Is Anyone Else Crying In Their Car Today?

Addyview · 2024-01-02T08:19:51+00:00

First day back to work as normal, I worked last week but it was shorter hours and everyone was still in a good mood from Christmas. Today I got up and didn't want to go back to work and leave my family. I don't know if I've got January Blues or if this is my sign that I need a new job but I cried the whole drive to work, must have looked like a mad woman to the next to me when I was sat in traffic. Anyone else having a depressed morning? Any tips to get me through the day without going home with a headache to go join my kids to watch rainy day films?

JoyOdell123 · 02/01/2024 08:20

Get through the day then start job applications

SlightlygrumpyBettyswaitress · 02/01/2024 08:22

I have a note in my diary " you always feel.like this in January".

Thejewellershands · 02/01/2024 08:22

I think it’s normal to feel a bit sad to be going back to work after having a nice time off over Christmas. However, I think for you it sounds a bit extreme so I would take that as a sign that you should look for a new job

Giltedged · 02/01/2024 08:23

I always hate going back in January. In 2022 I was half wanting to test positive for Covid so I didn’t have to go back! It’s generally OK when you get there but it is really hard, I hate it.

SweetFemaleAttitude · 02/01/2024 08:25

I'm back on Thursday and I am dreading it. I want to cry at just the thought of it. I feel sick.

Thing is, my job isn't even that bad, but there is a lot of uncertainty in the workplace at the moment with changes and office moves which I thought I would forget about til after Xmas. Well now it's after Xmas and after the luxury of time off with family, lie ins, lounging around etc it feels hard going back to face whatever it is that's going to happen.

Littletinytarzanswingingfromanosehair · 02/01/2024 08:28

Yes the same.
I'm ready to get out of my new role.

I didn't realise how toxic my work colleagues are xx

Mumoftwo1312 · 02/01/2024 08:30

I've had this in previous jobs but never in my current job. Get a new job, you can do it.

Putyourdamnshoeson · 02/01/2024 08:31

Same. At least I'm working from home. It's a new role, having left a horrible one that made me.very depressed earlier last year. But 6 months in and the cracks are showing, workplace is toxic. Initially thought it was just me, but it definitely isn't.
I hate feeling this way

Shiningstarr · 02/01/2024 08:32

I think a lot of workplaces seem to be like this, toxic that is. I feel like this a lot of the time at my work, except we don't have that Xmas break so I don't think it's as bad.

I just get through each day and if I'm working with someone I'm not that keen on, then I just think of my family and zone out.

I cba with searching and applying for new jobs, who knows if you would be going to an even more toxic workplace?

Princesspollyyy · 02/01/2024 08:32

Putyourdamnshoeson · 02/01/2024 08:31

Same. At least I'm working from home. It's a new role, having left a horrible one that made me.very depressed earlier last year. But 6 months in and the cracks are showing, workplace is toxic. Initially thought it was just me, but it definitely isn't.
I hate feeling this way

I thought working from home would be far less toxic? Is the toxicity through calls and emails then?

Berryberrywintermedley · 02/01/2024 08:33

I love back to normal. Hate December and the Xmas period

Lobelia123 · 02/01/2024 08:34

No, Im looking forward to seeing my colleagues and getting up to date with all the news of their christmases and holidays.....but it helps that I work with cool people in a job I like. It didnt always go like that and for a long time I worked in jobs I really didnt enjoy with people who I actively disliked, but endured because I needed to pay the bills and feed my children. But even then I dont think I ever sat in my car crying or was so emotional that I was concerned what other people in the traffic would be thinking of me. This all sounds like an extreme over reaction.

Putyourdamnshoeson · 02/01/2024 08:35

Princesspollyyy · 02/01/2024 08:32

I thought working from home would be far less toxic? Is the toxicity through calls and emails then?

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I'm working from home today, not every day. We are all in the office regularly

BooseysMom · 02/01/2024 08:36

Supposed to be my first day back but I got another virus over the New Year and am coughing constantly. My sick record is horrendous and HR will be in touch now. But what can I do? I have had one virus after another this winter, and last winter was the same. Could it be the mild weather causing it as there's no frost to kill off the germs?

