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Does anyone else just feel really rubbish today?

74 replies

Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 12:39

No new years eve plans. Was meant to be working but shift cancelled yesterday. So cold and rainy outside. Feel like there's nothing to look forward to. Single for years and sick of unreliable men who can't just be straight forward.

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autumn1610 · 31/12/2023 17:41

Not just you. Split with partner of 10 years and I don’t want to see anyone and just want to hide away so I’m not anybody else’s joy thief. First Christmas and new year single and I wish I could have slept through it all. I’m just so miserable and plan to sleep through midnight

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Xmasdread22 · 31/12/2023 18:20

@Touty this is exactly the same as me. Sending hugs.

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garlictwist · 31/12/2023 18:24

I started the day crying in the bath, mainly because I am not where I hoped I'd be health wise at the end of the year. Unfortunately we are having a NYE party tonight so I am having to slap a happy face on. Probably a good thing or I'd still be crying in the bath now....

Proudmum17 · 31/12/2023 18:28

I hate new years always makes me realise all the people who have died and left are definitely gone , I that makes sense. It's sad.

TreesWelliesKnees · 31/12/2023 18:29

MadameCamembert · 31/12/2023 17:33

I burst into tears this morning. The realisation of another year with no commitment from my partner. I got bollocked for it and went for a bath. Things will be changing next year.

You got bollocked by your partner for crying?

Theredfoxfliesatmidnight · 31/12/2023 18:32

lookma · 31/12/2023 17:13

It’s not just you, it’s my 30th birthday today and my own dad, siblings and people I’d say are good friends, haven’t bothered to even send a quick message of happy birthday, so I keep crying on and off, not helped by having ADHD!
I think it’s a time of reflection over the year and you compare yourself to all the glossy highlights people make a big onus about putting online, as well as the pressure to make a huge statement about how 2024 will be amazing, it’s enough to make anyone feel a bit rubbish!

Happy birthday @lookma 🎂🍾🎉 💐 sending you a 30th birthday hug. x

Evaka · 31/12/2023 18:35

MadameCamembert · 31/12/2023 17:33

I burst into tears this morning. The realisation of another year with no commitment from my partner. I got bollocked for it and went for a bath. Things will be changing next year.

Similar feeling here :(

User176386233 · 31/12/2023 18:36

Yeah, like every year I've organised all the Christmas presents, food, entertainment, travel and all I got was whingeing and bickering, nobody else has lifted a finger except for the usual expecting a medal for peeling some carrots. One shit present that I could have ordered off Amazon myself for £15 when I spent hundreds on the ungrateful lot.

I've announced that I will be doing nothing this NYE and if anybody wants drinks, snacks and a nice meal tomorrow they can bloody well get their finger out and organise it themself and wash up themself too. Feel like a servant and had enough. I'm going to sit and do my crochet in peace and stuff what they think.

User176386233 · 31/12/2023 18:37

@lookma another birthday hug and a glass of wine from me!

BCBird · 31/12/2023 18:39
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Happy Birthday lookma

tiredmama23 · 31/12/2023 18:42

DustyLee123 · 31/12/2023 17:25

Some of us with a partner/DH will still feel lonely.
This time last year I had decided to not be in this position now, yet here I still am.

🙁 @DustyLee123

I don't know what situation you're in, but I hope you're OK. It's so true that being in a relationship doesn't mean you don't feel lonely / unhappy x

InstrumentsofTorture · 31/12/2023 18:52

Happy birthday @lookma, I'm sorry your friends and family haven't even bothered to text you. That's shit.

I feel really down too. When I was young, NYE was always a big fun night out. Then when I got married and had dc, we used to often go to my dm's for NYE as it was her birthday. Or we would spend it with 3 other couples who had similar aged dc to us.

Dh died in 2017 and I haven't seen the couples since shortly after his funeral. My dm died in 2020. So now NYE just feels like a reminder of all I've lost and a reminder that my own time is passing swiftly by!

