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Original poster

Rude kid/sleepover

60 replies

sweatband · 13/01/2024 18:41

Have a child staying over tonight from sons school, age 9.

He's already made a fat mum joke multiple times (yes I am on the portly side so have taken offence), and he's been incredibly offensive and rude on other levels, non-stop showboating throughout about his Nike airforce this and his foreign holiday that, even asking my child why he always wears the same trainers (he doesn't but that's beside the point).

He has made me realise how polite my kids are though, every cloud...

I just don't know how to control my annoyance at such a rude brat. AIBU to never allow another sleepover again?

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Blobblobblob · 13/01/2024 18:42

Of course. You don't want your son thinking this is normal. It's a awful behaviour. Tell the parents!

SusieSussex · 13/01/2024 18:43

Definitely never invite this child back.

justalittlesnoel · 13/01/2024 18:43

I mean it's not even 7 - can you send them home 😂

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sweatband · 13/01/2024 18:44

I'm developing a migraine and may take to my room and leave OH to monitor proceedings, I'm that annoyed!!

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Bibbitybobbitty · 13/01/2024 18:44

I'd be giving him a warning & if it doesn't stop ring his parents to collect tonight. No reason why you should put up with his rudeness in your home.

MillicentRogers · 13/01/2024 18:45

If he made a personal jibe at my appearance I would phone his parents straight away and tell them to come and get him and why.

Fredthefrog · 13/01/2024 18:46

I'd tell the kid to find his manners or he can go home. I'd follow through as well and call parents to pick up if needed. Has he always been rude or is this new?

PonyPatter44 · 13/01/2024 18:47

I think I'd tell him that he's obviously not happy andxring his parents to come and get him. I'd tell them why as well.

Why does your son want to be friends with this little twit?

AyeRightYeAre · 13/01/2024 18:48

Fredthefrog · 13/01/2024 18:46

I'd tell the kid to find his manners or he can go home. I'd follow through as well and call parents to pick up if needed. Has he always been rude or is this new?

Absolutely.

Warning first. Then consequence.

NotSuchASmugMarriedAnymore · 13/01/2024 18:49

Just tell him off.

Tell him if he doesn't behave himself he won't be able to come again.

mouseychick · 13/01/2024 18:49

One warning. Then he's out.

BudgetFoodie · 13/01/2024 18:49

End the sleepover!

Have you pulled him up on his behaviour?

DD still remembers the night it was my turn to collect her and 3 classmates from orchestra practice. Two of the kids (9/10) were being right brats and wouldn't shut up when I told them to.
I stopped the car (layby) on a dark stretch of road, turned off the engine and refused to move until they were quiet................never had any issues with them after that 😂

takealettermsjones · 13/01/2024 18:49

Fredthefrog · 13/01/2024 18:46

I'd tell the kid to find his manners or he can go home. I'd follow through as well and call parents to pick up if needed. Has he always been rude or is this new?

This 100%. If that was my kid at someone else's house I would 100% want to be told, and I'd be mortified.

Milkandnosugarplease · 13/01/2024 18:50

You need to call out that behaviour and say it is not polite. Don’t let a 9 year old bully you

Original poster
sweatband · 13/01/2024 18:50

He's actually usually, to my prior experience, quite quiet. He put in a proviso that the fat mum joke wasn't about me but... by the very fact he did that I know it was, that bit almost made me laugh lol

My kids went deathly silent, there was a tumbleweed moment.

The showboating is just as I expected, the father is a bit of a flamboyant bragger but sheez, I have been quite astounded. A persons worth is not in how many fancy trainers one owns, my son has zero interest in fashion.

His parents are out on the piss no doubt so little chance of getting them to come back, and I'm not a very confrontational person, but I won't have him back!

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Dita73 · 13/01/2024 18:50

Phone his parents. Say you’ve come down with a migraine and they need to pick the little git up

TheLogicalSong · 13/01/2024 18:51

Kick him out.

Jenkibubble · 13/01/2024 18:52

Deffo this .
I would also sit your child down and discuss their choice of friends .

Sorry you have endured this .
Some kids are plain vile and the parents should be embarrassed !!!

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sweatband · 13/01/2024 18:56

I'd literally die of embarrassment if I found out my child was like this at someone else's home, or anywhere!!

Eyes have been well and truly opening today, never again

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bossybloss · 13/01/2024 18:56

I wouldn’t ring the parents to pick him up. I would say “Are you always so rude in other peoples houses?” Use your body language .. teacher stare etc.

ThinWomansBrain · 13/01/2024 18:59

send him to bed if you don't think parents will collect him
don't invite back

Hankunamatata · 13/01/2024 19:01

Why havnt you pulled him on his behaviour.
Surely when he made a fat mum joke, you turn around and tell him not to be so rude.
Show boating could just be anxiety and the need to fit in.

Thatnameistaken · 13/01/2024 19:01

There's nothing like someone else's kids to make you appreciate your own...

ThinWomansBrain · 13/01/2024 19:02

maybe text the parents first
if they wont collect, tell him its early bed as his parents can't be arsed to collect him
they obviously don't like the rude little twat either

bloodyeffinnora · 13/01/2024 19:02

I wouldn't send him home as that would be embarassing for your child who hasn't done anything wrong.

some kids are just braggers.
just don't invite again