To be annoyed that DH used my Christmas gift before I did

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Just that really

He bought me a book for Christmas, not one I had asked for, more of one of his interests than mine but I would still read.

I haven't had chance to start reading it yet. Tonight I walk into the living room to see him sat reading it himself.

AIBU to say that he is out of order to have done so?

I read lots of books, still wouldn't care if someone read it first.

He certainly should have asked you first. But if you haven't opened it since Christmas well why shouldn't he read it if he wants to.

Ask him for another present which is more to your taste. X

Ok OP what was his other gift to you?

A new bike you say? 🤔

Thought so 🤣

A book you didn't want but which MUST be read in a time frame of his choosing or he'll just take it and read it, without at least asking?

I'd be pissed off too but also be grateful you didnt walk in on him wearing the red lacy thong he also bought "you" for Christmas. So, every cloud, OP.

That said, I once bought a hardback version of a book I was really looking forward to reading, and I was enjoying every minute, and then I got to about page 300 and due to a printing error there was a gap of about 50 pages in the story.

This is the 21st century and I got a paperback version through Amazon within 48 hours, but the feeling of getting to the end of that page and not being able to read any more was awful! In the internet age, gratification should be instant, surely????😫

If your DH bought you a puzzle for Christmas and you'd had in mind I'm going y start that tomorrow, would you not think it rude if he started it without checking what you had in mind? Suppose OP was about to start the book, does she wait for him to finish it or do they book share?

Kindle app? Pretty much instant, and you were buying off Amazon anyway.

I know, but it's not the same.

And I sound less convinced by that argument every time I use it. Other than not having a book on my bookshelf for the kids to pick up, it is the same.........

In that case he should certainly cede the book to her, and hopefully won't sit on the arm of her chair saying "have you got to the bit where ........" every 10 minutes.

Why are all the previous posters missing the point?! He bought himself a gift but pretended it was for you.

He owes you a replacement present! Cheeky sod…

I’m glad other people still use the Homer Simpson Bowling Ball reference!

When it's his birthday buy him your favourite lipstick and if he hasn't used it within a couple of weeks, use it yourself.

What an arsehole! Buying you a gift which he clearly wanted for himself! If he wanted it so badly, why didn't he ask you to get it for him, rather than effectively stealing your present back. If my DH did this to me, I would have made a joke of it at the time of unwrapping, I would have looked him straight in the eye, and said something like, "well this is clearly something you bought for yourself, now where's my real present?" Trust me, he wouldn't make THAT mistake again!

🤣This

I'd be a bit annoyed by this because DP is quite rough with books, whereas as I read a newish looking book it usually stays looking reasonably nice.

When's his birthday? What are you going to get yourself?

If it transpired that my DH had bought himself a gift and fronted it as a gift for me, then yes, I would be annoyed, and I would be telling him directly that you aren't impressed.

Actually two because he got one extra.

YANBU

What did he say when you confronted him?

Exactly this 🙄

So his boundaries are blurred. Wonder what he’s like sharing his new stuff. I wonder hide anything else new so he can’t use it . Not adult behaviour.

I would have been annoyed long before now op!

I would be gifting him some very expensive perfume for his birthday…..or a beautifully scented geranium and rose candle 🕯️

YANBU. Even if I buy myself a magazine I get ultra annoyed if someone flicks through before me. Not to mention it doesn’t seem like he bought it for you in the first place!