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To tell MIL to stop cooking food like that

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Ohhbaby · 11/01/2024 11:47

My mother in law defrosts food, especially meat in the plastic packages / clingwrap that it comes in, in the mocrowave. Or sometime she will pop it in one of those ziplock bags and take it out of the freezer and pop it in the microwave for 10 or 20 minutes to defrost.

When it comes out that plastic is sooo hot. And it's so bad for our health. And it is not like she just pops it in plastic Tupperware(which is bad enough), it is literally clingwrap.

I know we can not side step every health hazard, I mean there is pesticide and microplastic in probably all our food, but I feel like we should try and sidestep those that we can.

I have 2 small children, 18 months and 3 years and pregnant with our 3rd. I really really dislike the thought of my children eating that meat .

Would you say something to your MIL or not?
How would you say it?
With my own mom I feel very comfortable to say something. "Ooh mom did you know it's really bad for our health if you do xyz"
But I feel like my MIL is sensitive. My husband grew up drinking hot chocolate in his bottle, and eating lost of sugar and processed food. So I'm already always saying, "aw mom thank you but we prefer them not to have sweets every half an hour etc.
We have different ways of doing things, especially health wise. I don't want her to continuesly feel like I know better and am questioning her decisions, but man, it's bugging me so much!

OP posts:
Daftasabroom · 13/01/2024 22:23

pinkstripeycat · 13/01/2024 16:46

Surely the plastic just melts…..
Mostly the packing says remove before cooking even if it’s microwavable

No plastics don't just melt.

Ahhhhh

Borrowedtime · 13/01/2024 22:54

@Ohhbaby Why not frame it as concern about her health?

"Hey MIL, I've noticed you defrost your meat in plastic in the microwave. I'm really concerned about the long term health impacts of that for you and FIL. Health advice says we should defrost meat..." and you could couple it with a gift "...and I've bought you this special microwave-safe container to use..."

Lyraloo · 14/01/2024 08:38

Maybe because you live a long way away, she just wants to spoil her grandchildren a bit when she does see them. Maybe try to be a bit more relaxed for a couple of days, it’s easy to teach children that this is a special treat from grandma because we don’t see her often. Be thankful you have a loving grandmother for your children. Many don’t!

GrannyRose15 · 14/01/2024 11:15

Daftasabroom · 13/01/2024 15:28

You don't need a defrosting tray, just use an aluminum non stick backing tray on a wire rack e.g. from your grill.

You’ve missed my point. I was suggesting buying MIL a present. Ie being kind to her while getting the message across that there are better ways of doing things. I’ve noticed before that Mumsnetters aren’t great at subtlety.

Daftasabroom · 14/01/2024 11:32

ScottishWaylander · 13/01/2024 17:12

Daftasabroom, for there to be no harm it is advised that the plastic wrap does not touch the food during heating. Especially with fatty foods.

MIL is defrosting meat wrapped in cling film so there will almost certainly be a transfer of chemicals whether or not this includes microplastics.

Sure but outgassing and depolymerization are very different to microplastics. The danger from microwaving plastics even in direct contact is absolutely miniscule. Which is my point.

It's still a horrid way to defrost anything mind you.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/5mKq06jg32zpzwBTR1sYQp8/is-it-safe-to-use-cling-film-in-the-microwave

BBC Two - Trust Me, I'm a Doctor, Series 6, Episode 3 - Is it safe to use cling film in the microwave?

We sent cling films to the lab to see if we should worry about chemicals getting into food

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/5mKq06jg32zpzwBTR1sYQp8/is-it-safe-to-use-cling-film-in-the-microwave

Heather37231 · 14/01/2024 13:12

Lyraloo · 14/01/2024 08:38

Maybe because you live a long way away, she just wants to spoil her grandchildren a bit when she does see them. Maybe try to be a bit more relaxed for a couple of days, it’s easy to teach children that this is a special treat from grandma because we don’t see her often. Be thankful you have a loving grandmother for your children. Many don’t!

ha ha, if anyone told my 7 year old that his mince being defrosted in cling film by Granny was “a special treat” he’d think we’d lost the plot.

And if the kids are so bored at Granny’s that they are literally watching her defrost the meat, you won’t be doing a return visit any time soon!

I get where you are coming from but doesn’t work in this scenario. I don’t agree it’s a heath risk anyway though so not going to suggest an alternative.

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