AIBU for being shocked by my husbands behaviour ?

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Hello everyone,I need some advice as i am being to feel very unresonable.I F 34 and husband 36 have a child with disabilities.
Before we got married we didn't discuss kids at all,we both assumed that we want them one day.
A week after marrying I got pregnant and it was unplanned.
I wasn't ready to have a child but didn't consider abortion ,my husband said maybe we should not keep it.
Our son is now 7 and everytime things get hard with our son and husband gets upset he tells me that I should solely care for him and its not fair to ask him for help since he had asked for an abortion back then.
This is only when he is inconvenienced by the sons behaviour.
I get upset all the time but I have never wished for the abortion as I love my son and even though life is hard is also full with love and purpose.
I know he loves his son deep down but am I unreasonable of being shocked about the things he says ?
I find it very unethical since our son is now here born and well.
Some perspective on this would be very helpful .
Thank you

Well done on leaving him. Now try to put space between yourself and his family. They seem to be living rent-free in your brain! Honestly, it feels so good to be in your own space and not know what he or his family are thinking... Don't read their messages; stop replying. This is a normal part of ending a relationship; they will have to talk just to him now. And it will help so much with your healing, making you a stronger mother for your son.

One thing that struck me reading through your posts OP is when talking about current discussions you talk about 'they' (his family) and how they are giving their opinions. In your position I would be talking to EXH only. This is between the two of you only and, from your side, nothing to do with them. If he wants to bring them in for their two-penneth that's up to him, but you don't have to interact with them. They are obviously going to be on his side so interacting with them isn't doing you or your situation any favours.

Good luck, keep strong and stick to your guns

Don’t go back OP! You’re a strong woman and it’s all your son needs. You sound like a great mum.

That's such an evil thing to say about your own child and a mummy who's willing to make excuses for him... You're well out of it. All the best in making a better life for yourself and your son.

Congratulations op. You are strong and brave. Block his family and carry on with what you are doing. They think they can grind you down to change your mind. Keep going 💐

Just wow! What's perplexing me here isn't what he's said...which is shocking enough, it's the fact that he continues to do so and you are accepting it.
I don't feel it's a dig at your son, it's an immature and selfish response to stress he's not handling....and it's at your expense!
There's a saying that hurt people hurt people, but he needs to take responsibility for his actions....and live with the consequences. I'd be warning him of those consequences if he ever does similar again...and be prepared to follow through.

Well done for getting away from that pig of a man. Best wishes going forward, im sure you'll look back in years time so grateful you were brave enough to leave! Stay strong!

Wow so when they going gets tough he’s wishing his son was dead basically. Truly awful. Hope you are ok.

@NaughtybutNice77 it's like I woke up one day and I felt shocked as well but I have still a lot of work to do in therapy as to why did I accept this behaviour and others in the first place.Both mine and EH parents are in abusive marriages and many behaviours were normalised.In my culture there is still a belief that if the woman was good then the man wouldn't behave like this.The gaslighting from him and his family has caused a lot of serious problems in myself and I can only see them now that I am out of there.