Is Anyone Else Crying In Their Car Today?

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First day back to work as normal, I worked last week but it was shorter hours and everyone was still in a good mood from Christmas. Today I got up and didn't want to go back to work and leave my family. I don't know if I've got January Blues or if this is my sign that I need a new job but I cried the whole drive to work, must have looked like a mad woman to the next to me when I was sat in traffic. Anyone else having a depressed morning? Any tips to get me through the day without going home with a headache to go join my kids to watch rainy day films?

Hate going back to work in January.
Hate January really.
December is so full of sparkle and so busy and then Bam January.
All the sparkly things gone, no money.
It does get better. ❤️‍🩹
Sure you'll feel better on the drive home.
But no harm in having a look at the available jobs.
Sometimes it helps to have something new to focus on.

Lets face it who wants to be at work when they could be at home in their PJ's in my case cuddling my cats. It sucks.

Oh yes, January is miserable, especially that first week of getting back to normality. I try to remind myself that I feel like this every January and then things improve when the family and I are back in the swing of things. Hopefully it will be the same for you, if you still feel the same in February it might be the job and worth looking elsewhere.

It probably sounds silly but, when I am feeling particularly low, I think about the song 'Do the Next Right Thing' from Frozen 2. Try not to think about tomorrow or the bigger picture right now - just do the next thing you need to do to get you through the day. For example, brush teeth - now I've done that I will get changed, then make a cup of tea and so on. Crying can be part of the next thing you need to do but then maybe some breathing techniques will be next. Just take it a day at a time and a step at a time. Sending the biggest hugs.

I'm looking forward to going back, I like my job. Possibly time to look for a new job, OP.

Aww op. There's sooo many people feeling like this today. Dh was so down today going back to work. He just messaged to say he wish he was at home with us. I'm a sahm with two little ones so we are just going to watch movies and slouch around in pjs today.

Back and already listening into a meeting on line.
Ugh is all I can say

Possibly not listening intently, so will have to go 🤣

Do you hate your job OP?

Many years ago, I had a job that I hated so much, that I would often drive there in the mornings hoping that there had been a flood or fire or something overnight (with no one in the building, obviously!) so I wouldn’t have to work there anymore. Genuinely. I was only in my early 20’s and still living at home at the time, and my parents would not let me leave the job without a new one to start straightaway. I used to spend weekends dreading Monday morning and ended up getting to the stage where was having panic attacks.

Absolutely no job is worth this. If you really do dislike your job, then change it.

I'm retired from full time work and I wish I was returning to work..............I have had enough of the whole Christmas/family stuff. Last year (late 2022) I got a part time job from September to February and it was the best thing ever for me.

I had this last year, when I had an awful class with endless behaviour needs that drained me (teacher). This year I’m ok, but that’s because my class are absolute darlings and I’m looking forward to seeing them again. I’ll miss the two weeks with my girls, but they’re excited about getting back to school/nursery.

Is it just missing the DC, or is there something making you unhappy at work?

It feels like you might need to start the search for a new role.

I love my job, I mostly work from home so I’ve still got access to the stash of cheese and chocolate we’ve accumulated. I’d consider the team I work in to be friends and not just colleagues. We’re creatives so there is an element of fun to what we do and it’s relatively low stress. It was genuinely nice to catch up with everyone in a teams call this morning and I’ve plodded along ok with projects since…

…But with all that being said…

…There was still a part of me that didn’t want to go back today. After 10 days off I’d just got used to a chilled pace of life. Waking up with no alarm, pottering around for a bit before checking in with friends and family to see what everyone is up to. It’s just all been so nice and easy going that I didn’t want to set an alarm and go back to a routine.

This is why I wish we all still stuck to the 12 days of christmas, or even up to candlemas. Yes we have to work through it, but why the hell do we take all the sparkles down at the most depressing time of year??

I really love my job but I’m still sad to go back today. I miss us all being together and had many years as a sahm when the kids were small and used to really enjoy the extra time together after Christmas. I’ve also loved so much time with dh after a busy, stressful year. I know I’m being ridiculous as both of my kids are at an age where they are busy with their own friends so the last thing they want to do is go ice skating or watch movies with me. But I’ve really enjoyed our peaceful time at home together with no alarms and no rushing around and I’m just sad that we won’t get to do it for another year.

For me the second I start to cry thinking about going to work is when I know it’s time to look for something else.

Nothing in life is worth that

I’m sat in work with the anxious pit in my stomach. I don’t want to be here and I want to cry. My job isn’t even that bad!

My first day back is next Monday but I've been off on mat leave for nearly a year! I don't want to go back 😩

I second this. Make a plan to get out

Book a weekend away somewhere so you have something to look forward to - that helps a lot

Missing the point of the thread but is it safe to drive if you are crying?

Thankfully I do t have to do that anymore. But feel your pain. 🙃GL

Hoping the attachment works but I took this screenshot a year ago today as it was so interesting.

For what it's worth, I don't feel like this about my job. I hope you feel better about it soon.

Yes the thought of another year of the same colleagues doing very little work and the other half off sick is depressing. Glad I'm not back until thursday.

This is one of the advantages of working all through Christmas and new year as normal (HCP): no January blues!

I really dont like my job at the moment, I hate going in. But I'm staying put because the benefits make it worth the misery.

Can you make a conscious decision to accept that its shit but its worthwhile for whatever reason? If not then its definitely time look for a new job. In the meantime, try to find a coping strategy to block it out on your downtime.

I feel this way after any holiday, and I love my job and my colleagues! But always have that sinking nervous feeling going back after any holiday longer than a few days. It's fine after the first day or two.