Dating... The drudgery of it all 😩

[Sunsetboater]

See attached chat screenshots from Tinder...
Shall I throw this one back or persevere a little longer?
Ok, so I know I'm only on day 5 of texting but using with my own rule of thumb of 'no date mentioned within 3 days', this one is yet another that's just turning into the 'Pen-pal' or even worse will prove to be yet another 'Ghoster'.
He's so cagey 🙄.. I mean, it's one thing to not over-share but he's on a dating site for gawd sake 😅
I'm 59 by the way... I think I need to take 'another' break from internet dating before I give up completely and resign myself to a life of singledom and my rabbit 🤣

I literally have no advice but wanted to say hi, I am in solidarity with you. Online dating is absolutely bloody draining and I keep having to give up on it because it’s like emotional soup. I actually think it’s worse when you first start chatting to someone and you are like, hurrah! Finally! And then nope, they are either weird/ boring/ not interested blah blah blah and repeat 😴😴

If you do go out with him op, please can you report back if he's as dull in real convo as he is on text.
Very nice of you to give him a chance.
On text you're out of his league.

Chatting beyond a very few messages is so pointless. You can connect with someone online and think they tick every box, but have absolutely no attraction when you meet. Equally some of the men I’ve been hugely attracted to in person are rubbish at composing a decent text conversation. You’ve GOT to meet people- get to a meet up stage asap and rule out and move on if needed. I think speed dating events are quite good for this reason, or those city social things where you meet and chat to a lot of people in a short space of time.

That text conversation you’ve screenshot honestly doesn’t mean anything either way- he could be absolutely lovely and right up your street, or he might not be- you can’t tell. Maybe just ask him to meet- why is it his job? When I was OLD I’d have a quick chat to check no massive red flags and then very quickly arrange to meet. Agree with PP it’s a numbers game and similar to a part time job. Good luck!!

Yay well done on asking him out. Keep us posted on his response to you asking him out.

Just unmatched as he's not responded at all. Oh well, swipe on 😅

Married and just browsing is my guess, probably why he was weirdly reticent.

Going forward op, value yourself more.

You were the prize here, not him.

He showed himself to be duller than you, and still you chased.

Ask yourself why.

Well least you got some conclusion from it. Move on and start chatting to someone else.

It's obvious he would have been a damp squib in bed. Onwards and upwards!