A guy at work had been off for a while now. I’ve been a bit busy and I wanted to message him but I was a bit unsure as I didn’t want to bother him seeing as he was off work.
Last night be texted me saying “oh great” (not hi or how are you to start a convo like a normal person would) I said “erm? Problem” he went “no nothing. It’s just you’ve been the one that’s been super quiet over the last 3 weeks and haven’t messaged” so I said “look, I didn’t really know if you wanted to hear off me or just wanted space. I couldn’t really figure it out” then he later said he was “disappointed I hadn’t said anything” and I was like “well some people like to be left alone. Not that deep”
So then, the convo carried on. And he said something about someone using his office desk space and said “Its my space but I don’t care anymore about what they do.” So I said “what do you mean you don’t care. Where are you planning on sitting at work. On the roof”
Later on he said I’m often a bit “irritated” with him. So I said “I think you’re being dramatic and I’m not tolerating that because it’s not true at all” then suddenly he went “well no I’m saying you’re not always like that” so my response was “I don’t care, I’m not having you tell me about what I’m like when you barely even know me” the convo then carried on.
But I don’t know….are these red flags. I’m starting to think they could be. Either that or he’s super needy.
TLDR: are these red flags from this guy. The conversation is stressing me out and I’m wondering if I’m the problem or him.