I feel so down tonight

[Stressedafff]

Just that really. I’m struggling a lot with nostalgia, have been for the past year.

Feel sad that Xmas is over. Feel sad that it’s not 2016. Feel sad that it’s not 1999.

Anyone else or am I just going mad?!

@StripyHorse thank you for your lovely words. Hope 2024 brings you nothing but health, happiness and prosperity x

I so completely relate to this. I watch films and listen to music from just a decade ago and things look so much more carefree and optimistic. I used to get FOMO if I had nothing to do on NY, now I’m not sure I’d remember how to have silly fun any more. Anyway…Happy New Year 😂

Same here, all day really. Trying to think of goals to give me focus but can't really apart from the boring old lose weight.
I find it really hard to live in the moment without the sadness of things lost and things yet to lose intruding.

Yes! Even 2014 seemed a happier time. It’s so crazy how much has shifted. I wonder if it is the pandemic that’s caused it

Sending you all love for 2024

Another one feeling sad. I feel lonely more than anything, single mum at home with my 12 y.o son. I'm 57, overweight (actually no, I'm fat), I have alopecia, and spent the last hour texting happy new year messages to friends and family. My social life is shit, I work full time and have a part-time therapy business (so should be able to deal with this, right?). I just feel worn, old, tired and lonely. I just feel like crying. Tomorrow will be better I'm sure.

Totally relate. 2023 was one of the worst years of my life.

Me too. My life isn’t terrible but Christmas and NY always make me a bit emotional as I think of happier times. This year I have felt particularly flat. Earlier in the day I popped out to do some food shopping and started crying in the supermarket.

Omg don’t I went out earlier and started bloody crying at the Christmas tree in our shopping centre. Just stood looking at it bawling my eyes out 🤣 people must’ve thought wtf

Sorry if this comes off as shitty, but people's feelings are legitimate regardless whether or not other people have it worse. Who are you to tell people how to feel (and possibly make them feel even worse into the bargain?)

I've been watching different films from when I was younger with DS and one in particular, when the song came on during the closing credits, brought about a wave of nostalgia and sadness. I don't even like the song, I guess it just took me back to being 14 and it feeling so close despite being decades ago.

I lost my mam last month too, so naturally you start thinking about being a kid, all the things you did together, the Christmases and the new years. At least all the Christmas ads and marketing is over now, a lot of that relies on nostalgia and the fear you won't make this Christmas as good as all the others you remember.

Maybe when the new year gets underway and regular life kicks in again things will settle down for you OP?

Bit of advise... Don't YouTube old Xmas ads or BBC promos... It may just finish you off

Hopefully 2024 is a better year!

I’ve been feeling rather maudlin this evening.

2023 was the year I was passed over for an internal role that I would have been perfect for. I feel my career has slightly plateaued in recent years and I think I’ll feel better when I’ve got that sense that my career is moving in the right direction again. Another interview in January so fingers-crossed.

NYE 2023 has also highlighted the extent to which my social circle has dwindled in recent years. Expanding my social circle is a priority for 2024.

@SALWARP2023 bore off. People are allowed to be sad without jt being a competition on who's got it worse. But well done you for being a cunt and going out of your way to make someone feel worse than they already did when they posted this thread

Oh god that ship sailed a long time ago 🤣 I was crying at 2003 Xmas adverts back in April, I’ve moved on now, it’s 1998 Argos Catalogues

You should be ashamed of yourself. Knocking someone when they are down is really low.

I was crying at 2003 Xmas adverts back in April, I’ve moved on now, it’s 1998 Argos Catalogues

I know this is a heartfelt thread but this line is hilarious 🤣

YANBU. I had a very rare daytime nap the other day and woke up convinced (for a minute or two) it was 2007 and I was back in my teenage bedroom. My life hasn’t gone at all how I expected, I adore my kids but the nostalgia and longing for certain times and feelings is really painful at times. It all feels within touching distance yet it was years ago now. And yes the world feels different, and not in the way it always used to as time went on.

I'm pretty terrified about the year ahead. COL is getting more and more insane. I think we are going to see a big increase in crimes like burglary.

I also feel like something else is going on with us being warned to get wind up radios and batteries etc in the house.
(Don't come for me, I'm not a crazy conspiracy theorist. Things just feel a bit dicey.)

And then the healthcare system scares me.
Cancers are being missed, I've had two appointments for critical medication cancelled by my GP with no explanation and no warning.
I am 6 months late for that.

It all just feels so bleak and scary and 4 years ago we had a reasonable amount of disposable income... Now, on the same wage I am picking which bills to pay.

It doesn't feel fair and having a bit of a pity party 💗

So nostalgic for about 5-6 years ago.

I get you OP. I think about going back in time to the 90s or noughties at least once a day. Feel so nostalgic. Life was sooooo much better then. Wish I had appreciated it more at the time. The phrase "youth is.wasted on the young" is so true!

I know how you feel , 2003/4 was the best NYE of my life , I was just getting together with dp . We went on the spur of the moment to see the fireworks in London before you needed a ticket . Last night I stayed in .

Oh man the Argos catalogue! That takes me back! I spent many a happy hour poring over that… even looking at the furniture when I was a kid 😂

Not a good post @SALWARP2023. It's not your place to denigrate anyone on feelings they have.

I'm in the unenviable position of losing someone very, very close any day now. 2022 ended in critical care and we hoped and prayed that 2023 would be better. It wasn't, it was worse.

But I think anyone can feel sad about their own situation no matter how meaningless it would be to someone else. And I don't think any the less of them for how THEY feel.

We have been looking back at photos from years gone by and recalling the fun times we had. And wishing we were still there. Trying to push the not-so-good times to the back of our minds.

I hope everyone can have a better 2024.

I used to do this all the time. I used to keep visiting a place where I went on a school trip as a child because there were such happy memories there with past friends etc. Then I stopped and decided to start living in the present and looking to the future. I did this by changing things I was unhappy about. It’s nice to think about past events but it’s not healthy to constantly think of them and to ‘live’ in past times. Have a think about what would make you happier e.g. more friends, a new job, more hobbies etc and try to make changes so that you start to live in the present and look to the future. 💐

It’s very normal to be nostalgic and maudlin over Hogmanay but this morning we have sunshine and blue skies. It’s a new year and the potential for a new start. You can be who you want to be and this can be day one.

The Past always looks rosier because we conveniently forget the bad stuff and worry about the future. Try to find a single thing of beauty in the day and contemplate how that came to be.