To want to drink nice drinks at a party if that’s what I take?

[TempleOfBloom]

We often socialise in groups at each other’s houses. I don’t like Prosecco, and always take Cremant or Cava, or if red something mid range and drinkable.

Then inevitably get poured repeat glasses of the cheapest available Prosecco or nasty mass produced generic red that others have brought.

Can I reasonably manage to open and drink bottles I enjoy, or should I cut my losses and also take cheaper bottles and glug it regardless? (I can do this, I just don’t really enjoy it, so drink a lot less, which is fine)

I’m not talking really expensive connoisseur type bottles that I take, just mid range drinkable.

Have you seen the amount of threads on here though where people are calling their friends and family cf 😂 I can just imagine the thread ‘aibu for being annoyed that my friend gave us a bottle of cheap Prosecco to share at a party, and hoarded a whole bottle of nice cava for herself’? I blame mn for creating most of this paranoia!

I hate prosecco so I've always made it clear at social gatherings and make it a bit of a joke. If someone offers me prosecco or even fizz I just say "I can't drink prosecco I find it gives me a headache,
I'll drink any other fizz though if you've got that?" You can add that you brought cremant or whatever and suggest that's opened if there's nothing else open.

yes , just walk in and say "I cant drink the crap everyone drinks so you can you chill this one and reserve it for me"

😂🤣

All Prosecco genuinely gives me a cracking headache the next day except one. I’d use this excuse but apply it to different kinds of drinks.

I'm with you. You just ask for the one you brought, we all like different things after all. The only sparkling wines I like are actual Champagne, and we aren't going to buy that, or English sparkling wine (m&s specifically - you should try it).

Lol.

You'd be paralysed with indecision if you imagined your life playing out through an aibu lens.

As a host, I'll usually say something like "I've got some prosecco/whatever (insert drink options) on the go here if you would like or I can open the bottle/cans for you that you brought?" and keep it out of the general free for all if so.

I picked grapes one vintage in Australia so learned a long time ago that life really is too short to drink wine you don't like!

Then inevitably get poured repeat glasses of the cheapest available Prosecco or nasty mass produced generic red that others have brought.

Are they holding a gun to your head when they’re pouring it?

I can’t drink Prosecco (funny how I use to down bottles of lambrini as a teen though 😁) and so if it’s offered I decline.

I usually bring a bottle of something to a party anyway and then I end up drinking that.
I know I have to share it and so it doesn’t last long but at least I get to drink something I actually like.

You can always take a hip flask too 😁

I take mini g&ts and say I'm off wine this week.

Maybe bring your bottle and keep it with you, or use a hip flask?

I once brought a good bottle of red to an outdoor event with (wealthier than me) family. Also brought food contribution and paid own entrance. Host’s FIL immediately stuck the good bottle under his chair and, although I asked to try it, kept opening the v cheap and rough bottles.
I didn’t drink much and took my bottle home with me when I left “as no-one wanted it”.

Probably not my finest moment and I was never asked to this event again, but the look on his face was worth it.

YANBU at all. Lots of people do this.

I would take a different hostess gift than alcohol and then your own wine to drink. Say you have problems with sulphates sometimes and you've found researched labels that agree with you.

We stopped taking wine as hostess gifts (God, that sounds so 1950s...) a while ago when we realised that we hated having random bottles of different wine kicking around our cupboard. I now get so many compliments on what we buy. Ditto flowers - they'll already have something nice in.

I just open or ask to have a glass of what I have taken whether alcohol or soft drinks.

I don’t really understand this problem. Are you acting as if it’s a “gift” for the host? If so, they can choose when they open a gift. Maybe you need to make it clearer that you’re bringing your own alcohol for you to consume on the night, so open it yourself, offer it around, pour some glasses, keep it next to you etc instead of waiting to “get poured”. I wouldn’t expect the host to keep tabs on who brought what to pour them their own individual drinks if the expectation is people bring their own bottles - pour that yourself.

Bring it and drink it but don't take it home.

Yes this used to annoy me - I decided that to save my stress levels I would just take bog standard bottles in future and just drink what I was offered even if not my preferred choice. It would have felt rude to demand the drink I'd brought!

but the bottle you take is a present for the host so I don't think it is right to drink that.

No, not necessarily @yikesanotherbooboo. If we were taking a bottle as a gift we would take one for the host and one to drink.

Whenever we have friends round for dinner or we eat at friends' houses it is always a given that wine brought is to be drunk before and/or with the meal.

I find it mad people have pals that they can't just say stuff to or worry about offending them about such miniscule stuff.

I agree @HaddawayAndShite. We only ever go to parties or have dinner with very good friends, and everything is very informal.

It's a bit off to call drinks that others have given you nasty! It's normal for bottles that you bring to be pooled and shared but you can try and keep hold of one of them if you want to. Also there's no reason to accept a glass of Prosecco if you don't like it! It like accepting coffee when you only like tea - you wouldn't do it!

If I'm hosting I'd have decent red and white already open so I'd find it a bit off if someone brought a bottle of wine as a guest and then insisted on opening theirs whilst there was still wine in the open bottles. If you bring a bottle I think it's for the hosts and you should at best expect to share. Obviously if it's a big house party and the fridge etc is a free for all, that's different.

Just turn up with a bottle and say "can we open this please? I'd like to try it - would you?"...

I think this is the best you're going to do.

For fuck's sake don't keep the bottle in a bag by your feet like a PP. 🙄

I'd always take something extra, like a couple of beers alongside wine. I went to a party not so long ago and decided to open the bottle I was taking and had a glass before I went 😁 classy guest me!
If I was hosting I would probably have several bottles on the go and wouldn't remotely mind if someone wanted to drink what they had brought with them. Just do it

Cava is definitely different to prosecco. Cava gives me a headache, prosecco doesn't. I have no idea why this is but it's nothing to do with the amount drunk. Cremant or blanc de blanc is fine too. I prefer cava as it isn't as sweet as prosecco but I avoid it when I can. It's difficult to be fussy at a party sometimes you just have to grin and bear it.

Prosecco is Italian, Cava is Spanish, and both are available from very cheap to very expensive. Other than that it's just a matter of taste.