Message from his ex and his reply....

[Newyears24]

Found a message on partners phone from his ex saying "I want you to make me scream".
He replied with a smile emoji. What would you make of this?
Brush it off?
His reply was inappropriate?
He's leading her on? He still has feelings for her?
Or
It was a polite brush off?

This is if she means what I think she means. What would you think she meant by this? I have mind fog and don't know what to make of it all at the moment.

I don't know what to think.
They have no children together. We also don't have any children together.

He's still seeing her unless he's a Freddie Krueger tribute act.

It doesn't sound like a one off, did he tell you about the message or did you find it? I'd feel really upset.

Yeah I’d end it. If they have no children there’s really no need to be in contact still. Not saying it can never work that ex’s stay friends, but there should NOT be any flirting. So disrespectful to you. Leave him and let them work out what they’re up to whilst you find someone who treats you right.

Partner of how long?

when was the message?

How did you just find it?

It wasn't a brush off, polite or otherwise. He showed his approval and this definitely isn't out of the blue.

That would be the end of the relationship for me. No question.

No kids either side. No need for you to stay together. He’s definitely shagging her or wants to.

My immediate thought is they're still at it op sorry

They're still shagging, sorry OP 😒 dump him!

So here’s what my thoughts would be if I were you.

1. It would be a very odd message for someone to send to an ex out of the blue with no other sex chat prior to it. 2) Assuming that somehow this ex got hammered / had a mad moment and really did just send that out if the blue, it should’ve come as a shock to him. 3) So, he either should’ve replied with a ‘what on earth?!’ type comment or told you to read what his nuts ex had just sent. 4) He did neither and sent a smile. So that’s encouragement. 5) he’s kept quiet since.

Something iffy is going on.

She might be thinking ahead to Halloween but I doubt it...

I’d think they are still sleeping together obviously. You decide if you are ok with that.
Polite brush off? How would you come to that conclusion?

I'm sorry. If he isn't already cheating on you, he is keeping the door open to do so. Get rid very quickly and don't look back!

Uh yes he's leading her on! Why is she texting such a provocative message in the first place? She obviously feels there's something still between them, and he's not telling her there isn't!

I’m in the minority here but it could be a polite brush off. She may have sent the message drunk and he doesn’t want to be rude BUT I would definitely want to know the content of previous messages and keep an eye on future messages too.

He shouldn't even be in contact with her.

I really don't see how it could be a brush off. Please don't minimise this to the OP.

Does he know you saw the message? If he didn't I would be tempted to snuggle up and ask him to make you scream.. Watch his reaction.. If he knows what was his reaction to you knowing? Once had a fwb who randomly text me stuff like that without any sort of chat for weeks.. Never from an ex bf though.

I'd be devastated, disgusted and all trust would be gone.
It would be over for me.

Errr… what the hell would prompt that message unless he was already making her scream on the side? In the bloody bin with him. I’d be raging. A smiley face rather than saying ‘Oooh yeah’ doesn’t equate to a lack of response.

I would think it was a polite brush off and wouldn’t give it another thought, but I can see I’m very much in the minority.

You really wouldnt give an ex asking your partner to make them cum scream a "second thought"? Really?

Gosh how naive.

In this scenario, I’m not arsed what the ex feels, because I’m not in a relationship with them - I’m in a relationship with my partner, who has brushed them off politely in the same way I would.

Yeah, not another thought. But we’re all different.

Bit of a random message to receive out of the blue? Theres definitely more behind it. We need more context was it sent at a time when she could have been drunk? Either way if there's no messages before it then it could have been deleted but they clearly talk about this type of stuff. Very odd to send a smiley instead of a confused face or simply a are u okay did u send that to the wrong person? I think they are still snagging tbh probs slept together at some point sorry op. Even if they haven't his reply isn't reasonable if she shoe was on the other foot what do u think he would say to you?

Totally inappropriate OP! I think you probably know that really.