Ex husband worth a million and offered me only £7000 financial claim

[AmyJahabee]

Hi all,

I made a financial claim against my ex husband and he offered me £5000 and he is worth almost a million. Is this suppose to be a joke.

we were married for 7 years I was not working at the time so he pay for everything whilst I look after the house, no children involved in the marriage. Is that all I get because I didn’t contribute financially? It’s been 3years since the divorce, he has put in so much lies about me towards his statement. I’m going to decline the offer.

can I just decline or ask for a reasonable amount?

Depends if he was doing all the housework, cooking, cleaning, etc. Or just playing xbox and going down the pub, while she did everything in the house too when she got home from work. The former is a division of labour the latter a cocklodger.

Some people might not approve of one partner in a marriage staying at home if there are no kids, but it doesn’t matter what people’s opinions are. What matters is the law. I believe that legally you are due a lot more than £7000 - the court looks predominantly at the needs of the parties esp their housing needs. Not so much who did what during the marriage.

OP I think a lot have missed you’ve been divorced for 3 years already. When you divorced did you have a consent order? This covers the financial side of affairs. If you did then unless both agree the consent order can not be changed. You maybe able to challenge the consent order under certain circumstances.
OP you need to give more details for better advice, as although people are saying get legal advice, it’s no good if a consent order has been signed

This isn't how it works.

Say a multi-millionaire meets someone with a promising career, they fall in love and millionaire says 'marry me, live in my mansion, you'll never have to work again - give up work, you don't need the money'.

Twenty years on, millionaire decides that spouse is getting a bit old and annoying, boots the spouse out.

Does she get nothing, because she didn't earn all that time? She might have kept home running, taken care of kids, been at millionaire's side to enhance business reputation etc. Basically dedicating her life to him and sacrificing her own earning ability.

If you depend on someone to support you, then they backtrack, you shouldn't be left with nothing. It might be preferable to maintain financial independence but it doesn't mean money bags gets to leave you with nothing.

There is too little detail to give any advice.

This is not the case. They factor in how short a marriage is and their earning potential as well as what they brought to the marriage.

What did the divorce say about a financial settlement? That has to be the starting point.

Good question.

Ignore the comments on here and get legal advice.

Marriage comes with financial responsibilities towards each other. While you may be entitled to a lot less than 50% given it's a relatively short marriage, no kids and he supported you to study, you will still be entitled to something and it will probably be significantly more than he has offered.

Hang on - you are divorced for 3 years.
Have you got kids with him? Why are you asking him for money? Did you not get some in the divorce?

7 years is not a short marriage

Under 10 years is, legally speaking, a short marriage.

After a short childless marriage the intent of the court is generally to put the parties back where they were financially when the marriage began, retaining their assets at that time. Arguably OP is better off than she was then already, as she was supported through her education. If she curtailed her own work during this period significantly to advance his career, she arguably has a claim on some of his pension accrued during that seven years only. But there are no children to house and the house was already owned by him. I really don't see there being a lot of potential or grounds for a big settlement.

Say a multi-millionaire meets someone with a promising career, they fall in love and millionaire says 'marry me, live in my mansion, you'll never have to work again - give up work, you don't need the money'.

Twenty years on, millionaire decides that spouse is getting a bit old and annoying, boots the spouse out.

But OP has not been dumped 20 years down the line and didn't do nothing. It was a short marriage and she studied and the ex seems to have (in part)funded her. No children.

No idea what the legal position is but why do you think you should get a chunk of his wealth now, OP? I think morally it's wrong. No sacrifices on your side to look after children or so. You sound like a gold digger. I would just move on with my life!

I don't think you can afford not to have a solicitor in your case!

IT STATES THEY ARE ALREADY DIVORCED! 3 YEARS AGO!

WHY IS OP ASKING FOR MONEY NOW?

Agree with people saying get a lawyer. Saying someone is 'worth' a million means bugger all sadly. I could be described as being 'worth' 2 million but I haven't a pot to piss in and live on benefits. The money is based on one property that (obviously) increased a lot over many years. What is his income? Expenses? The solicitor can find out exactly how much he has and what you can get. It's a good thing you don't have kids with him btw. Clean break.

They've been divorced for 3 years, she says in her op!

Try and find a solicitor who would work by taking their fees at the end of the case. I sometimes do this and there may be solicitors near you who are prepared to do the same.

Presumably the OP is posting because they haven't finalised the financial settlement.

If there's no children involved, surely housework, cooking and cleaning are going to be fairly minimal? I wouldn't think that would be a huge contribution to the marriage

@Goldbar She specifically states it's been 3 years since the divorce. Doesn't sound like she's still in that process.

We need more details but with someone as rich as him I’d be wanting something closer to 12 months rent plus removal costs - especially if you are on a low income so unlikely to pass affordability checks so need to be able to offer a lump sum as security.
Is his million in his home or cash/other assets ?

I asked earlier (don't know the answer!), can you get divorced without a financial settlement fully signed off and in place? Maybe you can.

@AFreshStart24 I know. What's your point? How does that invalidate my comment?

Apparently you can but it means that they can come back at any point and demand payment

I did. We did our own divorce. I bought my ex out of the house as agreed. I found out 2 years later that without the signing off of an order, he could in future (unless he gets married) still make an additional claim on my house 🙈