To think husband is being a twat

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This afternoon as soon as we got home husband decided to go and play on his PlayStation. Fine.

As soon as he was finished, he then came in the other room and instantly said he was putting the football on meaning the Netflix show the kids were watching had to be turned off. I said that's not fair, he can't have the tv the second he wants it (unless nobody was using it of course).

He then goes upstairs in a huff and watches it up there for 3 hours. In this time, he texts me to check what's for dinner. I Then decide fuck that, I'm not cooking for him so I made kids their own food. He then strops "fine I'll
Order pizza". I said he's being ridiculous. He's an adult and can cook considering we've just spent £130 on food shopping! We also have a car to fix and various other unplanned expenses..

Our child is now in a flap as one of his toys isn't working to which his dad/my husband says "well you need a new one but you'll need to wait 5 years since nobody is allowed to spend money in this house".

He's being a dick isn't he????

This.

Anyone who thinks OP is being in any way unreasonable needs to think about what the situation would be like if it were reversed..

Imagine a husband coming in here and posting this:

This afternoon as soon as we got home wife decided to go and play online bingo on her own. Fine.

As soon as she was finished, she then came in the other room and instantly said she was putting Corrie on meaning the Netflix show the kids were watching had to be turned off. I said that's not fair.

She then goes upstairs in a huff and watches the omnibus up there for 3 hours. In this time, she texts me to check what's for dinner. I then decide I'm not cooking for her so I made kids their own food. She then strops "fine I'll order vegan quiche". I said she's being ridiculous.

It would NEVER happen, would it? It sounds totally ridiculous! So yes, he is being a prize idiot.

Why does the woman order 'vegan quiche' and not pizza? Just asking.

OP good on you. I am married to a DH like this. Every evening we have to vacate the living room so he can play cod. Many weekends football has been the priority when he has bets on. It's a very lonely life! I have put up with it in varying degrees for years with promises to change, help more, give up various addictions. I am now completely trapped and we have 2 dc. It's very complicated and a lot has happened, too much to say. I also receive daily texts regarding what's for dinner. In person he follows it up with 'with'. Apparently this is a question! I too have many times not cooked for him, stopped doing his washing etc. He cannot cook and will order a takeaway rather than make use of the food shop I organise every week. He will not even make pack up for work. This is apparently my job or he buys food every day. Are all men this pathetic?! Why did I not see things clearer sooner. Having the dc has opened my eyes but now we are years and years into it with a mortgage and everything. I am so lost. We both clearly have man babies! X

No. All men are not this pathetic.

Why are you with him?

We know who wears the trousers in that house!

Yep total prick op.

I don't know. Because I always hope things will change. Because of the kids. Because I'm scared of the alternative. Because I don't know how to leave. Because I have severe anxiety and worry about him having the kids and why should he when he does fuck all now with them. Lots of reasons.

It sounds like you have two TVs and can watch different programmes on them. Where's the problem? Children watch their show, man goes upstairs and watches the football. As for texting when he's in the same house - he's being a total dick. He could have watched the match, come down stairs, asked what's for tea and helped you make it. Then you could all sit down as a family and eat, chat and not have horrible huffy atmospheres around your kids. Or am I living in a dream world?

Complete knobhead🤨

Why are you with him?

This is a fair question but realistically many women don’t want to risk being forced to hand their kids over to a useless bastard who can’t even defrost a pre-cooked meal for 50% of their childhoods, so they put up with it. Granted this kind of man is unlikely to go for shared contact, but it’s a risk.

6 of one and half a dozen of another.

Of course he should be "allowed" to watch a live football match (to the poster who said he should wait for kids show to finish).

He asked what's for dinner? Isn't that a normal question. OP cooked for herself and the kids still so presumably was going to cook.

When she said she wouldn't he said he would order pizza. What's wrong with that too of its what he wanted to do?

Sounds like a lot of fuss over nothing. However I do find grown adults playing PS strange but that's just because its not something we do in our house and even our teens were never that over invested.

It sounds like tempers were frayed on both sides but as a football fan it always surprises me when people don't understand watching sport live is different to watching it later

Best word ever!!!

Yes he is, but you carried it on by staying you wasn't cooking for him, you should have cooked and then had a proper adult conversation about how you felt about his behaviour once the children were in bed.

Well he wasn't that bothered about watching it live since he missed the first half of one of them whilst gaming?

My issue isn't that he wanted to watch sport. My issue is that he thinks his desire to watch it was more important that the kids wants and that they have to stop watching something mid-show because he says so. Maybe next time he as something on I will come in and switch it off to watch some reality tv....

I didn't "cook for myself". As mentioned, I took batch food from the freezer for the kids. I ate leftover, which he also could've had. It's not my duty to cook for him. He has two hands and access to ingredients- since I we were both home and I was clearly allocated look after the kids duty, he could maybe have made that pasta for us for once...

He wanted to turn it over, you said no, he went upstairs. Job done, sounds like a lot of fuss and holding grudges which isn't very healthy. I'd just move on and forget this one rather than dragging something so trivial out.

Why does she play bingo and watch a soap, too?

For what it's worth, I don't like quiche (vegan or otherwise), I don't watch soaps and I don't play bingo

Why should she cook for him?!

This place is still so bloody sexist!

Because she was cooking for the kids. Surely most people cook for the family not just some of them?

She didn’t cook for the kids though, she took
out food that she had pre-made for them.

And men don’t automatically get a free cooked meal if they don’t pull their weight just because the woman is feeding the children.

Yes, a very big dick.

so grown men are not allowed to play on the playstation? You are on mumsnet on your pc or whatever? I didnt know there was an age limit for leisure time on a games console.

Did you marry a teenager?

You both sound quite petty and twattish to me. If you were cooking for you and the kids it’s petty not to make some for him as well just because he went upstairs to watch some football that he couldn’t watch downstairs. And I would also be pissed off if someone made a fuss when I ordered a pizza.