Ex husband worth a million and offered me only £7000 financial claim

[AmyJahabee]

Hi all,

I made a financial claim against my ex husband and he offered me £5000 and he is worth almost a million. Is this suppose to be a joke.

we were married for 7 years I was not working at the time so he pay for everything whilst I look after the house, no children involved in the marriage. Is that all I get because I didn’t contribute financially? It’s been 3years since the divorce, he has put in so much lies about me towards his statement. I’m going to decline the offer.

can I just decline or ask for a reasonable amount?

Are you not using a solicitor OP? Did you get half of the house?

I can’t afford a solicitor, I got nothing at the moment

Definitely get a solicitor if you don’t already have one!!! x

You need a solicitor, do the free hour consultation and check they will take fees out of your settlement. But you need one.

Speak to citizens advice bureau or womens aid and enquire if they have any pointers as to where you can obtain legal advice.

It doesn't work like that OP, you really, really need legal advice

You can’t afford not to have a solicitor.

does anyone have any directions about solicitors I just can’t think straight.

Are you working now? Why did you not work while you were married? It’s reasonable to claim financial assistance if you progressed his career by sacrificing yours but if you sat around all day while he worked it’s a different matter

Why didn’t you work if there were no children? I don’t know anything about the law but I think a lot of people would be loathe to financially support an ex after a relatively short marriage who didn’t work or contribute anything financially during the marriage whilst having no children/caring commitments and (presumably) no health issues. However you may be legally entitled to more. In future I would suggest it is not wise to be financially reliant on a man if you not a family unit in the traditional sense- looking after a house is not or should not be a full time job in my opinion.

I was a student and worked part time and contribute some food shop with the little I have

I am working now

It's an offer. Either accept it or make a counter offer.

This. How long was your total relationship (not just the marriage)?

Were you studying for 7 years? What were you studying? Are you now in a professional job/financially self reliant? If so why do you need more of your ex’s money, regardless of how much he is worth?

I agree with others that you need a solicitor to establish what you can claim. I don't see why you would be entitled to anything more substantial than you've been offered given the information you've provided, but I don't have any legal knowledge of this.

I would say if their are no children involved and you didn’t help to build his worth and it sounds like he supported you to develop your career by paying for you to go to uni? Why would you want him to continue to financially support you when you are no longer married and you have no children? And you were only married for a fairly short period of time! Ask him for £10k and cut your losses

Starting point is 50:50 of marital assets - after a marriage of several decades everything is marital assets usually, but with only 7 years and no children, assets he accrued before marriage might not go into the pot. If his support of you allowed you to study and now have a good job, and you have no kids together, then I'd be looking for 50% of the assets acquired during the marriage. what does that add up to? but you need good legal advice.

I’m all for women being treated equally during a split but why should he be giving you money? It seems he housed you, supported you whilst you were studying yet you want him to give you money? If you had children it would be understandable that you’d want financial support but you don’t so why do you think he owes you anything?

Just ring one in your local area.

I hear a lot about free hour consultations but I don't know any solicitors who offer this.

You can offer to pay them once the settlement is concluded but this will be on a case by case basis. Worth asking.

You won't get half the house just because you were married to him. This is always being stated as fact on mumsnet and its not true at all.
I was married for 20 years to my exH and he didn't get any of my house because I owned it outright before I met him so it was not a product of the marriage.
The only way you will get sensible advice is if you ask a solicitor. But basically anything he owned pre marriage is not yours.

I don’t know the legal position, but it sounds like you benefitted from the marriage - it allowed you to study and improve your prospects with minimal living costs. Morally I don’t see why he owes you anything.

Well, it's clear you know nothing about the law - you showed us that! Marriage is a legal partnership - surely you don't think that legal partnerships end with one person having everything and the other having nothing?

Op, from his pov. He supported you financially through your studies. Can you articulate what your contribution was as to why you think you have more of a claim on his money?
I think you might have heard sonewhere its 50/50 and are going by that, but surely that just applies mostly because there's children involved who one party looks after whilst the other works for money.
I don't know the law, but don't get why you would be entitled to the money he has earned especially since presumable he mostly wasn't with you when he accrued his wealth.