My boyfriend and I are both 31 and have been together for a year. He still lives in the house he bought with his ex. They broke up in May 2022 and the house was put up on sale shortly after.
A buyer fell through early on in our relationship and they recently refused an offer as if was way below the price they bought it for. Truth is, they won't be able to sell unless they lose money as the house prices fell down since their purchase.
My lease is up at the current place I'm renting in March. A few months ago he told me that he wants me to move in to that house. Ex doesn't contribute to the mortgage since she moved away and I will be paying rent. We discussed then that I'd move in at the year mark, which is now.
2 weeks ago I told him that as it's his house, I'd need him to let me know re the timelines/plans of me moving. He said OK. I think moving in together (without further commitments such as kids, marriage or shared assets) at the year mark in our age isn't rushing things as we're keen to start a family at some point. I checked whether he felt the same way and he said that he agreed, otherwise he wouldn't have wanted me to move in.
Despite the reassurance, there has been no talks about it since. I don't necessarily agree with cliches but in this case I feel like if he wanted, he would. I have enough deposit saved up to buy a house 5+ hours drive away in a more affordable area but neither of us are keen on a long distance relationship so it would mean the end of us.
I love him so much but this whole thing stresses me out. I want to get on with my life. AIBU to want to buy my own house potentially ending it with him? What would you do?