Ex husband worth a million and offered me only £7000 financial claim

[AmyJahabee]

Hi all,

I made a financial claim against my ex husband and he offered me £5000 and he is worth almost a million. Is this suppose to be a joke.

we were married for 7 years I was not working at the time so he pay for everything whilst I look after the house, no children involved in the marriage. Is that all I get because I didn’t contribute financially? It’s been 3years since the divorce, he has put in so much lies about me towards his statement. I’m going to decline the offer.

can I just decline or ask for a reasonable amount?

You really need to seek legal advice to sort out the financial settlement and not let this drag on for lord knows how long.

If you feel it's not enough then you can always let the courts decide, you could get more but equally they may see the 7 years of not working while having no children to look after but studying a way of your ex DH helping you gain for and further your career.

Remember that your situation could change and you could possibly come into money and then he'll be able to claim from you too until a financial settlement is done and dusted its anyone's game.

Ah, so maybe that's the position OP is in. They got divorced but a financial order wasn't fully in place and is now being negotiated. Thanks for the info, good to know!

I don’t no? I didn’t say she would.

If the script was reversed and this woman was saying she’d been married to a man for 7 years, housed him, financially supported him whilst he studied and they split with no children yet he was chasing her for money you would all be telling her what a piece of shit waste of space he is and not to give him a penny of her rightly purchased home.

Stop being so sexist

For 7 years???

What people feel you are entitled to morally may well be different to what you are entitled to legally. You need legal advice. They will ask the right questions and know applicable law.

You can't go into court with a printout of a mumsnet thread.

Not sure about his offer, but it’s a joke that you think you’re still entitled to his money three years after your divorce. You have a job, make your own money!

If that were the case then I 'm sure the OP would have mentioned it! Her being able to study for her career hardly sounds controlling!

I think (and I have no basis for this really) in a short (although according to link below your marriage is > 5 years so not officially short) childless marriage the goal would be to restore you both to the financial position you were in before you got married and perhaps a division of finances accrued during the marriage (if you both contributed to those finances).

But because you never contributed it is unlikely you are entitled to anything. Which seems fair considering you benefitted from being supported during your studies.

But honestly, you need to get professional legal advice and a formal financial separation so you can both move on.

https://www.kabirfamilylaw.co.uk/short-childless-marriage-divorce-settlements/#:~:text=In%20cases%20of%20short%20childless,the%20marriage%20to%20be%20appropriate.

I thought after marriage everything is pooled in a divorce, unless there was a pre-nup or all the money was his before you married (and even then I'm not sure) you should be entitled to up to half, and up to half of his pension pot too.

Pretty sure the divorce and financial settlement are not connected and need doing separately.

You'd be surprised how many people don't sort this out, even if you don't have 2 pennies to rub together at the time of divorce it's still wise to get it done, agreed and signed, as I said im pretty sure even if divorced for years an ex can come back years later and make a claim...ie family inheritance, lucky enough to win the lottery.

What on earth is the point of all this speculation as to whether the op was a fanny lodger or controlled.

This thread only needed one response 'see a solicitor.'

Do you not understand what a question is? I asked if she got half the house, didn’t say or suggest she should have done. Was wondering if she got a settlement when they divorced. What’s so confusing about that?

This is pretty much what I'm thinking. My exH did this but did not study just pursued his hobbies. He got next to nothing in the divorce.

No expert here but that seems ridiculous. Is there anyway at all you are able to pay for even one hours legal advice so you know what you are entitled to? At least then you advocate for yourself to get what you are legally entitled to.

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No connection / don't work for them or anything but have heard about them / seen on social media and Podcast etc. They have some really helpful information re. Finance / divor
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Please get some legal help from a solicitor. There is no point asking on here as no one knows your circumstances and what you are or are not entitled to.

In that case you will get nothing.

check your home insurance too OP - some policies (not all) offer legal cover to a certain amount. I am not sure whether this is just in relation to house matters or general legal matters. worth checking though

What a strange thread - lots of conflating legal, moral and ethical issues.

There are matrimonial assets, and non matrimonial assets. Entitlement will depend on what the £1M comprises in relation to this.

I get the impression that English may not be OP's first language. Maybe she meant 'separated'. She does say an offer has been sent and is asking if she should decline, can't see that happening if they divorced 3 years ago.

Of all the advice and judgement on this thread, I would only listen to this.

OP getting an unusually rough ride on this qwhite interesting thread

I would say you can't afford NOT to have a solicitor. A solicitor won't request full payment upfront and they may get a lot more money for you.

I only know about my own divorce where I represented myself 10 times in family court as my ex repeatedly asked to return.

Filing in Family Court for a first Hearing is something you can do yourself. That starts the process off for a division of assets and means a Form E being filed by either side which is a full financial disclosure.

Visiting a solicitor now to discuss your options including a letter to the other side explaining you do know all the legal options available to you may make your ex consider his position again realistically to avoid the stress and cost of a court case.

Sorry I can’t be more helpful, but I only know from my own experience. Expensive as a solicitor is to see a few hours spending time with one may help you resolve this quickly and less costly.

For more advice look at Wikiorvce Website, there’s so much info on there, and like MN you can ask questions yourself.

No one here can help.

What does ‘worth a million’ mean?

How are you deciding it? For example he could run a business worth a million. But that doesn’t mean that asset is uk for dividing. Depends how the company is set up.

is it a house? A high wage? Shares? Could be a house in his parents names

and with no kids, not together that long when divorced, op not working at the time, no one can say what is fair and what’s not fair. Or what the outcome will likely be.

Could go on ops favour. Might not.

This has to be a joke.

Why would to be entitled to anything?

You have no children and you contributed nothing.

Get a job and support yourself.