do with a whole bunch of other things and not just ecxpectations of reasonable behaviour.