Husband doesn’t go out much anymore and I’ve been encouraging him to see his friends more.
Yesterday he went out to the football with family (uncle and cousin). Didn’t hear much from him which was fine, but he said he’d be home about 8. When it got to a little after 8, he text to say he’d be home in an hour, strange as the game finished 2 hours prior but fine, trains are not running/strikes etc etc
When he did finally get home, he was pretty drunk and he had driven home. I was fuming at him, so disappointed. He’s done it a few times when we were younger and I told him that if he ever did it again it would be grounds for me to leave him.
I tried to speak to him last night, I mentioned that it would have been nice to be told he’d gone for more drinks after the game (I was stupidly waiting to eat dinner with him, won’t be doing that again) and that he had drunk far too much to drive. He started saying that I’ve gone out before and not text him and rocked up 3 hours later than I said (which I have and apologised for) and that if he’d of got a cab home, I’d be annoyed that he’d have to take my car and it would have been an argument so he just drove back.
I know that drink driving is incredibly selfish, disgusting thing to do. But the way I behaved last night, my husband has it is in his head that “he can’t go out and have fun without it kicking off when he gets home” which is not true. Hes gone to work now and im awake and seething at him still.