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Does anyone else just feel really rubbish today?

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Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 12:39

No new years eve plans. Was meant to be working but shift cancelled yesterday. So cold and rainy outside. Feel like there's nothing to look forward to. Single for years and sick of unreliable men who can't just be straight forward.

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Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 16:19

Must just be me.

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Countessofcrisps · 31/12/2023 16:20

nope, I'm with you too. Single again after a 6 year relationship ended earlier in the year, still heartbroken.

sprigatito · 31/12/2023 16:21

Nah, not just you. I am also in an irrational foul mood today. Grumpy, snappish and sad. I don't know why, but NYE always sets my teeth on edge.

Decimbir · 31/12/2023 16:21

New Year’s Eve is always terrible imo. We put too much hope and significance on it, then if you feel any disappointment about one rubbishy day it feels way more meaningful than it actually is. Do something personal and meaningful like journalling and setting some goals and getting ready for a new year, or just hibernate with chocolate and netflix.

Pussycatmom · 31/12/2023 16:23

Yes, I feel much the same, and haven’t been too nice to DH off the back of it 😅Feel very sad and flat! Not sure if it’s because of the impending week ahead or what …

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Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 16:30

Thanks for your replies everyone. I feel awful :( feel crap about being single, feel crap about online dating. Dreading going to work on Tuesday even though have been in last week. Feeling lonely and crap. Sorry for pity party. Maybe I'll feel better once new years is over and I'm back in a more normal routine.

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BCBird · 31/12/2023 16:30

I don't like NYE. I will be home alone with my sciatica for company. Going to try to make the best of things. Last 2 yesrs have been terrible. Single too.

watcherintherye · 31/12/2023 16:31

It’s strange, but this year NYE feels just like any other ordinary wet, wild January Sunday to me! We’ve never done much for NY. I don’t enjoy parties and am happy snuggling up in the warm and watching TV/a film, especially when the weather’s like it is! NY is hugely overrated imo.

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DustyLee123 · 31/12/2023 16:33

I just want to go back to work, to get back to normality and routine.

SilverGlitterBaubles · 31/12/2023 16:34

I think like Christmas it is the expectation of enforced happiness and that we should be celebrating compounded with everyone else seeming to be having a fabulous time. I prefer to see Christmas and NY as a time to hibernate from the horrible weather, probably the only time of year that I can enjoy a break from rushing around, have nice food, baths, watch tv and read.

Æthelfled · 31/12/2023 16:36

Not just you. I've been snappy and irritable all day. Sick of seeing everyone chatting about their NYE plans and I don't even get so much as a text message back from them! I'm starting 2024 with a completely new slate, writing off all the old dross and putting the people and past where it belongs.

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 31/12/2023 16:40

I always feel a bit crap about NYE. I think the expectation is about prancing about kissing strangers and slurping champagne, watching fireworks while wearing something glam. The reality is more like grotty pub with a load of strangers all looking let down too. Used to have dinner with friends but then you've got two hours of boredom until the chimes and you can go home.
We've given up staying up late. We have a nice meal at the table home, then watch a film, go to bed normal time and wake up next year!

shellyleppard · 31/12/2023 16:41

Nope it's not just you..... everyone on social media is so bloody happy. I'm just like meh roll on bed time 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Whoonearthevenareyou · 31/12/2023 16:47

Roll on bedtime but then can't sleep because of the effing fireworks that go on for hours !

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Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 16:49

Yeah, I'd liked to have gone out for dinner with friends but the few that I have are spending it at home with partners and/or children. Its my 4th single christmas and new year but have probably found this one the hardest yet.

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Countessofcrisps · 31/12/2023 16:56

I don’t hate NYE in general and have done various things over the years including staying in, but I never minded being at home when I had a partner. I think being alone ( apart from kids) is a reminder of what I lost this year.

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Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 17:09

Yeah I wouldn't mind being at home if I had a partner and wasn't alone like every other night.

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lookma · 31/12/2023 17:13

It’s not just you, it’s my 30th birthday today and my own dad, siblings and people I’d say are good friends, haven’t bothered to even send a quick message of happy birthday, so I keep crying on and off, not helped by having ADHD!
I think it’s a time of reflection over the year and you compare yourself to all the glossy highlights people make a big onus about putting online, as well as the pressure to make a huge statement about how 2024 will be amazing, it’s enough to make anyone feel a bit rubbish!

Oatcakesandmarmite · 31/12/2023 17:19

I feel the same too.
massive fomo about everyone else’s plans. Feel my marriage is in tatters too. He’s got flu now too. So I’m alone with my heart hurting. My two teen girls have offered to watch a film with me and have nibbles and fizz. So that will be nice but I still feel so flat and knotted inside

CeriB82 · 31/12/2023 17:24

NYE is a non event. Its another night. Nothing special

DustyLee123 · 31/12/2023 17:25

Some of us with a partner/DH will still feel lonely.
This time last year I had decided to not be in this position now, yet here I still am.

Doughnuting · 31/12/2023 17:27

lookma · 31/12/2023 17:13

It’s not just you, it’s my 30th birthday today and my own dad, siblings and people I’d say are good friends, haven’t bothered to even send a quick message of happy birthday, so I keep crying on and off, not helped by having ADHD!
I think it’s a time of reflection over the year and you compare yourself to all the glossy highlights people make a big onus about putting online, as well as the pressure to make a huge statement about how 2024 will be amazing, it’s enough to make anyone feel a bit rubbish!

Happy 30th Birthday to you, from one random internet, non-glossy person to another. Hope you find some joy this evening. Even if it's making it awake until midnight to see the fireworks on the tv

Touty · 31/12/2023 17:28

Me too I’ve had this wave of depression come over me today, I’ve spent most of the day in bed, I feel like everyone else is out there kicking it up but not me.

MadameCamembert · 31/12/2023 17:33

I burst into tears this morning. The realisation of another year with no commitment from my partner. I got bollocked for it and went for a bath. Things will be changing next year.