Deleted after a few years. Am I a terrible person?

[MysticalMagical7]

I was with my ex for 5 years. We ended mutually and respectfully (just fizzled out) and I always think fondly for him. We split up in 2020.

We are not in contact but civil, still friends on social media. Until the other day when I saw him on suggested friends. He absolutely hated his ex (cheated on him) and he’s still friends with her.

I thought he always thought fondly of me too, and turns out he likely hates me which is why he deleted me.

I don’t know why I’ve taken this to heart but I really have? Why would he do this?

Don’t be ridiculous. Far, far more likely is he’s met someone new and she doesn’t like him having exes on social
media.

Honestly, this whole idea that people have nowadays that others “hate” you if they don’t follow you on social media, like your posts often enough, or, the ultimate horror, have different opinions to you, is utterly ridiculous.

Maybe he's just having a social media clearout. No need to take it personally.

Doubt he hates you, there doesn't seem yo be any reason to as you said you ended mutually and were civil. Only thing I can think of is he just wanted to move on once and for all. I've deleted exs etc if I just want to get on with my life once and for all, sometimes they post something that hurt me such as new relationship status and I just don't want to see it anymore or live in the past

Another possibility is that he simply finds it too hard to keep seeing what you post on SM - maybe he still has feelings for you and the time you spent together - not necessarily enough for a relationship to work. My daughter's ex - didn't want to be an ex - they were very respectful towards each other - never had any big falling out - were always good to each other - but ultimately not living their lives in quite the same way with quite the same outlooks and aspirations etc - they stayed in touch for less than a year - but he explained to her that he still found it hard to stay in touch and let her know that was the reason that he was disconnecting from her over SM - no malice - wished her well etc.

Blimey, it's social media - it's not real life and nobody cares. My husband and I don't even follow each other on social media! Just forget about it, OP.

OP, don’t be hurt by all the criticism you’re getting. I can understand how you feel. Sometimes trivial things hit a nerve and hurt far more than seems reasonable.

He was probably just decluttering his contacts. I do that sometimes, with no ill will towards those long-ago acquaintances.

Maybe you’re feeling a bit down at present, a bit of winter blues. Catch up with your real friends and do something fun this weekend!

Why do you need to be friends with him on SM?

I love the drama you’ve created over this.

My ex still has a photo of us as his profile picture on fb!! We only broke up a year ago though ha ha! If you have no contact why would you need to follow each other on social media?? I would most definitely not give it another thought! Move on!