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Sacked for using 'N' word

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Horrace · 08/01/2024 22:08

I don't know how to copy link sorry but has anyone been following the story of the Lloyd's bank manager who was sacked for asking a relevant question in a so called anti racism training session by his employers but in his question he used the full 'N' word.
His question I believe was how would he be expected to deal with black employees or customers speaking to each other using that word.
The trainer was so offended by the word, she had to take 5 days off work. However, he got sacked.
He has since been awarded £500,00 but no apology from Lloyd's and no job back.
As far as we know, the ridiculous incompetent trainer is still employed.

I am close to this story but afraid to say how.
But will say that I'm losing sleep and furious more and more at this bank.

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Redundantrobin · 08/01/2024 23:26

ThomasinaLivesHere · 08/01/2024 23:16

Quite a few people are convinced on this thread that he must be racist and did it on purpose but I think lots of people aren’t aware that context doesn’t matter anymore. It seems to be an idea from the USA. It used to be that context did matter.

Context shouldn’t matter. You are either being racist / unacceptable / bigoted / a bully / harassing someone or you aren’t. The fact you didn’t mean to be offensive is not important. Making a mistake is forgivable and education is more useful than censure in most cases, but ‘I didn’t mean to upset anyone’ isn’t an excuse anymore - thank goodness.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 08/01/2024 23:26

sprigatito · 08/01/2024 22:18

Cop yourself on OP. How extensive do you think the problem of black bank employees/customers throwing the N word around is? Really? This chucklefuck got exactly what he deserved.

Yes this!! He knew what he was doing and thought he could do it anyway.

IClaudine · 08/01/2024 23:27

tachetastic · 08/01/2024 23:23

In fairness, he had had one go at finding an appropriate way to describe the word and the course leader encouraged him to be clearer. To say he was then too clear when all he did was respond to the course leader's question is I think a tad unfair.

The course leader should have been explicit and said "if you think the word might be unpleasant for others in the group, just give us the first letter". Otherwise the appropriate response would have been to thank the man for being open but explain that even in the context of the course, this language is not appropriate. I am sure the man would have agreed. Then leave it at that.

Don't take a week off, get the man sacked and cost the company a whole load of money.

Edited

It was Lloyd's that did the sacking, not the trainer. I don't think the trainer was directly employed by Lloyd's, but I have only skim read the judgement, so could be wrong.

MyCatWoofs · 08/01/2024 23:27

In fairness, he had had one go at finding an appropriate way to descrivbe the word and the course leader encouraged him to be clearer.

Clearer was obviously to say ‘the N word’. To pretend that this man didn’t know that is ridiculous.

With an otherwise clear record, which apparently he had, I am surprised it was dealt with how it was, it seems harsh.

But, he was absolutely wrong to say it and I just can not believe that he didn’t realise that.

SisterHyster · 08/01/2024 23:28

2024GarlicCloves · 08/01/2024 23:19

Might not be. When I lived in Streatham, the young black men all called each other "[word under discussion]" all the day long. There were a lot of them around, and they weren't quiet. It was like living in a rap song 😏 Since rap artists still pepper their acts with that word, I assume their fans still pepper their talk with it. And that they have bank accounts.

Totally likely conversations in such a bank branch:
Between customers: "Yo, [word], how much you need for your ride?"
Customer to friend behind desk: "Hey, [word], you working here now?"

Whether the dyslexically oppressed white man had another agenda or not, it's perfectly valid to ask how employees should respond if they've been told not to tolerate use of this word by customers. As someone pointed out upthread, if a white person reprimands them for using what is cultural argot to them, that person could then be accused of racism. They do need clear guidance.

The trainer, though ... 🙄

Anyone who can’t work out how to deal with that interaction is not someone who should be in a management role.

It’s about keeping professional language in a professional setting.

It should be treated like a swear word. It’s not racist or illegal or even immoral to call people cunts, dickheads or fuckwits. However, you can’t run up to someone in a bank and call them a fuckwit. Even if it is done in “good faith”

AmyDudley · 08/01/2024 23:28

*But the tribunal was about his dyslexia affected him, not about how your son's dyslexia affects him.

Perhaps you should ask the judge to reconsider Carl's dyslexia issues in light of the overwhelming evidence that your son (a totally unrelated person who wasn't there) does not have the same issues with his dyslexia.

