Rude kid/sleepover

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Have a child staying over tonight from sons school, age 9.

He's already made a fat mum joke multiple times (yes I am on the portly side so have taken offence), and he's been incredibly offensive and rude on other levels, non-stop showboating throughout about his Nike airforce this and his foreign holiday that, even asking my child why he always wears the same trainers (he doesn't but that's beside the point).

He has made me realise how polite my kids are though, every cloud...

I just don't know how to control my annoyance at such a rude brat. AIBU to never allow another sleepover again?

He's only 9 and likely unwittingly just behaving as is normal in his family.

Don't write him off, he's just a kid.

All it takes is to quietly let him know things happen differently in your house, e.g:

In our house we don't comment or make jokes about other people's bodies.
In our house we think what people do and say is more important than what they wear.

And quickly move on, continue the sleepover "fun". He'll hear you and have a think about it later. When you grow up in a house where people behave like this and someone quietly and kindly tells you different, it really makes you stop and think, even if its not immediately obvious to others...

I'd say something like "people that brag about all the great things they have or make rude comments about other people usually do it because they don't feel very good about themselves." And leave it there...

Plus never have him back!

Sorry, but that’s odd. Call them out and say they’re behaving badly, but that’s a weird passive aggressive response to it.

What a horrible child OP - Parents must be delightful.

Not the time or place imo. Sleepovers are quite scary for kids - they can be fun, yes, but often intense and a bit too much. This behaviour sounds extreme, but it's not surprising that kids sometimes act out or go a bit feral in these circumstances. I'd prefer always to give the benefit of the doubt (along with toast/cereal/cheese sandwiches/hot chocolate or whatever the picky eater wanted to be comfortable).

This is why i don't allow my kids to go on sleepovers. You sound awful

Don't stop all sleepovers. Can't tar all children with the same brush but I'd certainly stop any future sleepovers with that particular child..... not just sleepovers but no coming for dinner etc

One of DD's 'friends' was so poorly behaved on a playdate that DD never invited her over again...

We've all been there!
I once allowed my daughter and her friend to choose one treat at the shops. Friend wanted all of hers and more than half of my daughter's. My daughter said no, I backed her up, friend got SUPER nasty. I definitely had to be the grown up and pull the 'we do not speak to people like that in our home' and also make sure the kids played in the main room where I could hear them, as I could not trust what this friend would say if she got my daughter alne in her bedroom where she thought I couldn't hear her!
It was actually a really good thing for my daughter, we had a very honest conversation after friend went home about what makes for a good friendship, and how important it is that friends respect our boundaries, etc. We haven't had play dates with that child again.

Its a lesson to the wet parents that let their children talk to them like shit. They then do that to other adults as no one has taught them how to behave - and this is the result.