He refuses to move forward with our life in any sort of meaningful way. I say “What shall we do? What do you want to do?” He shrugs “Dunno”. “Can we discuss it and make some plans?”. “No”.
Then he says he needs to do some thinking and planning, he tells everyone that’s what he’s going to do, and I say “Great! Let’s do it!”. But another free period over Christmas goes by and every single day he refuses to actually do it. It’s January yet again and we’re still no further forward. We have no plans, no future. Then I push him and he gets angry and says “Why is it all on me? Why do I have to make a plan? Why can’t you do it?”. So then I say “Fine! Fuck you - I’ll live my own life without you”.
This hasn’t just gone on for a few weeks or months. He’s been refusing to make plans to move forward for over three years now. It’s making me depressed. Time is ticking and our lives are being wasted. The only way for me to move forward and build a future is without him. I feel a bit unreasonable asking for a divorce because he’s stagnant, but it’s making me resentful and angry and depressed because he’s holding me back.