Putyourdamnshoeson · 02/01/2024 08:37

BooseysMom · 02/01/2024 08:36

Supposed to be my first day back but I got another virus over the New Year and am coughing constantly. My sick record is horrendous and HR will be in touch now. But what can I do? I have had one virus after another this winter, and last winter was the same. Could it be the mild weather causing it as there's no frost to kill off the germs?

Could be, but can honestly recommend vit D every day. We have been really good at taking it this year, and even Petri dish DCs have stayed relatively healthy for a change.

Brefugee · 02/01/2024 08:40

Going back in January is always shit, especially if the DCs are still off, and even more so if DH/DP is off took.

Pre-christmas is all twinkly lights, excitement about the upcoming festivities etc, and then BAM! 2nd January (unless it's a holiday where you are) and reality bites.

I always plan nice food, and to work as few hours as possible, and to have nice lunches to take, etc. But the idea of writing it in your diary for the first day back is good.

If it helps, check what other jobs are around, polish your CV and apply. You never know what might happen. But don't forget that it might just be post-Festive blues, and the grass does often look greener everywhere else.

KvotheTheBloodless · 02/01/2024 08:43

A lot of people feel miserable going back in January - it's such a shit month anyway (AND February) and it feels like there's nothing to look forward to.

Then there's festive weight gain, all the mess of Christmas that still needs clearing up, and DC who don't want to go back to school - it's a perfect storm of misery.

Princesspollyyy · 02/01/2024 08:43

Lobelia123 · 02/01/2024 08:34

No, Im looking forward to seeing my colleagues and getting up to date with all the news of their christmases and holidays.....but it helps that I work with cool people in a job I like. It didnt always go like that and for a long time I worked in jobs I really didnt enjoy with people who I actively disliked, but endured because I needed to pay the bills and feed my children. But even then I dont think I ever sat in my car crying or was so emotional that I was concerned what other people in the traffic would be thinking of me. This all sounds like an extreme over reaction.

An over reaction? Do you work where the OP does? You say youve had a job where you disliked the people and endured them, but how do you know it was the same experience as the OP?

Strange reply

AhBiscuits · 02/01/2024 08:43

My work situation is the best it's been in years and years but I still feel like you, like I'm to cry and throw up.

educatingrati · 02/01/2024 08:44

It's the January blues! An this endless rain and wind doesn't help. Dc and myself back to school / work tomorrow, I even like my job but we're all feeling a bit low. Just need the evenings to start pulling out, the sun to shine, and the snowdrops, primroses and aconites to start poking their little heads above the ground, and all will be well.

Catza · 02/01/2024 08:44

We've had three weeks of rain here and I haven't seen sunshine all through the holidays and it really affects my mood. I am actually looking forward to returning to work today. I am working from home and my colleagues are wonderful so no drama in the workplace at all.
I am considering not taking annual leave over Christmas next year. Last year I worked and felt much better just having two long weekends.

NotDoingOk · 02/01/2024 08:48

I'm in the same boat. The last thing I did before Christmas was apply for a post on a different team within the company. I hadn't quite realised how exhausted I was until I had some time off.

NooNakedJacuzziness · 02/01/2024 08:50

I think we place such huge significance on Christmas in this country. The build up is weeks and weeks in advance, there's bound to be a massive crash when it's over. It almost comes as a shock to a lot of people that it ends. At least it's a shorter week OP - be halfway through by tomorrow.

Letterbix · 02/01/2024 08:51

I am thoroughly miserable. I had 2 weeks off over Christmas and I was really ill the whole time so didn't get to enjoy any of the things I had planned. Back to work today and I've just turned my computer on to find a whole heap of emails complaining at me about something that happened before Christmas so I have to deal with that and my stomach is in knots. It's not even my fault! My son is going back to uni today and I miss him so much. I've got no money and the weather is making me sad.
January sucks 😞

Torchdino · 02/01/2024 08:57

Next year book annual leave for the days before the children are back at school if you can. Part of it I'm sure is knowing they're all home relaxing, once school runs etc kick back in it'll probably feel more normal and less savage. That said of course if you're literally crying the job probably isn't doing you any favours, I'd give it a week then see how you feel and maybe apply for other jobs (lots struggle going back in Jan so I'd give it a bit of time before investing tonnes of time in soul destroying job applications). If you have a partner at home make sure they do you something nice for dinner later so you have something to look forward to!