Also my Dd emigrated in July so she's not here and I miss her terribly.

Happy healthy new year to us all.

FerreroFan · 31/12/2023 19:33

If it helps, you could be starting the new year with a partner you hate! Bring single means there is still hope that 2024 brings you true love :)

FerreroFan · 31/12/2023 19:37

@User176386233 I feel inspired by this. Good on you for just saying enough is enough! I hope 2024 brings you more joy (and gratitude from others).

TammyJones · 31/12/2023 19:48

User176386233 · 31/12/2023 18:36

Yeah, like every year I've organised all the Christmas presents, food, entertainment, travel and all I got was whingeing and bickering, nobody else has lifted a finger except for the usual expecting a medal for peeling some carrots. One shit present that I could have ordered off Amazon myself for £15 when I spent hundreds on the ungrateful lot.

I've announced that I will be doing nothing this NYE and if anybody wants drinks, snacks and a nice meal tomorrow they can bloody well get their finger out and organise it themself and wash up themself too. Feel like a servant and had enough. I'm going to sit and do my crochet in peace and stuff what they think.

Go you!

I love doing it all.

But it's very much appreciated and dh always peels / prepares a mountain of carrots and Brussels and does the washing up after Christmas dinner

TammyJones · 31/12/2023 19:50

@InstrumentsofTorture
That's sounds rough.
I hope 2024 brings you joy and peace.

funinthesun19 · 31/12/2023 19:58

I never enjoy new year. I always find it a bit creepy and I can’t explain why.

Ebokebok · 31/12/2023 20:04

I'm having a sleeping pill and an early night. It's been a dog shit of a year. 20 year relationship ended and I was diagnosed with a brain tumour. No family, only a couple of friends and they're all busy. I'm just sat in with the dog. 2023 can fuck right off.

Oatcakesandmarmite · 31/12/2023 20:09

DustyLee123 · 31/12/2023 17:25

Some of us with a partner/DH will still feel lonely.
This time last year I had decided to not be in this position now, yet here I still am.

Are you ok? I agree. It’s the loneliest feeling to be in a room with people and still feel alone. Hard to understand unless you’ve been in that position.
I can empathise hugely with this right now. Feeling very tearful today about it. Lonely yet not alone.

Not turning tv on as don’t want to see the parties. Not on social media either.

Snuggleyou · 31/12/2023 20:10

I’m just thinking of it as a boring Sunday with some bonus fireworks and fog horns at midnight. Not been the same since I give up alcohol 2.5 yrs ago. Just having a nice chill night with dd doggie and food 😁

Potentialmadcatlady · 31/12/2023 20:12

lookma · 31/12/2023 17:13

It’s not just you, it’s my 30th birthday today and my own dad, siblings and people I’d say are good friends, haven’t bothered to even send a quick message of happy birthday, so I keep crying on and off, not helped by having ADHD!
I think it’s a time of reflection over the year and you compare yourself to all the glossy highlights people make a big onus about putting online, as well as the pressure to make a huge statement about how 2024 will be amazing, it’s enough to make anyone feel a bit rubbish!

Happy Birthday from me 💐💐💐🎉🍰🎉

TheSunIsShiningAndTheSkyIsBlue · 31/12/2023 20:18

Its just another day to me, been shopping, cleaning the house, got some music on, now having a nice relax. I am single and thank my lucky stars I'm not stuck with a miserable old git. Relationships are very over rated.

Sausager · 31/12/2023 20:21

@Ebokebok Sending you a very unmumsnetty hug 💐

Perfectlove · 31/12/2023 20:29

@Ebokebok so sorry to hear.

Oblomov23 · 31/12/2023 20:32

I feel very miserable. Didn't want to go out. Picking Dh up in a minute. Still in pain from when I broke my back in 4 places, my work got rid of me after 4 years, on Christmas Eve, it was a disgraceful sham / false redundancy crap. My new boss had been bullying me for a month. I feel so shit. The worst I have for years.

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