Please tell me this can't be true!

[JaffaCake70]

My Mum visited this afternoon, we were talking about wills and things that the departed have left in trust for their loved ones. During the course of the conversation Mum told me the following:

When my Grandmother passed away a few years ago at the age of 82, my Mum's older Sister wanted her wedding ring (for sentimental reasons).

When my Auntie went to collect the ring the undertakers gave it to her and told her that it had been stuck on my Nanna's finger so tight that they had cut her finger off in order to retrieve the ring.

I feel sick. Please please please tell me that this can't possibly be true? Has anyone else had experience of anything like this? I just can't believe it's true.. but if it's not true why would my Auntie, who isn't one for making things up, say it is?

Absolutely nonsense. Best case he was joking. But that isn’t how they remove them.

I got a phone call from my brother in law. A grabby step relative was making noises about getting the ring, so he rang the undertaker, who he happened to be good friends with, and asked him to get the ring off, and sent me to get it.
Honestly I wasn't overly fond of mother in law, but was intrigued as to how he got the ring off so quickly without damaging it. He told me that in some cases, this being one of them, they have to cut off a finger. This was 20 years ago so times have probably changed a bit.
But it's quite true.
As brother in law never married or had any children himself, he asked DH to pass the ring on to our daughter. She doesn't want it, so it's currently stuck in a drawer

So why give us such detail about you hearing about it from your BIL rather than now it emerges you heard it yourself in person direct from the undertaker? 🤔

The undertaker told me that he'd had to remove her finger, and made a snipping action with his fingers.

and yet your initial recounting was all about you hearing from your BIL.

Now the story done a 180.

i love it!

You have ishoos @spearthatbroc

There's no 180. Read @notafruit 's posts properly. The bil told her the ring needed to be collected that is all.

I suspect he told you the ring was cut and you heard what you wanted to hear, given the relationship.

yep.
But off not to say

“so i did, and the undertaker directly told me that he’d chopped off her finger”

but nope. she ended the story with just her BIL telling her this. 🤷‍♀️

Where??

head. wall. bang.

why don’t you just go back and read the post that you are so staunchly defending.

Where does the poster write or even remotely allude to hearing the the fingers was lipped by direct, in person, from the undertaker. No where! It is all “my bil told me over the phone”

it’s like saying

“Peter told me that film was really shite and said don’t bother going to see it”

and then it later emerging later on after much discussion about the film

“I have seen the film and i think it’s really shite and don’t bother going”

@spearthatbroc

“I asked the undertaker how he managed to get it off, and he said he cut her finger off. They do it all the time, but don't tend to advertise the fact.”

From @notafruit’s first post. HTH.

Why don't you read it? All of @notafruit 's posts.

I'll wait..

😂

yes that’s the blimmin point!

Her first point - it’s all about hearing it second hand from her BIL

only when skepticism expressed does it later emerge that she heard this direct from the undertake in person! 🤔

🤦🏻‍♀️

Read. The. Fucking. Post.

Her bil called her to collect the ring.

The undertaker told her that the finger was cut. Nobody else.

You’re getting your “he” confused @spearthatbroc

here’s what the post said:

he rang the undertaker, who he happened to be good friends with, and asked him to get the ring off, and sent me to get it.

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Honestly I wasn't overly fond of mother in law, but was intrigued as to how he got the ring off so quickly without damaging it. He told me that in some cases, this being one of them, they have to cut off a finger.

“He” above the line I’ve inserted refers to the BIL.

“He” below the line refers to the undertaker.

So why is the story not

**i went to the undertaker and he said they’d cut the finger off”

instead very long post about hearing it from her BIL!! Not once mentioning or alluding to hearing it herself directly from the undertaker!!

Read my post above.

She is referring to her BIl and she follows up with As brother in law never married or had any children himself, he asked DH to pass the ring on to our daughter.

But your first bit is what the post says!!

This seems to be the first post Yesterday 17:59.

The second one is first to mention BIL and getting a phone call Yesterday 18:54.

I asked the undertaker how he managed to get it off, and he said he cut her finger off.

TBF Noafruit did say she asked the undertaker - I suspect it was black humour or very poor practise at that time - and several people working in industry have clearly said it's not done now and wouldn't have been acceptable for decades (if ever).

She re-introduces BIL using his full title there. She does that precisely because there was a different “he” in the preceding paragraph so she could not just say “he”.

Dis you miss the bit where she says BIL sent her to the undertaker? Why would BIL have known how the ring came off when he didn’t speak to the undertaker? And why would OP have asked BIL when the undertaker was right there to ask?

no it doesn’t!!

I got a phone call from my brother in law

is the “first bit of the post”

why on earth would you go in to such detail about a phone call heating something from someone second hand

when you could say

“i once went to an undertaker in person. and heard direct from the undertaker himself that he’s chopped off the finger!”

Fuck sake. Finish reading the sentence. He asks her to collect the ring. He does not say how the ring was removed.

I think you're being deliberately obtuse now.

Yes, while I will defend @notafruit’s description of who did what to whom, I still believe that she was either told a lie by the undertaker, it was a bad joke or she misinterpreted what he said.