I feel so down tonight

[Stressedafff]

Just that really. I’m struggling a lot with nostalgia, have been for the past year.

Feel sad that Xmas is over. Feel sad that it’s not 2016. Feel sad that it’s not 1999.

Anyone else or am I just going mad?!

No, you're not alone and not going mad, I feel the same way. It's shit isn't it.

No, I do get this way myself and have to give myself a shake and remind myself it's totally pointless to feel down about things I can't change and think about positive things for the future year ahead. Life has been a real slog for so many in recent years so it's easy to look back and yearn for the past.

Was there something specific about 1999 and 2016 that were meaningful for you, OP? Or are you just nostalgic in general?

Yep stuff has definitely gotten shitter. The world has changed drastically in the past decade. It can be hard to adjust if you actually stop and look at it all.

Same 😕 I so miss getting glam and dancing the Year away! I'll be fine tomorrow, if anything full of beans for the Year ahead, but NYE always gets me down.

There wil never be a Christmas like 1984 for me
Others have been great but that was magical. I suffer terribly with nostalgia. I am always just trying to recreate certain times and watch TV and listen to music from that era.

Many hugs.

Same over here. No real reason just reliving the past, my mistakes etc and wondering what it’s all about. I’ll be fine tomorrow. Just waiting for the fireworks to do their thing and then I’ll sleep it off

I genuinely have no idea why I’m so upset 🥴 so sorry to hear you’re all feeling shit too

Big hug OP. I think what you’re feeling is normal but it is something not really spoken about! I suppose it’s not something people ask about too! I feel exactly the same. My mum has been super nostalgic this week! It’s been a shitty few years and multiple people I know have said that 2019 feels like it was another world, a lifetime ago and 2016 feels like the good old days! NYE is always a time for reflection isn’t it, I’ve been having a run down of every NYE since 2010 and feeling sad about all the bad relationships etc I was in across the years on NYE and all the nights where I got drunk and teary

Same here. Been watching The Royale Family again recently and realised how much I missed "simpler" times which is bizarre when we are talking only a couple of decades. It's also made me feel very old! Kids are very young though so does make me worry a bit for them. Also back work on the 2nd and pretty sure I'm going to be made redundant in the next few weeks/months. Worrying times ahead, Christmas was a welcome distraction.

I get exactly what you're saying. Nostalgia can be painful, tear inducing.

I can't wait for NY to be over. Had a horrendous 2023 - have had awful years in the past (2018 was a particularly horrid one) but always looked into the next year with hopefulness, all I feel is fear and pessimism going into 2024.

I feel really down too. It’s been a tough year for
many reasons and I just feel v sad tonight.

The Royle family is lethal nostalgia sad tv. I get a right sick lump in my belly watching it. I live in the past too, I still dress like it’s 2016

Made the mistake of looking at photos of people celebrating the millennium, they all looked so damn happy and carefree.

@Stressedafff please know you are not alone.

I've taken myself off to bed. Not to have a pity party, just cos I’m not a fan of NYE and kinda just want it to be tomorrow.

Hope you sleep well and wake up tomorrow feeling refreshed and inspired by what 2024 may bring.

Wishing you all well.

Me too. I won’t say ‘Happy’ New Year. There is nothing happy atm.
I lost my beloved gran at Easter. Was the family emotional punchbag until her funeral 4 weeks later (as I don’t react), I fainted at said funeral. I have just moved back to my hometown after 10 years overseas. Single. Scared I will never be a mum (I’m 33). Oh and my one dear friend is going to New Zealand for 3 weeks tomorrow. (She has also been in tears as her DH has been very unsupportive over Christmas- without being outing her job makes her extra extra crazy busy at Christmas and he did pretty much nothing to support her).
So yep, agree. It’s rubbish.

I’m so sorry you’re all going through it. It’s such a shit time

I can’t believe how quiet it is out. NYE used to be a big night, you’d hear parties, people coming out to let the new year in. Now I think most people stay in. Nothing feels the same anymore, it’s like big family parties, everything seems so shit and sad

Me too, feeling pretty sorry for myself. We didn't get invited to any parties, just us and kids at home tonight. DH and DD both introverts, I tried to live it up with music and games and they retreated to a quieter room. Other friends all busy, some of them with each other which I found out on FB. Don't have a proper group I'm part of, and really nostalgic for teen years when I was part of a big, close group of friends and would never have been sat feeling lonely on NYE.

I feel the same way, especially being alone at midnight for the first time.

Me too. Being alone at NYE - no partner, no kids, and friends all busy elsewhere - is sh*t. Like someone upthread said, I am just replaying my life wondering where I got it so wrong.

Yup, me too. It’s all a bit rubbish isn’t it. Keep thinking back to younger years when everything seemed so simple, just seem to spend all my time worrying now. Fireworks have stopped so can put dog to bed & go hide

I hate nye and have done for years after lots of shit ones . I'm just glad when it's over. Every year I vow that I'm going to make the next one better and every year I'm too skint to do anything or celebrate, so I worked tonight like every other year and got home just before midnight to dp snoring on the sofa. Hey ho...

I have DD who’s 4 and my mum but I can’t stop thinking now about NYE’s of past. Getting ready, going out, getting drunk, full of excitement. I have recently left what started as an abusive relationship with my daughters dad and I’ve lost all my friends but I feel like I’m grieving for the time I had no kids, no trauma, social life etc.

The world seems like such an awful place at the moment and I hope each and everyone of you get some good news, good opportunities and happiness this year x

It's natural to feel melancholy at times, especially at new year. It is just an arbitrary number though.

4 years ago you didn't have your little girl. While you might not be out partying, there is someone near you for whom you are their absolute world.

Not only that, you are starting the year, having taken steps to make your world a better place.

I wish you luck and good health and a positive 2024. I really hope that in 12 months time, you look back on this year and feel proud.