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Does anyone else just feel really rubbish today?

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Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 12:39

No new years eve plans. Was meant to be working but shift cancelled yesterday. So cold and rainy outside. Feel like there's nothing to look forward to. Single for years and sick of unreliable men who can't just be straight forward.

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samestyle · 31/12/2023 20:33

I find it creepy, it's another reminder of how quickly life goes by, I've never got excited about it.

InstrumentsofTorture · 31/12/2023 20:39

@TammyJones thank you, and wishing the same for you :).

@Ebokebok I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis and your shit year. Sending vibes for a healthy 2024.

InstrumentsofTorture · 31/12/2023 20:40

Oblomov23 · 31/12/2023 20:32

I feel very miserable. Didn't want to go out. Picking Dh up in a minute. Still in pain from when I broke my back in 4 places, my work got rid of me after 4 years, on Christmas Eve, it was a disgraceful sham / false redundancy crap. My new boss had been bullying me for a month. I feel so shit. The worst I have for years.

Also sending you some (completely useless but well intentioned) positive vibes. Hopefully the crap redundancy will turn out to be a blessing in disguise.

Reflags42 · 31/12/2023 20:50

Yeah i found out my husband was sexting another woman on Xmas morning. We've agreed to try and work through things and give it a shot. Feel physically sick at the idea of going into a new year still reeling from it.

YellowRoses100 · 31/12/2023 20:51

Yep. I feel rough. Just returned from a mini break with DH, but caught Covid.

PrueRamsay · 31/12/2023 21:00

I’m still in my PJs. Have had a dreadful headache all day which is either caused by the amount of sugar I have eaten the past few days, or I am coming down with something.

TV has been shit, but I have read loads and am feeling very relaxed. I never go out NYE as it’s all a bit too much forced jollity for antisocial old me.

@Xmasdread22 I really hope 2024 is good for you, but please don’t be pinning all your hopes on not being single. It can be bloody fantastic!!

Angelucifer · 31/12/2023 21:10

I'm feeling terrible - have been crying most of the evening. Last few years have been hell in my marriage of 20 years - depression, breakdown and emotional abuse from my DH. He's been off work with stress for the last year and has spent all of it acting like a teenager - listening to loud music and lying on the sofa. I've decided that I can't take any more and am going to separate. DH won't move out until next summer and quite frankly I don't know how I'm going to keep my sanity until then. Currently trying to keep my anxiety in check with too much wine, but that's not the answer I know.

Sorry to hear of everyone else's struggles - here's to a much happier 2024 for us all.

Olika · 31/12/2023 21:19

My DD fell asleep 9pm and been thinking of going to sleep since then but for the sake of it trying to watch TV and wait until midnight which is in 40min time here. Am shattered, ill on antibiotics and not feeling it tonight.

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Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 21:29

@PrueRamsay yeah being single can be great but when you've spent the majority of your time on your own for 4 years while all your friends get engaged/move in/get married/have kids, you do wonder occasionally when it'll be your turn.

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Rollon2024 · 31/12/2023 21:32

I’m having an awful day OP. Anxiety and mental health really bad. Struggling so much. Cried in the bath. So tired of looking after everyone and no one thinking of me.

Mariposistaa · 31/12/2023 21:39

Me too. I won’t say ‘Happy’ New Year. There is nothing happy atm.
I lost my beloved gran at Easter. Was the family emotional punchbag until her funeral 4 weeks later (as I don’t react), I fainted at said funeral. I have just moved back to my hometown after 10 years overseas. Single. Scared I will never be a mum (I’m 33). Oh and my one dear friend is going to New Zealand for 3 weeks tomorrow. (She has also been in tears as her DH has been very unsupportive over Christmas- without being outing her job makes her extra extra crazy busy at Christmas and he did pretty much nothing to support her).
So yep, agree. It’s rubbish.

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 31/12/2023 21:41

NYE is like applauding the odometer ticking over in your car. I hate it, another bloody year to get through.

User176386233 · 31/12/2023 22:09

Rollon2024 · 31/12/2023 21:32

I’m having an awful day OP. Anxiety and mental health really bad. Struggling so much. Cried in the bath. So tired of looking after everyone and no one thinking of me.

I understand how this feels and it is completely rubbish! I hope things improve in 2024.

Beetlebumz · 31/12/2023 22:21

Nothing particularly bad has happened, just hate New Year’s Eve. Reminds me of people that have died. Don’t even know why, just always feel sad and maudlin. Try and sleep through it.

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Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 22:53

Considering taking a sleeping pill now so as not to be awake for midnight but already took one last night too. Not a great habit to be in.

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mrswhiplington · 31/12/2023 22:57

lookma · 31/12/2023 17:13

It’s not just you, it’s my 30th birthday today and my own dad, siblings and people I’d say are good friends, haven’t bothered to even send a quick message of happy birthday, so I keep crying on and off, not helped by having ADHD!
I think it’s a time of reflection over the year and you compare yourself to all the glossy highlights people make a big onus about putting online, as well as the pressure to make a huge statement about how 2024 will be amazing, it’s enough to make anyone feel a bit rubbish!

Happy birthday 🎂

lookma · 31/12/2023 23:02

Thank you all for the birthday wishes.
Sending my best to you all for 2024 🍷

QuestionableMouse · 31/12/2023 23:03

Me but it's physical not mental. Pretty sure I have an infected tooth and I'm totally fed up 😔😔😔

mrswhiplington · 31/12/2023 23:03

Ebokebok · 31/12/2023 20:04

I'm having a sleeping pill and an early night. It's been a dog shit of a year. 20 year relationship ended and I was diagnosed with a brain tumour. No family, only a couple of friends and they're all busy. I'm just sat in with the dog. 2023 can fuck right off.

💐

irishapple · 31/12/2023 23:04

I hate NYE - I get such anxiety about leaving the year behind. Irrational! But very real to me. You are not alone in feeling rubbish today x

Fizzadora · 31/12/2023 23:14

Not just you. Married for donkey's years but DH is really getting on my tits. He's not really very well but I have no patience with it and now he's put the kibosh on something I had planned for us for next year because he's so bloody miserable. He's also trying to bully me into buying a more expensive car than I want to (he did this last time too) He thinks he's right and is being helpful then sulks when I pull him up on it.
I can't wait until I can get out in the garden. He's not allowed down there.
I am by myself tonight babysitting for DGD. Better than watching miserable fucking crime dramas on TV.

User135644 · 31/12/2023 23:35

You don't need a man.

2024betterBebetter · 31/12/2023 23:35

I’m hating it too. I feel angry, sad, snappy for no good reason really. Today has really dragged too which hasn’t helped. I hate NYE.

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Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 23:59

@User135644 its not about "needing" a man

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