It's almost as if it presents differently in different people.*

Gosh don't you have an unpleasant way with words.

My DS has also worked extensively in education specifically with adults and children with learning difficulties, he has a very wide experience of people with dyslexia as well as having it himself. I have worked in education for many years and worked with children with dyslexia, my sister has worked in education for many years specialising in working with children with learning difficulties. Between us we have seen many examples of the behaviour and difficulties associated with dyslexia.

Inability to stop oneself using language well known to be offensive is not a characteristic of dyslexia. This man is not stupid, or he wouldn't be in the job he was in, he may have another condition that means he is inadvertantly offensive, but dyslexia on it's own is very unlikely to cause this behaviour.

Sighhhhh · 08/01/2024 23:29

I don’t want to go to work and hear that shit, training or no training. If he wasn’t being malicious (need full context), he ought to have been disciplined. He didn’t need to say the whole word when something like “N word” would have sufficed.

I’m dubious of the need to terminate his employment though, unless that individual had a history of deeply offensive behaviour in their workplace.

I have heard from current Lloyds employees that Lloyds purports to be very inclusive and frank with respect to race and ethnicity. Probably attempting to appear to compensate for propping up the transatlantic slave trade via its insurance offerings.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 08/01/2024 23:29

Notimeforaname · 08/01/2024 22:15

Taking 5 days off because someone used an offensive word in a question about how to deal with an offensive word, is fucking insane 🤣

What a great way to get time off work 🙄

Nellle · 08/01/2024 23:29

Anyone who says the word itself rather than the very easy phrase "N word" is at best an idiot.

BeckyBloomwood3 · 08/01/2024 23:29

Sighhhhh · 08/01/2024 23:29

I don’t want to go to work and hear that shit, training or no training. If he wasn’t being malicious (need full context), he ought to have been disciplined. He didn’t need to say the whole word when something like “N word” would have sufficed.

I’m dubious of the need to terminate his employment though, unless that individual had a history of deeply offensive behaviour in their workplace.

I have heard from current Lloyds employees that Lloyds purports to be very inclusive and frank with respect to race and ethnicity. Probably attempting to appear to compensate for propping up the transatlantic slave trade via its insurance offerings.

Full ruling
https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/64e88740691aa3000da56dec/Carl_Borg-Neal__vsLloyds_Banking_Group_Plc.pdf

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/64e88740691aa3000da56dec/Carl_Borg-Neal__vsLloyds_Banking_Group_Plc.pdf

Livelovebehappy · 08/01/2024 23:30

Whether he meant to be offensive or not we will never know, but it was certainly a win for him in the end getting such a large pay out. And I’m guessing he’s having a little chuckle to himself when he looks at his bank balance. The right outcome in the end I think….

SisterHyster · 08/01/2024 23:30

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The context here would be if people were speaking Spanish or English. And I can’t believe I’m actually having to explain that.

Sighhhhh · 08/01/2024 23:31

To blame dyslexia is genuine madness.

VolvoFan · 08/01/2024 23:32

SisterHyster · 08/01/2024 23:30

The context here would be if people were speaking Spanish or English. And I can’t believe I’m actually having to explain that.

Indeed. But context doesn't matter, right? The n-word is offensive, right?

MNUse · 08/01/2024 23:32

Butterandtoast · 08/01/2024 23:10

Taking a week off work because you heard an offensive word is fucking ridiculous.

From what’s been reported, it’s the last word Stephen Lawrence heard before being stabbed to death by five white youths who didn’t know him, because he was black. It’s a word with a lot of aggression, including murderous aggression, behind it, and in this case it was being used in a deliberately disingenuous way by a well-off and comfortably situated white man who clearly surmised, correctly, that he could get away with it as even if he was sacked the payout he would get would be more than ten times the annual wage for most people in this country. It was a display of power. It’s not just ‘an offensive word’.

Brainworm · 08/01/2024 23:33

Sister and Bainbridge, I agree with your posts.

There is a pernicious trend of people trying to dictate to others what they can and can't do (there is another current post about pronouns in one's bio), including what words they can and can't use. They are despotic about this and do not allow any room for disagreement, and insisting disagreement is evidence of racism or transphobia.

