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To think this is cheeky ?

78 replies

Grapefruitstars · 30/12/2023 21:10

School mum I know vaguely as our kids are friendly. We went out once and I mentioned I could get a reduction on tjr food due to my job. Now she's texting asking me for voucher codes for shops etc. I've ignored her.

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C1N1C · 31/12/2023 11:23

Sooo... you show off that you get perks and then are surprised when someone asks if they might be able to get them too???

I wouldn't call that cheeky, I'd call that 'having connections'. It's like saying someone dumped on you 50 cakes after an office party... yes, you work at the office, but does it actually hurt you to spread the wealth? The result for you is the same, but this time you've made a friend and are owed a favour.

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 31/12/2023 11:25

C1N1C · 31/12/2023 11:23

Sooo... you show off that you get perks and then are surprised when someone asks if they might be able to get them too???

I wouldn't call that cheeky, I'd call that 'having connections'. It's like saying someone dumped on you 50 cakes after an office party... yes, you work at the office, but does it actually hurt you to spread the wealth? The result for you is the same, but this time you've made a friend and are owed a favour.

Wow!

How very bitter of you!

mottytotty · 31/12/2023 11:26

She’s very cheeky. Definitely say no, she will message constantly if you agree.

Slitheringheights · 31/12/2023 11:28

That happens to me, I work for a footwear company. Get a big discount. This mum who stays in the next street whom my son sometimes played with her son,kept messaging me for discount codes. I done it a few times, but I only get so many a year. So at Halloween she came guising to my door with a load of other mums from her kids school and didn’t even say hello. Then later that night walked right past me. So the next time she messaged for a code, she was ignored. Cheeky bugger

mottytotty · 31/12/2023 11:31

Slitheringheights · 31/12/2023 11:28

That happens to me, I work for a footwear company. Get a big discount. This mum who stays in the next street whom my son sometimes played with her son,kept messaging me for discount codes. I done it a few times, but I only get so many a year. So at Halloween she came guising to my door with a load of other mums from her kids school and didn’t even say hello. Then later that night walked right past me. So the next time she messaged for a code, she was ignored. Cheeky bugger

Glad you ignored her, the cheeky cow. I can never work out if these CFs are arrogant or just plain thick for ignoring someone they want favours from. Or maybe both?!

C1N1C · 31/12/2023 11:48

@SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth

By suggesting sharing? Yes, I'm a monster.

If I worked at Harrods, and I got 30% off (say), and a code/voucher that could be shared with friends/family... to tell people about it and NOT share it is absolutely miserly. It's the equivalent of eating a chocolate cake in front of your children and saying they can't have it. Yes, you've earned it, but if you're not going to eat it all, why not share? If you've got no plans on sharing, don't mention it, or eat it in front of them?! That's a big fat ner ner, I'm going to eat this in front of you spite thing.

Slitheringheights · 31/12/2023 11:50

mottytotty · Today 11:31
Rude and thick this women is plus a complete user. I must have saved her a fortune with her sons 150 quid trainers. A few times a year. Plus her other son too. I was actually quite hurt when she gushed right past me at Halloween, I mean I could understand if I was in disguise but I wasn’t. She’s one of these women who thinks she’s owed everything free.

Islandermummy · 31/12/2023 12:02

I don't think OP is being unreasonable to not want to share. If everyone dished out their codes to vague acquaintances, presumably the system would be stopped because people were abusing it. Then no one would get it!

Would be different if you all went together to something and you used the code on the group bill.

I think it's fine to say, "no sorry, I think they are only supposed to be used if you've got ID to show you work as [x]" On the other hand, maybe the person is really struggling so maybe try not to judge her too harshly...

Goinoutalone · 31/12/2023 12:06

If you don’t want to be asked to share then stop bragging about it @Grapefruitstars it’s very simple.

Youtoldmeonce · 31/12/2023 12:36

I can’t believe some of the comments OP is getting-she wasn’t showing off or bragging, she kindly got discount at a restaurant with another family on a one off meal.
I have a Blue Light card which I applied and paid for due to my job.
I’m not a student so I wouldn’t expect someone I know who is to give me discount codes, I don’t work at Asda but have friends who do and would never dream of asking for their discount.

