I have posted about this relationship on the relationship page but this man is making me feel as though I am still being unreasonable so I would like others opinions as I feel I can't send the wood from the trees at the moment.
Backstory - I met a man two years ago and he did the chasing and I was slow to take him up on it. Once I did he showed himself to have a lot of commitment issues. Didn't cheat but didn't think of himself as part of a partnership - I often felt like a second thought. I broke up with him last summer because of feeling anxious/lonely in the relationship. He promised he could change etc.
This winter we have been speaking every day. I told him I was trying to learn to trust him as I would like to try again. I began to invite him to big life events again/plan some work around his schedule so we could meet/travel to visit him in his city. We weren't sleeping together (some intimate touching one night) but we have been sending sexual texts/photos regularly. I was trying to show him with actions I was moving towards trusting him. He said he would like to be more a part of my life with my friends so I invited him regularly to events with them/sent photos from our times. We spoke about future plans, but to be fair mostly sexual ones.
Last week I invited him to my house for 'movie and a takeaway' and explained it was a big deal for me to take this step (he hasn't been in my house since the break up). During our chats leading up to dinner it became clear he wasn't interested in taking that step. After all the months of build up to this for me, emotions hit me and I explained to him that I felt led on. He said that the intimate touching was 'goofing around' and he hadn't considered a future, he was just enjoying 'sharing his time with me'.
He is incredibly baffled, and doesn't see anything wrong in his actions. Once I realised this I simply stopped reply but he said I have blindsided him entirely. He is acting as though I am being highly unreasonable. AIBU?