It is possible that there are many reasons, not linked to racism or transphobia that may lead to people not wanting to agree to never allowing a word to cross their lips in any given context. This is a world away from saying that the use of the N word is acceptable.

For those who believe that this view is evidence of ignorance or racism, what if it genuinely isn't? Do you think there are no circumstances in the world that a shire person could say the word? If so, what does this achieve? How does this right the wrongs?

I am in no way advocating that the N word should be used in interactions and first hand speech, but unutterable in any context - give over.

drspouse · 08/01/2024 23:33

cryinglaughing · 08/01/2024 22:18

An anti racism trainer who takes 5 days off after hearing the n word 🤣
You couldn't make it up!!

I feel for the fella who has lost his job 😞

What would the poor thing have done had she been in branch dealing with people who used the word in earnest? Either Black people using it to each other or a Little Britain type using it as hate speech?

MissTrip82 · 08/01/2024 23:33

I can’t think of a single good faith, well-meaning reason why a white person would use that session to ask how better to police the words of others and do so using a racial slur that every white person I’ve ever known does not say in full.

The classic fake ‘I’m confused’ question is a well recognised tactic of racists everywhere.

The guy’s a colossal prick, but has been disingenuous enough to (eventually) get away with it.

These types are very very familiar.

SpursFan2 · 08/01/2024 23:33

Horrace · 08/01/2024 23:15

I've always declined this sort of training.
I don't and wouldn't use the word in question.
I don't do this training because I know the difference between wrong and right. I have seen the t content of the training and have found it to be racist. It's not inclusive.
It goes against character.
I'm off to bed. Goodnight vipers

In what way is the content of this kind of training racist? The intention of the training is for people from different cultures and races to learn about each other’s backgrounds and races so that we can all treat each other as we’d like to be treated. That intention is absolutely not racist.

If you mean that the training is racist because it encourages white people to beat themselves up and feel like they’re inferior (this is just my own interpretation and theory, based on criticism I have read of anti racism training), I have to say that I completely disagree.

ComtesseDeSpair · 08/01/2024 23:33

MyCatWoofs · 08/01/2024 23:27

In fairness, he had had one go at finding an appropriate way to descrivbe the word and the course leader encouraged him to be clearer.

Clearer was obviously to say ‘the N word’. To pretend that this man didn’t know that is ridiculous.

With an otherwise clear record, which apparently he had, I am surprised it was dealt with how it was, it seems harsh.

But, he was absolutely wrong to say it and I just can not believe that he didn’t realise that.

Surely the existence of diversity training courses in the first place is reason enough to believe that he might not have known? If everybody apparently already realises exactly what they should and shouldn’t say or do, then why is money being wasted on diversity training courses which nobody needs? Either some people don’t know, hence the recognised need for the training; or the training is a pointless waste of everyone’s time because it’s ridiculous to pretend that it’s teaching anything that isn’t already known.

MyCatWoofs · 08/01/2024 23:34

Whether he meant to be offensive or not we will never know, but it was certainly a win for him in the end getting such a large pay out. And I’m guessing he’s having a little chuckle to himself when he looks at his bank balance. The right outcome in the end I think….

Only if he is a racist and feels he got one over on them.

Personally, I’d be mortified and embarrassed, both by what I did and then saying that white middle aged men are at the bottom for everything. I really do think him saying that shows the sort of person he is.

White men that can’t see their privilege and argue they don’t have any, are never good men!

MCOut · 08/01/2024 23:36

Also, the trainer taking time off, had absolutely nothing to do with this. She worked for an external company, and Lloyds specifically said that this had no bearing on their decision.

It is not up to white people how we should feel hearing that word. It means we are only 3/5 of a person, farm equipment to be physically, sexually and mentally abused. Just think of how half of you kick off hearing Karen and times by a million.

Dyrestraights · 08/01/2024 23:36

Damned if you do say the full word, damned if you don't. I've seen people on Mnet say why don't you use the full word. He had no racist intentions so the judgement was correct. Maybe if the word was banished, full stop, there would be no room for ambiguity. I don't buy the you're not black so you're not entitled to use it. Nobody should be using it if it helps get rid of it. Of course, that's racist to say that. No, it's common sense and progression. There always seems to be a yes, but ...