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To think husband is being a twat

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redlightgreenlightt · 14/01/2024 19:38

This afternoon as soon as we got home husband decided to go and play on his PlayStation. Fine.

As soon as he was finished, he then came in the other room and instantly said he was putting the football on meaning the Netflix show the kids were watching had to be turned off. I said that's not fair, he can't have the tv the second he wants it (unless nobody was using it of course).

He then goes upstairs in a huff and watches it up there for 3 hours. In this time, he texts me to check what's for dinner. I Then decide fuck that, I'm not cooking for him so I made kids their own food. He then strops "fine I'll
Order pizza". I said he's being ridiculous. He's an adult and can cook considering we've just spent £130 on food shopping! We also have a car to fix and various other unplanned expenses..

Our child is now in a flap as one of his toys isn't working to which his dad/my husband says "well you need a new one but you'll need to wait 5 years since nobody is allowed to spend money in this house".

He's being a dick isn't he????

OP posts:
babysharkx · 14/01/2024 20:31

Is he a big football fan? I can’t see anything wrong with him going upstairs to watch it if he really wanted to and the kids were already entertained watching something else. Actually don’t see the problem with him ordering a pizza either if you were cooking anyway and didn’t make something for him cos you were in a strop.

Glitterbiscuits · 14/01/2024 20:31

Why would anyone marry and have children with someone like this?
He sounds like a child himself

mummylove24 · 14/01/2024 20:32

This afternoon as soon as we got home husband decided to go and play on his PlayStation. Fine.

This alone is a problem. He’s a Man child.

Original poster
redlightgreenlightt · 14/01/2024 20:33

So if the wife doesn't cook nobody will because of course it's the wife's job to feed the man

OP posts:
Gobolina · 14/01/2024 20:35

He's a grown man, if he wants to order pizza because you're not making him food

Wtf did I just read? Grown man also know how to use the kitchen and their own two fucking hands.

ChiIIieB · 14/01/2024 20:35

So the meal that was "planned", what level of planning had gone into it? He knew you were cooking? You hadn't discussed yet who was cooking?

pinkyredrose · 14/01/2024 20:35

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 14/01/2024 20:03

Sounds like you are both being a bit twatty with each other
He's a grown man, if he wants to order pizza because you're not making him food because you're pissed off at him then he can (unless he doesn't work and it's your money)

He can cook with the food they just bought ffs. Why is it her job to feed him?

kisstheblarney · 14/01/2024 20:37

babysharkx · 14/01/2024 20:31

Is he a big football fan? I can’t see anything wrong with him going upstairs to watch it if he really wanted to and the kids were already entertained watching something else. Actually don’t see the problem with him ordering a pizza either if you were cooking anyway and didn’t make something for him cos you were in a strop.

And playing on his PlayStation
And texting to see what food is being served
And opting out of any chores and spending the whole afternoon playing OS or watching football
And not taking his part in family life like making the dinner

What about all this things?

tennesseewhiskey1 · 14/01/2024 20:37

My 9 year old wouldn’t dream of being this rude.

pinkyredrose · 14/01/2024 20:37

HellsToilet · 14/01/2024 20:19

No phone or Playstation for a month seems an apt punishment.

😂

ShaunaSadeki · 14/01/2024 20:39

He sounds like a child

TheSlantedOwl · 14/01/2024 20:42

He’s pathetic. Ugh.

Mamabear2424 · 14/01/2024 20:44

He is, but you are also being very immature by not cooking his dinner and just cooking the kids................

babysharkx · 14/01/2024 20:51

kisstheblarney · 14/01/2024 20:37

And playing on his PlayStation
And texting to see what food is being served
And opting out of any chores and spending the whole afternoon playing OS or watching football
And not taking his part in family life like making the dinner

What about all this things?

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Didn’t seem like the PlayStation was the problem. Fair enough the texting might have been a bit rude. OP hasn’t said he opted out of chores. He could’ve done other chores over the weekend. Sounds like the dinner was already planned and the op was going to cook it but changed her mind?

Ktime · 14/01/2024 20:52

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 14/01/2024 20:03

Sounds like you are both being a bit twatty with each other
He's a grown man, if he wants to order pizza because you're not making him food because you're pissed off at him then he can (unless he doesn't work and it's your money)

Why is it OP’s job to make him food?

SchoolQuestionnaire · 14/01/2024 20:53

babysharkx · 14/01/2024 20:31

Is he a big football fan? I can’t see anything wrong with him going upstairs to watch it if he really wanted to and the kids were already entertained watching something else. Actually don’t see the problem with him ordering a pizza either if you were cooking anyway and didn’t make something for him cos you were in a strop.

Do you not see anything wrong with him ignoring his family before that while he games? Or with him attempting to turn over the tv that his kids have been watching? Or with him sulking and behaving like a twat because his dw decided not to cook and suggested that he make himself something using the abundance of food they have in the house rather than order a pizza using money that could better be used on other things?

kisstheblarney · 14/01/2024 20:56

Yes she did change her mind @babysharkx and who could blame her?

Five ours of him lounging around and texting like a child about his dinner.... please!

Set your bar higher than you have, you're going to be heading for a destine of misery if you accept that shit!

"Texting might have been a bit rude" ...... dear god, what some people accept!

We'll done OP!

kisstheblarney · 14/01/2024 20:58

Mamabear2424 · 14/01/2024 20:44

He is, but you are also being very immature by not cooking his dinner and just cooking the kids................

She didn't have st cook the kids..... they had freezer food, which I'm sure once he's finished his relaxation he could manage? Or maybe he's not allowed to use the cooker in case he burns his fingers, I mean he is a good isn't he?

a222 · 14/01/2024 20:58

he’s not your husband, he sounds like a stroppy teenage son like the ones mums come here to complain about. lol

get rid, u deserve better x

Snowdogsmitten · 14/01/2024 20:58

What a low quality man.

DC1888 · 14/01/2024 21:01

Snowydaysfaraway · 14/01/2024 20:17

Dh? Surely you mean a teen ds?

Yep..man child. OP does he wear a baseball cap back to front and scream "I hate you" while throwing a strop?

There's something about an adult playing video games that doesn't sit right. Get the same feeling with grown ups who watch wrestling (always felt that when it comes to WWE no adult should be allowed in the premises unless accompanied with a child they are supervising).

ReadingSoManyThreads · 14/01/2024 21:02

Your husband has given me the ICK.

My first husband was a complete stroppy, lazy, man-child like this.

My second husband is a mature adult, thankfully.

Evaka · 14/01/2024 21:04

Who. Are. These. Men?

There are so many threads this weekend about married guys/fathers who are unbelievably, inexplicably immature and nasty.

WagWoofWalkMeeoow · 14/01/2024 21:07

Mamabear2424 · 14/01/2024 20:44

He is, but you are also being very immature by not cooking his dinner and just cooking the kids................

Poor kids 😳😳

they're not very tasty either....

JellyWellyBoots · 14/01/2024 21:17

You married a man child. I hate blokes like this, reminds me off all my 2 ex boyfriends. Emphasis on the EX.