Topofthemountain · 31/12/2023 12:50

Both are being ridiculous. The friend is cheeky asking for a code, but the op is talking about it like it is some highly exclusive perk.

Just tell her that the t&c state codes shouldn't be shared.

Noshowlomo · 31/12/2023 13:44

OP is not in the wrong and the other woman is a CF.
It’s not braggy to use a discount at a meal that the OP would benefit from and use it. It’s grabby to then ask for it when OP isn’t with her.
As for “if you know them well enough to eat out with them”, I’ve eaten out with my son’s friends mothers when we’ve gone on play dates. They’re nice enough women, seem lovely actually, lots of talk about jobs and the kids but I don’t feel I know them amazingly well even though we’ve had 2 meals out (with the kids!), and certainly not well enough to be grabby. One has got a caravan and I wouldn’t dream of asking to use it just because I know her a bit. Grabby grabby grabby

Motnight · 31/12/2023 14:05

tescocreditcard · 31/12/2023 10:26

She is cheeky for asking though. I mean, it's part of your pay, part of your pay package.

It's like if your employer gives you an extra 2% into your pension and someone asks if they can have 1% of it lol. Yeah it's cheeky. It's part of your pay and it belongs to you.

It's not part of your pay at all. It's a card that you apply and pay for.

BlackberrySky · 31/12/2023 14:11

Yeah, it's a bit cheeky if you haven't really seen her since the time you used it with her. My DH gets discounts on certain electronics with his job, but it's a bit of a faff, has to be delivered to his office etc. We have occasionally done it for big ticket items for good friends as it adds up to a sizeable amount if you're spending a lot. A guy I work with but am not socially friends with got to find out, and kept asking me to get it for him for a few power cables and a laptop case!

Christmaslights21 · 31/12/2023 14:25

So petty OP. Just give her them.

baileybrosbuildingandloan · 31/12/2023 14:41

Please don't share with non blue light staff. If too many did they will remove the privilege.

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 31/12/2023 14:51

C1N1C · 31/12/2023 11:48

@SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth

By suggesting sharing? Yes, I'm a monster.

If I worked at Harrods, and I got 30% off (say), and a code/voucher that could be shared with friends/family... to tell people about it and NOT share it is absolutely miserly. It's the equivalent of eating a chocolate cake in front of your children and saying they can't have it. Yes, you've earned it, but if you're not going to eat it all, why not share? If you've got no plans on sharing, don't mention it, or eat it in front of them?! That's a big fat ner ner, I'm going to eat this in front of you spite thing.

Read yourself back

That COULD be shared. OP wasn't sure and has since been told that her codes cannot be.

And again... You said you would offer. Which OP DID when they were out eating together

You should try more logic and less angry entitlement.

Tilllly · 31/12/2023 14:55

Dibbydoos · 31/12/2023 10:39

@Grapefruitstars it's massively cheeky and OOO.
The idea behind blue light, service and teachers discounts etc is to give those workers something back. I support you in not sharing the code x

Agree

IAmAnIdiot123 · 31/12/2023 15:05

I've never even thought to ask my own mother for her blue light discount! Missing a trick clearly.

Greenpolkadot · 31/12/2023 15:08

Cant you just say that youv passed them onto friends?

Ponoka7 · 31/12/2023 15:14

My Dd's are always asking why I'm not asking for their BL/NHS codes. If I knew that they wasn't doing anything and could get me one easily, I might. I think outside of family/best friend it's cheeky to ask. If they start getting taken advantage of, they'll be stopped.

Round3HereWeGo · 31/12/2023 15:19

Its cheeky af.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 31/12/2023 16:18

BLC are not transferable so shouldn't be shared anyway
This is stated under the t&c when you apply..

Fraaahnces · 31/12/2023 16:23

Tell her it’s inappropriate to use them unless you’re there. Then make sure you’re not.