Millie Mackintosh

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I saw this posted on Instagram by the reality star/influencer Millie Mackintosh. Is it me or is this an unbelievable thing to post. She has listed her top 5 non-negotiables/priorities. Number 5 being quality time with loved ones. She says this is not a achieveable everyday, but does it at least once a week! She has two young children, I think they are 2 and 3 years old.

This is absolutely crazy to me. Shouldn't a parent spend quality time with their kids every day? I know I certainly try to. Even when I'm working and or extremely busy/tired, I always make sure I am there for bedtime or I'll play with them when I get home or even have a chat whilst preparing dinner etc. ...and thats the bare minimum.

It's really shocked me. I'd love to hear others thoughts. AIBU here in thinking this is unusual and not great parenting?

OP, you come across as quite vacuous.

This is probably the single most unimportant thing I have read all day. Why, oh why, did I click on it?

Exactly this - I wouldn’t refer to homework, dinner, bath, the bedtime routine etc as ‘quality time with the kids’ (even though we love our kids more than anything) as everything is on a tight schedule for two working parents. Quality time for me is not stressing over what time it is and needing to get something done quickly, so the weekend is the only chance for most parents to have that time.

Dripping with judgment, that's what your post is.

No one should be taking notice of what influencers say, it’s all just clickbait.

Influencers were always a thing, they were just on TV or in newspapers instead of social media. Don't tell me you've never copied something from Alan Titchmarsh or Delia Smith or Jo Frost. Or Mary Berry, or Mrs Beaton, or however far back you go.

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I think you’ve been pretty bitchy with this one. In fact, I’d probably respect her more for being realistic and looking for proper quality time.

Do you genuinely believe that all time with your children is quality time? I like many other posters wouldn’t count some of the daily grind as quality time.

I think historically they at least had some proven expertise in their area, or maybe some qualifications. I can't bear people who have just decided they are gurus of everything and tell the rest of us how to live. And it depresses me how many people believe them!
If someone beautiful wants to give out make up or fashion tips, that's fine. But they're not doctors, dieticians, child psychologists, physios, occupational therapists, teachers, psychologists - so they shouldn't act as if they are!

She definitely does not 😂

I agree that 'loved ones' spreads to parents/siblings etc - if she's saying she prioritises getting up before her kids to exercise, it does sound like she's with her kids when they get up!

I took it that the 'quality' was probably re partner & kids (as in mot time grabbed for a quick chat) and then more generally her close family.

I think it's a great mindset to prioritise time with family (as above) at least weekly, if possible.

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Personally, I consider any time spent with my children to be quality time.

Yes, when I'm wiping my toddlers bum several times a day I think, "what quality time this is. This is exactly the same as a lovely family trip to the park or a nice walk down the beach."
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I had never heard of her, but looked her up on Instagram just to see what she wrote. You are missing half her title. It is not her "top 5 non-negotiables/priorities", as you claim in your OP. It is her "top 5 non-negotiables/priorities for my health & well-being", which is quite a different thing. So she mentions training, nutrition, activities for her mental and emotional welfare, i.e. time with her loved ones. Which I think most people would agree covers main areas for health and well-being. She mentions her children directly in three of the five points, and the final one, "quality time", talks about loved ones directly. In that she is separating this point from previously mentioned every day activities with her children, I think it is clear that by quality time she doesn't mean everyday life activities, she means doing special activities.

Which leaves me to conclude that either you have chosen to omit information from her post because you want to find fault with her, or this is thread is a way to trick people into reading her posts. In any case, I have never spent this much time analysing an influencer's instagram post before and hope never to do so again.

I agree.

Me too! I adore that character 😂

Aren’t you judgy and sickening

Personally, I consider any time spent with my children to be quality time.

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Nice one.

”Personally, I consider any time spent with my children to be quality time.”

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Good for you, your medal is in the post!

She clearly refers to her children as 'the girls' several times.

By loved ones I think she means parents/siblings/friends.

It's an observation, and that goes for any influencer putting their life on Instagram.