To think this is cheeky ?

Grapefruitstars · 2023-12-30T21:10:03+00:00

School mum I know vaguely as our kids are friendly. We went out once and I mentioned I could get a reduction on tjr food due to my job. Now she's texting asking me for voucher codes for shops etc. I've ignored her.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 30/12/2023 21:12

Why not reply and say they’re not transferable codes.

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Grapefruitstars · 30/12/2023 21:12

I think she knows they are!

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ohmygolli · 30/12/2023 22:00

YANBU. some people… the audacity…
good on you for ignoring her.

ChocolateTVandbaby · 30/12/2023 22:05

it is cheeky

EvilElsa · 30/12/2023 22:12

Block the messages or send to your spam box. She's barely a friend, just someone you know a bit from school, don't feel bad about it.

Christmaslights21 · 30/12/2023 22:31

Dunno what I think. The codes are transferable-so does that mean you won’t get in trouble with your job for sharing them? Is there a limit on the discount you can get? Need more info to decide. She may be skint and desperate, I can’t judge anyone for that.

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 30/12/2023 22:34

Maybe she’s struggling to afford food and desperate. If you can’t give them to her just tell her that.

autienotnaughty · 30/12/2023 22:44

Why did you tell her? Could she have thought you were telling her because you were willing to share the codes?

tescocreditcard · 30/12/2023 22:47

What are tjr foods

squidgybits · 30/12/2023 23:18

why did you mention it?

Kalevala · 30/12/2023 23:21

tescocreditcard · 30/12/2023 22:47

What are tjr foods

It's fat fingers for 'the'

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Grapefruitstars · 31/12/2023 09:00

Fat fingers lol
Basically as part of my job I get discounts on restaurants, shops etc. We went out once with the kids and I got us 20pc off the dinner. I won't be penalised for giving her the codes but I just don't want too! Lol.

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KaySararSarar · 31/12/2023 09:13

I had this as I used to get 10 free tickets for something a year, I found my friends never asked it was always people I barely knew, I put a stop to it when it was my aunties friends family I’d never spoken to and they’d want to come round, have cups of tea and for me to do all the work booking on line for them etc. Genuine CF!

I did it twice and the next time they asked I said no I don’t have any left for the year now, they were actually affronted and asked who I’d given them to 🤣😂🤣 Never again!

LumpyPumpkin · 31/12/2023 09:14

If you're allowed to share codes, why don't you want to? That seems a really odd thing to me.

ManateeFair · 31/12/2023 09:22

Grapefruitstars · 31/12/2023 09:00

Fat fingers lol
Basically as part of my job I get discounts on restaurants, shops etc. We went out once with the kids and I got us 20pc off the dinner. I won't be penalised for giving her the codes but I just don't want too! Lol.

I think if you know someone well enough to go out for a meal with them and their kids, it’s a bit weird to resent giving them a voucher code that you’re allowed to share with people.

Genericusername3 · 31/12/2023 09:25

Grapefruitstars · 31/12/2023 09:00

Fat fingers lol
Basically as part of my job I get discounts on restaurants, shops etc. We went out once with the kids and I got us 20pc off the dinner. I won't be penalised for giving her the codes but I just don't want too! Lol.

I’m not saying you should give her the codes, but I’m wondering what is your reasoning for not wanting to?

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Grapefruitstars · 31/12/2023 10:12

Because I feel taken advantage of really. She doesn't do my job so shouldn't have the perks.

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Grapefruitstars · 31/12/2023 10:13

I wouldn't ask someone for codes. Before I had this perk and other people didn't I wouldn't ask. I don't really want her to have codes off me.

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TheGoodTypeOfLoser · 31/12/2023 10:13

Grapefruitstars · 31/12/2023 10:12

Because I feel taken advantage of really. She doesn't do my job so shouldn't have the perks.

You sound lovely 🙄

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Grapefruitstars · 31/12/2023 10:14

I am lovely. Thanks. I find it cheeky and don't like to be asked for codes. I think it's cheeky.

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ChocolateTVandbaby · 31/12/2023 10:15

OP you are not obligated to share

you seem to barely know her so I think it's perfectly acceptable to ignore and maybe she won't ask again

if I was friendly with her I'd probably share

Gogodonu · 31/12/2023 10:16

Are you talking about blue light discount?

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Grapefruitstars · 31/12/2023 10:17

Gogodonu · 31/12/2023 10:16

Are you talking about blue light discount?

Yep

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KinS24 · 31/12/2023 10:20

Is Blue Light worth it? I have had the card for years but never think to use it.

Genericusername3 · 31/12/2023 10:20

Grapefruitstars · 31/12/2023 10:12

Because I feel taken advantage of really. She doesn't do my job so shouldn't have the perks.

I can understand, for example a friend of mine works at a well known retailer and gets discount with their services and I don’t ask for her discount code. Equally I get discount in other areas and she hasn’t asked for mine. I have on the odd occasion offered discount to people I know depending on the situation.

Can I ask what area you work in? I work in quite a demanding role so I do understand your perspective. And I wouldn’t want people taking advantage of me just for discount.

But equally with not knowing the financial situation of this person (who you sound relatively friendly with) or what happened when you went out to eat (she may have got the impression you were happy to let others use the discount), it’s hard to know. She could also just be a CF and if someone asked me for my code and I thought that was the case I’d be hesitant too.

I think ultimately if you’re not comfortable letting anyone use your code you could just say something along the lines of “I’m happy to use the code when we go out to eat but I don’t even really share it with family as the code is associated with my workplace, so sorry, hope you understand”