To be annoyed with health visitor

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I had just got baby down for a nap. She's difficult to get to sleep at the moment so was feeling very pleased that she'd gone down for her second one today. I also hadn't eaten anything yet and was looking forward to making and eating lunch in peace.

Five minutes later, health visitor calls and wakes her up. I know they're just doing their job and trying to keep in contact but it felt so frustrating that they just made my day harder. Baby is now fully awake and not settling and I still haven't eaten anything.

The health visitor had even messaged me earlier to ask when a good time to call would be. I hadn't responded as I had a meeting but assumed she wouldn't call until I'd responded.

AIBU to feel upset and annoyed that what is supposed to be an organisation that helps has just made it harder.

Yabu.
She has a job to do. For the well-being of your child. She even tried to arrange a convenient time but you didn't bother to respond. And now you're having to briefly delay your lunch.

You're not the centre of the universe I'm afraid.

Of course she will pop in on her own time if you don’t respond. They have a heavy case load and cannot wait for you to drop a time that is convenient.
i know it feels like the end of the world as you now have a grumpy baby and haven’t eaten, but in the grand scheme of things it really isn’t.

Well that is unlucky, but you are probably not the only person she has to deal with today.

Gentle YABU - she does have a job to do and it was bad timing not intentional. Made something you can eat with one hand, put baby in a bouncer or sling and get on with it.

Early days are tough, you'll get there.

I used to turn off the door bell when DD napped

Annoying but it's sods law.

Why can't you make a sandwich?

To clarify, she called on the phone to tell me about their services. It wasn't an at home visit.

I hadn't responded as I had a meeting

Are you working and trying to look after a baby?

I understand your frustration, but you can't blame the Health Visitor.
She did ask you beforehand when would be a convenient time.

Kindly, it was a phone call that you could have chosen to silence.
You are in for a tough life if you let this sort of thing annoy you.

Just tell the HV you don't require their services. Go to the gp if you have any concerns. My experience of HVs varied from the mildly bonkers to the outright dangerous. I wouldn't have one in the house if I had a baby now.

You’re upset because you got a phone call? Not sure I follow. You can put your phone on silent and either go to another room to answer, make a sandwich whilst on the phone or not answer at all if it doesn’t suit you.

So anyone could ring you at any time and wake the baby? Maybe put the phone on silent or move it to another room so the noise isn't as intrusive?

Sorry OP but I agree with the others, YABU. I understand how frustrating it is when things like this happen but you can't seriously blame the HV. As PP have said, she's just doing her job.

Your Health Visitor should ideally appoint a home visit, however you didn't respond. They will be trying to fit visits in between meetings and dealing with safeguarding cases. They don't know when your baby is asleep.
Have you got a sling to use for sleeps in the daytime? They usually sleep so much better in a sling, and you've got hands free to make your lunch, bonus!

Why not put your phone on silent if its going to disturb sleep?

Bin them off - you don't have to engage with the service.

YABU

Big time

also it was a bloody phone call. Are you joking. Please tell me this is a joke

YABVVVU

Realistically, anyone could’ve called on the phone. Another time maybe just reply to her to suggest a time that works better for you so she’s not chasing you up.

How is the health visitor calling on the phone something to be annoyed about?!
What if you'd received a call from someone else, would have had the same result. People making calls don't have a crystal ball!

YABU. HV has a busy day and even asked when would be a good time. You could have silenced your phone if the ringing would disturb your baby.

You’re being ridiculous.

You are upset and annoyed with the HV simply because they phoned you and you are making a mountain out of it. They did try to help you by texting, you should have replied. If you phone is not on silent anyone who called could have woken the baby.

You know YABU, but we all were at times with a small baby, sleep/food deprivation etc.

She messaged you to ask when would be a good time, you ignored her so she called you? I don't see the issue? Keep your phone on silent or vibrate, literally anyone could have called you. Don't blame the health visitor FFS.