AIBU to want my husband to wash the soap off the dishes?

[Mamasharp97]

As title says… he leaves the suds on and doesn’t rinse.
I think that’s disgusting and have asked him before after getting a mouthful of soap.
he's mad at me this morning because he did the washing up and I asked why they were soapy and not rinsed.

aibu?

@Peoplemakemedespair So when you wash your body in the shower, you don't rinse the soap off? Why is that any different?! Do you leave the soap on your car when washing it? On the windows? Why????

People who don’t rinse always seem a bit “protest too much” — they are so unnecessarily insistent that rinsing is a huge faff , that it makes no difference whatsoever, that people who do rinse are neurotic and precious, and so on.

Just finish the job properly fgs. Rinsing takes two seconds. That stuff is going in your mouth.

YANBU
soap is meant to be rinsed off

So just like bacon, and a gazillion other substances. IIRC the trouble with these categorizations is that they say nothing about the quantities needed, and hence, about probable risk.

Wow. Failing to rinse is truly grim.

This.

It's lazy and nasty to let dishes dry with soap on them.

I've been rinsing ever since my brother dated people from all over Europe. They were pretty horrified when I didn't rinse, so I've been rinsing since, and tbh, it does make sense. I find it satisfying any way, like those videos pressure washing a driveway. It's that on a smaller scale.

I miss our one-and-a-half sink, I had a slidey drainer rack... wash up, stack in the rack, slide it over the half sink and rinse off everything in the rack with hot water.

We also had a waste disposal, so could scrape into that half sink, and then rinse down water would be used to run through the waste disposal. Brilliant set up.

I've had to point out to DP that if he must use SO much washing up liquid, he really does have to rinse after. Or yes, food tastes washing up liquidy!

I run a sink of hot water with a squirt of washing-up liquid in. Then I wash up in rough order of cleanish glass and plastics -> dirty glass and plastics -> ceramics -> metals -> pots and pans -> the truly filthy (e.g. roasting trays). Each category goes in the hot water, soaks if needed, any visible food removed with a cloth, then washed/scrubbed with a doped sponge. The thing is dunked back in the same washing-up water to rinse it (unless it's glass/plastics, in which case I sometimes just half-fill the sink, leaving room for the hot rinsing water to fill it the rest of the way before washing other stuff). If the water cools too much or gets really grubby, I replace it.

I'm sure it's revolting to many rinsers, but I've never tasted soap and never had food poisoning, so meh — grim, lazy and nasty it is

Dunked in the same filthy water to rinse it???

Yup. And I'm still alive

It’s not filthy while you are washing glasses that contained squash or water. Then you put the cutlery in to soak and move on to cups and mugs- still not filthy and still really hot.
cutlery out and then it does start to get less clean, depending how well you scraped the plates first.

Re the rinsing soap off in a shower, it’s more comparable to having a bath. Do you shower after you’ve had a bath? I soak in bubble bath/bathoil, then stand up and get out and get dry. I don’t get in the shower…

I see washing dishes under running water as a shocking waste of water- and heat. Possibly more understandable if it’s cold water, but that’s not hygienic either.

Actually I’ve seen people in Asia so washing up under running cold water, with oodles of washing up liquid. If you did that you’d definitely need to rinse. I’m sure hot water leaves the dishes cleaner.

Until a few weeks ago I didn't have a shower at all (have now fitted a combination bath tap thingy). Presumably I should've been running myself a fresh bath after my bath, to rinse off the bath.

Not rinsing is disgusting 🤢

How much water do you use rinsing though?

I don't know anyone that rinses erm ye can't say I've heard anyone complain about fairy liquid bubbles in there gravy lol..

i have never rinsed. i think it is a modern phenomenon.

i think rinsing is an american invention.

although i am certain there will be disagreements about this

do you rinse yourself after having a bubble bath?

Tbh there can't be all that much washing-up liquid left behind on dishes rinsed only in the ✨filthy✨ used washing-up water. My partner's sensitive to SLS, to the point where he uses SLS-free toothpaste to avoid mouth sores as well as SLS-free shower gel, shampoo, and washing-up liquid. But he has no reaction to eating and drinking from crockery I've washed in Fairy (which is a total SLS-fest — I've tried his hippie washing-up liquid and I don't rate it).

If my dishes look, feel and smell clean, don't taste tainted, and don't make me or anyone else ill, then 🤷🏻 I can live with a little invisible grime. I might as well save myself a bit of time, effort and money, and keep being lazy, filthy and grim

Yanbu. He should rinse in clean water.

I think it's from the past when hot water was a valuable thing and you didn't waste it. I was brought up not to rinse - you put the hot, occasionally, soapy dishes hot onto the drainer (which held them upright to drain) and you or someone else dried with a teatowel. The heat of the hot water dried the plates pretty nearly, If you run cold water over them they are cold and don't dry.
You wore rubber gloves so the water was v hot.
Countries that didn't rinse were probably hotter countries. Hot water wasn't so precious.
Nowadays I rinse a bit but it's a pretty quick rinse and I have a dishwasher.

But leaving a few bubbles isn't leaving much imv - they are 99% air and a tiny amount of water with a tinier bit of detergent in. Not an issue imv.

We always rinse here but I'm completely confused as to how you got a mouthful of soap?

Don't rinse in my family. I can see the logic and have tried to occasionally but it seems so wasteful. I assume you rinse each thing under a running tap? I rinse occasional items if I think they need it. I change the washing up water mid washing if it needs it. I was brought up with a washing up bowl, ditched it for years which I liked, then with COL reintroduced a small joseph joseph one and like to have the option and feel I'm wasting a lot less water. I agree with pp about marital harmony is letting each other do things their way (within reason) because usually there usnt just one way.

My DH doesn't rinse and I can see the film of soap on top of water when it's added to glasses/cups. He agrees this happens so his system is after he takes a 'clean' glass out of the cupboard he rinses it with water from the tap before using it 🤦‍♀️.